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RHWOA’s Porsha Says Next Season She’ll Be a Full-time Housewife – Should She Be?

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porsha-williamsBy Nomalanga Mhlauli-Moses

In the fall of 2014, we were surprised to hear that Porsha Williams was being demoted from being a full-time housewife to a “friend” of the housewives on Real Housewives of Atlanta.

Unfortunately for the reality star, she says she was just as surprised as everyone when she heard the news. She said,

“After a long season of filming, and giving my all, I was blindsided by the announcement from the network that I was demoted from ‘Housewife Status,’ but would remain on the show in a ‘Friend’ capacity.”

There was some speculation that Williams had been demoted because she had physically attacked another cast member, Kenya Moore, at a reunion show. Now, half way through the season as a “friend”, the 33 year old says that she expects to be back as a full-time housewife, next season.

The businesswoman spoke to Radar online recently and said,

“It would surprise me if it wasn’t offered just because of the response that I get through all of my social media…Even though I wasn’t a full-time housewife, I was very much very vocal this season. I was around and I was a part of every single storyline as you can see.”

Williams, who is the founder of her own luxury hair product line, Go Naked Hair, says that she believes that fans of the reality show want her back as a full time housewife. She even shares that a lot of people inquire about her, what she’s doing and how her business ventures are progressing.

“They’re very interested and I think that’s a great thing.”

Even though the reality star clearly wants Bravo, the network, to restore her as a full time housewife, she says that she still has thoughts about whether or not the show is a good idea for her. She said,

“I signed up for reality television three years ago, so why not follow it through? I’ve been going back and forth in my mind with that. I really had to do some soul searching and see if it was the right thing for me and I feel like I’m in a good place right now.”

Life Balance Lesson: Honor your season

When Porsha Williams got into a physical altercation, she was in the middle of dissolving her marriage. This was a major life event. The lesson here is that when we go through things in one part of our life, we must honor that for that season, we must give that event the time, energy and attention that it requires.

As a life balance expert, my focus is helping entrepreneur women, like Porsha, who are also married and have children and struggle to balance their money-making efforts with marriage and motherhood. Porsha was married to former footbal star Kordell Stewart and was also a step-mother to his son and she struggled to balance her two new roles (wife and mother) with her money-making efforts.

When Porsha’s marriage became troubled, she should have taken a step back from the show to give her marriage and family more time, attention and nurturing. Her failure to do so, unfortunately meant that her husband left her. Even as her marriage was falling apart, Porsha still didn’t take a step back and we unfortunately had to see her overcome by her emotions and attacking another woman.

To reiterate the lesson; it is important to honor the season that you are in and focus on the part of your life that requires your attention the most. In Porsha’s case, it was her marriage and when that fell apart, she needed to focus on herself and her healing and unfortunately, she didn’t. She lost her husband and she lost her part as a full time cast member. Often, women think that “having it all” means having it all at once. It doesn’t.

We can have everything we want but we must recognize that life balance means giving priority to the things that matter the most and at different times, different areas of our lives require more attention than others.

Do you want to see Porsha back on as a full time housewife?

Nomalanga is a Life Balance Expert. Her speaking and coaching programs help busy women who struggle to balance Marriage, Motherhood and Money-Making™.  Nomalanga is an experienced instructor, author and avid blogger.

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