Understanding Jealousy in a Relationship
By Susan Johnes
Even though it becomes hard to control jealousy, it is a normal emotion that occurs in a romantic relationship. However, the condition can occur between siblings, among family members, in friendships, and professional relationships.
Scientists argue that a standard amount of jealousy is healthy if well managed since it can help a couple to appreciate each other and add the passion of a relationship.
What are the signs of Jealousy?
You might experience a feeling of threat to the relationship that you value most. It makes you feel angry and anxious leading to over-sensitivity and possessiveness.
Disadvantages of Jealousy in a Relationship
Effects on your health
Intense feelings of jealousy can affect your health leading to symptoms such as sleeping problems and a poor appetite. Similarly, you might experience anxiety, exhaustion, and an increased heart rate which finally results in depression.
It negatively affects your relationship if you perceive a mistaken identity against your partner. It hurts your loving partner, draining them emotionally thus developing a feeling anxiousness. Relationships end because of conflicts that result from jealous. On extreme cases, people kill each other because of jealousy.
Jealousy increases your worry
You develop a feeling that your partner might have found someone else more appealing and the fear of rejection grows. Thus, it keeps you away from surprises. Besides, it forces your partner to give up interests elsewhere.
How Do You Deal With Jealousy?
1. Talk to your partner
The step remains practical and active towards overcoming your jealousy. Let your partner know your feelings and worries. Avoid the blame game and develop an open atmosphere for a dialog. For example, you can visit a park or arrange a meeting in a restaurant which are likely calm places.
2. Try to be objective by engaging in some investigations.
Sometimes, your feelings of jealousy might not be genuine. Before you start attacking your partner, try to discern your objective in the situation. Stop trusting your imagination so much that you become angry and upset or frightened without having any evidence of what you imagined.
3. Stop comparing yourself to others
You are aware that low self-esteem drives jealousy. People with arrogance issues experience intense jealousy as well because they tend to feel like always being the center of things. Thus, they value their material property and are mean when socializing with other people.
4. Seek counseling
A counselor helps you understand the origin of your problem and explains what triggers them. The therapist will elaborate more about jealousy and the relationship overall, thus, making you accept uncertainty as part of your relationship. Then, you will understand the cause of your jealousy and deal with it on a day-to-day basis.
Read more about ways of controlling jealousy here.