Activist Amber Amour Live-Blogged Her Personal Rape Encounter To Encourage Other Victims to Share Their Stories
By Victor Ochieng
Most people wouldn’t want to share images of themselves at their lowest emotional moment. However, for Amber Amour, an activist, she had the strength and conviction to take a picture of her own sexual assault experience and share it on Instagram.
The young woman says that she wanted to encourage other people who undergo sexual violence to come out and speak up.
Amour went through the ordeal in South Africa when she visited the country with friends. While in her hostel, a man attacked and sexually assaulted her.
Understanding the consequences, Amour decided to post her experience on Instagram, going as far as providing details of the attack.
The post’s caption says that she was attacked by a South African man who took advantage of her when she accepted his invitation to share his hot shower since hers was cold and she’d been sick for two consecutive days.
The man, allegedly called Shakir, talked her into joining him to take a hot shower only to end up raping her.
“Shakir followed me upstairs and said he was going to take a shower. He invited me to join. I said yes because the water at my current hostel is pretty cold and after 2 days of being sick, I just really wanted a hot shower. As soon as I got in the bathroom, he forced me to my knees. I said ‘stop!’ but he just got more violent. He lifted me up and put his p***s in my va***a.” – her post read in part.
She continued saying, “I asked him to stop, again, as I began to cry. When he shoved it in my a**, that’s when I passed out. I woke up a few minutes later and saw him trying to creep out the door. When he saw that I was awake, he came back to finish me off in the shower. I have all those fu**ed up feelings that we get after rape…shame, disgust, suffering. I’m here, alone, and any DNA has been wiped away in the shower. The South African police will just roll their eyes when I walk in.”
She later made some follow up posts, confirming that she was actually on her way to hospital for a professional medical check-up.
Amour later made an IG post of three “Angel Cards” captioned as: “Dealing with cops is tough and the rape kit is the last thing I want– tools and metal instruments and combs all up in my private parts…. But this is what I stand for. I tell you guys to speak up every single day and I know that I need to practise what I preach.”
Ironically, the 27-year-old New York native was in South Africa in promotion of her Stop Rape. Educate campaign, a campaign she launched after she was attacked in New York.
She further made update posts on her experiences, including an image showing a “rape kit” and herself, while lying down for professional medical check-up.
Her decision to share her story didn’t go down well with many. Some questioned why she chose to take pictures and post them on social media instead of first contacting the authorities, rushing to hospital, or contacting relatives.
On her part, she says she felt it was important for her to share her experience.
“I immediately knew that I couldn’t keep what had happened a secret,” she said.
Amour later revealed through a Facebook post that the assailant had been arrested by officers and that the case is set to continue on March 29th.