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8 Easy Steps To Beating the “haters” and Re-Claiming Your Joy

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Laughing WomenBy Nomalanga Mhlauli-Moses

It’s January and everyone is into making a fresh start  and setting goals for a great year. This a great time to set your intention for a joyful and peaceful existence. As a Life Balance Expert for women, I encourage all women to remember that self care is important and taking care of your emotional well-being is a big part of taking care of yourself.

Below are eight easy and/or simple steps that you can take to re-claim your joy and have a great year:

1. Decide not to be offended so often -It is inevitable that you will run into people who will do and say things that may be offensive but you have the choice to decide not to be offended and just let whatever it is go.

2. Ignore rude, mean spirited people – This can be a little tough but you can do it! Just choose not to engage in any way. The fun part is that when you do this well, they usually go away after a while.

3. Be very proactive about opening your mouth and saying who and what you’re grateful for. Make expressing gratitude a daily practice. Tell your loved ones you appreciate them and say what other things you’re grateful for out loud.

4. Move more – Find a way to get your heart rate up; it feels good. The dopamine naturally produced by your brain makes you feel good and boosts your self confidence.

5. Give hugs as often as you can.

6. Don’t miss any opportunity to have a deep belly laugh – Watch a comedy or share a joke, or better yet, give your funny friend or relative a call and have a good laugh over the phone.

7. Work on your long term goals, everyday – Make sure that everyday you take one step towards your “big” goal. Even the smallest step counts. If you have no big goals, please start thinking of at least one and then take that first small step towards accomplishing it.

8. Help other people, everyday – Focusing too much on yourself and your life can make for a very miserable life, especially if you focus on what you don’t have and haven’t accomplished. Instead, look around; there are people in need everywhere. Extend a helping hand and you will not only make someone feel better, you too will feel good about your kind deeds.

Nomalanga is a Life Balance Expert. Her speaking and coaching programs help busy women who struggle to balance Marriage, Motherhood and Money-Making™.  Nomalanga is an experienced instructor, author and avid blogger.

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1 Comment

  1. blacjk jones

    January 14, 2015 at 11:05 am

    Great article!

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