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Being Single is Not a Curse; Marrying Yourself Doesn’t Prove You Truly Love Yourself

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wedding cakeBy Angela L. Braden

News of a Houston woman’s wedding went viral because of a single feature that made her wedding incredibly unique. What made this woman’s wedding so unique? Yasmin Elleby married herself, and did it on her 40th birthday.

When news of this Houston woman’s unusual wedding ceremony landed in my lap, it prompted me to wonder if Yasmin’s marital act was a display of self-love or a display of self-loathing for being single. I think the latter.
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In my opinion, marriage is not the end all and be all of life. I believe that marriage is simply a segment of life that some of us experience if and when we find romantic, sustainable, enduring love with another person. Sadly, many women feel that their life is not complete if they don’t get to buy a pretty white dress, walk down the aisle with everyone watching, say ‘I do’ to some prince charming and be announced as Mr. and Mrs. So and So by a man of the cloth.
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Being single is not a curse. Single people are not any less valuable than married people. It is indeed possible to lead a happy and fulfilling single life, without spending thousands of dollars to flaunt yourself in front of hundreds of onlookers.

In fact, saying ‘yes’ to yourself is a very private event that is displayed publicly in how you manage your life, the choices you make, and the relationships you have. It is not necessary to proclaim your self-love, self-acceptance, and self-fulfillment in front of others. If you truly love yourself, you don’t need the validation and affirmation of anyone else. All you need is the warmth and satisfaction that truly loving yourself brings.
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According to CNN, the wedding ceremonies has been ranked so important to some women that they are now planning events to say “I do” to themselves. There are actually wedding planners that specialize in creating lavish events for a woman to marry herself, just like Yasmin.

Here’s some advice. If you want to prove to others how much you love yourself, don’t spend your hard-earned money on a lavish wedding to impress others. Take that money and go on a trip of a lifetime, enroll back in school and get a degree, buy a house, pay cash for a luxury car, or just save that money for whatever and whenever you’d like to spend it.

Do you! Truly do something that will make you happy and fulfilled.

I am 40-years-old. I’ve never been married, nor do I have any children. And despite never being married and not having kids of my own, I love myself unconditionally and fully. And if, by chance, I do cross paths with a man that is amazing enough to spend the rest of my life with, I will continue to love myself unconditionally and fully.

Having a man doesn’t make me a better woman. It just makes me a woman who has a man. While those two experiences are indeed different, one is no better than the other. What’s important is that love exists in both scenarios.

Angela L. Braden is a college educator and professional speaker. She blogs about her unique experiences as a blind woman at