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Jill Scott Shares Why Her Relationships Only last 6 Months

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jill_scottBy Nomalanga Mhlauli-Moses

Jill Scott says that she has been thinking about love and marriage  a lot more lately. In an interview with ABC News Radio, the singer shared that acting in a romantic comedy made her reflect on her past loves and become hopeful about finding love in the future. She, along with rapper Eve and Regina Hall starred in Lifetime’s romantic comedy, With This Ring.

Scott told ABC News Radio;

“The movie made us all think about what we’re doing. For Regina and I, the two single girls, we really thought about what it is we want.”

In the Lifetime movie, Scott’s character and her two friends get tired of going to wedding after wedding and not finding their own mates. They begin to feel the pressure of being single and wanting to get married and then decide that they will enter a pact to do whatever it takes to get married within a year.

In real life, Scott has already been married and then also got engaged. Now that she is single, she says that she focuses more on finding the right person rather than just being under pressure to get married. The actress says that she can typically tell if the relationship has a future within six months of dating.

She says,

“I’m older now so I see a little bit better than I did before. My longest relationships now are about nine months…Actually, now it’s grown to six months. There’s no need for me to waste my time or anybody else’s. I know by then. If you make it over the six month hump, you have done something. I must really like you.”

The singer points out that she has discovered that relationships can only work if she not only likes the man in her life but also really likes herself.

“You have to be who you are and you have to genuinely love who you love in order to have a lasting marriage. Getting married is one thing; staying married is something else.”

It’s great to see a woman who has ended a significant relationship or two still keep a positive attitude and remain hopeful about love. It sounds like Scott is wiser and more confident and making good decisions about her relationships.

Life Balance Lesson: Marriage Is About Mindset

As a Life Balance Expert, I help women who struggle to balance their money-making efforts with marriage and motherhood. Jill Scott is a gorgeous and talented woman and even while she is still single, she is doing an amazing job of balancing marriage, motherhood and moneymaking.

Because Jill is open to marriage and love, her mindset and her actions reflect that. She is creating a space in her life for a wonderful relationship. Many women make the mistake of focusing entirely on their careers even when they say they are open to marriage and then, unfortunately, they look up years later and things have not gone as they wanted.

The lesson here is that even when you are single, you can still make your marriage (future) a priority by really getting clear about what you want and cultivating a positive and faithful attitude about it.

Nomalanga is a Life Balance Expert. Her speaking and coaching programs help busy women who struggle to balance Marriage, Motherhood and Money-Making™.  Nomalanga is an experienced instructor, author and avid blogger.

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