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DUFF: Designated Ugly Fat Friend – Do you have one?

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By Angela L. Braden

In an article published on Madame Noire, Brooke Dean asks, “Are you the Designated Ugly Fat Friend?”

When I initially read the question, the first thing that came to mind was, “Absolutely not.”  The second thing that came to my mind was, “Who would ask such a question and why?”  So, I took a deep breath and started reading the article.  I quickly learned that a DUFF, aka the ‘Designated Ugly Fat Friend’ is a comedy that’s set to premier on the big screen.  I should have known…more Hollywood nonsense.

Dean not only informed me of what a DUFF was, but she pointed out that in the new movie, teenage girls coined it and use it as a practice of picking friends.  But like Dean pondered in her article, I wondered if adult women would be silly enough to designate friends based on certain characteristics like body size, skin color, beauty, height, personality, and professional background.

I have a very eclectic group of friends.  One is shorter than me, which says a lot, being that I’m only 5’1.  Another friend is strikingly tall and statuesque.  One is light, bright, and darn near white, while another is a hot chocolate brown.  One friend is funny as all get out, and one actually doesn’t have a comedic bone in her body.  A couple friends have bundles of foreign hair sewn in their heads.  And there’s one that has never had a weave in her life and would never consider it.  One friend works in New York City at an amazing entertainment company.  And another friend is a stay-at-home wife and mother.

But with all those differences, the one thing that all of these sistas have in common is that they are absolutely beautiful on the inside!  They are delightful to be around.  And they are the most caring, compassionate group of women I know.  I would actually have it no other way.

So, absolutely not. I don’t have a Designated Ugly Fat Friend!  And I know for a fact that I’m no one’s Designated Ugly Fat Friend.

What I do have are Designated Unmistakably Fabulous Friends!  So, yeah, I guess I do have a few DUFFs in my life.







  1. J C

    February 19, 2015 at 7:55 pm

    Well it’s NOT a total waste of time….it’s just looking at our habits of choosing friends or people in our circle and how they are valued to us or a group. I’m part of a motley crew made up of (black,latina,Italian,regular city/suburban white)women from different cultural backgrounds–working class. FOR EXAMPLE, some women DO choose friends based on looks,size,interest,etc. due to not wanting to compete for attention or what the person can bring to the group. I’m just saying….

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