How to Deal With a Suicidal Spouse
BY SUSAN JOHNES
The biggest blow in a relationship occurs when the death of a spouse occurs by suicide. It mostly happens to ladies who are left behind wondering what pushed their happy and contented husband to end their lives.
However, you should always look for the signs below which can tell that your partner is almost engaging in the reckless act:
Unusual high spirits
It is one of the most confusing symptoms of someone who finally decides to end their life. They become much calmer, relaxed, and even happier just before carrying out their suicide act. They believe that they have found the perfect solution.
Depression is the most common sign and the leading cause of suicide. A spouse turns suicidal when the state of depression has spiraled into a severe and pervasive sense of suffering and belief. They conclude, “S/he will be better off without me after the pain of existence becomes too much to bear and their state of depression.
In many instances, the individuals will tend to lose their conscious and subconscious sense of self-preservation. They will be filled with self-hatred, shame, and self-degradation. The spouse engages in high doses of the drug and might end up swallowing poison.
If you have noticed these warning signs in your spouse’ life, as parents, our first instinct is to panic and wonder what we did wrong.
Don’t overreact, but if you do overreact, you can always repair the situation. Most importantly, don’t wait. Act on your feelings and get a professional who can assess the risk. You can seek the professional advice together with your spouse since it’s a family matter.
It is important to develop relationship modeling self-care if you are going to deal with the situation. Couples need to work through their range of emotions such as guilt, shame, anger, and shock.
As a couple in a relationship, you need to strive to be empathetic and sympathetic, and ready to listen at any moment, day or night.
Be honest with your partner, but never hurtful. It is okay to share your feelings in a concerned and constructive way.” Your spouse needs to realize and internalize, the feelings that they are not alone during this crucial time.
Your partner needs to emerge from feelings of isolation into the world full of supportive resources and love.
Providing support, getting help and holding onto hope are the only ways for your family and your spouse to get through this situation.