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4 Major Ways Women Create Chaos In Their Lives

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stressed womanBy Nomalanga Mhlauli-Moses

My observation has been that many women have fallen into a pattern of living lives that are full of chaos. I think that if we are not mindful it is quite likely that we will raise the next generation of young women to believe that chaos is “normal”. Just to be clear, it is not and it should not be normalized.

Whenever I speak to and survey groups of women, may of them will say that they feel “overwhelmed” and many express that they feel like they never have enough money and they also never seem to have enough time.

Below are four ways that women create chaos in their lives:

1. Lack of Self Care – Most women intellectually know this truth; that when you don’t take care of yourself, trouble is not far ahead, but it is still something we all need to be reminded about. Eat well, move more and avoid negativity and remember that you’re not doing your best when you are not at your best.

2. Horrible Relationships – Part of living a healthy and balanced life is being selective about the people you allow into your life, especially when it comes to romantic relationships. Unless you’re married, love yourself enough to let go of (or reduce contact with) the people who bring negativity and drama into your life.

When you’re married, you have made a commitment to stick together through the ups and downs of life but it does not mean that you have to suffer through a bad relationship. If your relationship is troubled, don’t be embarrassed to seek out help whether it is your spiritual adviser, a mental health professional or an older couple who have “seen it all”. Get help and be prepared to grow, heal and keep your family together in a healthy and functional way.

3. Neglecting Motherhood – If you’re a woman, motherhood is part of the package even if you decide that you do not want to birth any children. If you decide you don’t want children yet, or ever, take the necessary precautions so that you don’t end up in a crisis, such as an unplanned pregnancy.

If you are already a mother, take the time to create a parenting philosophy and plan. You may not always keep up with it but having  a plan gives you a starting point so that you can do your best.

4. Lack of Financial Planning – If you constantly feel like there isn’t enough money, that is an indicator that you are not planning well. When you make a plan, you write down your intention and you also prioritize so that the most important things are taken care of. A plan also gives you the opportunity to see if you are spending too much or not making enough money. There are only two ways to resolve unstable finances, you either have to increase your income or cut your expenses. Make sure you always have a clear and well defined financial plan and make decisions based on your plan; not your impulses.

Nomalanga is a Life Balance Expert. Her speaking and coaching programs help busy women who struggle to balance Marriage, Motherhood and Money-Making™.  Nomalanga is an experienced instructor, author and avid blogger.

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