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Stealthing: A Disgusting and Dangerous New Trend

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Imagine enjoying a romantic night out with your date; you make it back home and things are getting hot and heavy. You both are ready to take it to the next level and also agree to use a condom. In the middle of having sex, you notice the condom has gone missing and is nowhere to be found and you start to panic. What do you do? What are you thinking?

This latest bedroom trend has nothing to do with anything sexy and is the least bit romantic. In fact, it’s disgusting, a violation of an individual’s rights and downright sickening. This disturbing trend is called, ‘stealthing’ and it’s when a man secretly removes his condom in the middle of sex, unbeknownst to his sex partner. This heinous act is most definitely a form of sexual assault but what’s even more troubling? There’s an online community that encourages this behavior as a way to ‘spread one’s seed’ and there are more members of this group than one could ever imagine.

Rebecca, a doctoral student who works for a rape crisis hotline began to notice an influx of calls about being ‘stealthed.’ Most of these victims have no desire to report it as many are embarrassed and ashamed to even talk about it. Rebecca, who is also a victim of ‘stealthing,’ could relate to this despicable act and has dedicated her life to making it illegal.

This dangerous act not only leaves women vulnerable to unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases, but it also causes emotional distress because it is, indeed, a violation. There aren’t any laws that make ‘stealthing’ illegal at the moment, but lead author of “Rape-Adjacent’: Imagining Legal Responses to Nonconsensual Condom Removal,” Alexandra Brodsky hopes to introduce a new statute for addressing the issue and protecting women who fall victim to this because it is a form of rape. She writes: “Such condom removal, popularly known as “stealthing,” can be understood to transform consensual sex into nonconsensual sex by one of two theories, one of which poses a risk of over-criminalization by demanding complete transparency about reproductive capacity and sexually transmitted infections.”

This past January, a Swiss court convicted a man of rape after taking his condom off without his partner’s permission. Hopefully, other countries follow suit sooner than later.



Tousignant, Lauren. “‘Stealthing’ Is the Newest Dangerous Sex Trend.” New York Post. N.p., 27 Apr. 2017. Web. 01 May 2017.

Brodsky, Alexandra. “‘Rape-Adjacent’: Imagining Legal Responses to Nonconsensual Condom Removal.” By Alexandra Brodsky: SSRN. N.p., 20 Apr. 2017. Web. 01 May 2017.

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