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This woman says Sherri Shepherd is irresponsible for buying a baby she doesn’t want

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If a woman arranges for use of a donated egg and a surrogate mother to conceive a child and signs a contract agreeing to take custody when a baby is born, is she the child’s mother?

“The View” host Sherri Shepherd is apparently trying to argue that she is not, in fact, the mother of a child that will soon be born to a surrogate mother. The New York Daily News reports that Shepherd and her estranged husband, Lamar Sally, reportedly went through fertility treatment. The unborn child was conceived via a donor egg that was fertilized with Sally’s sperm and then was implanted into the uterus of the genetically unrelated surrogate. Now that they are divorcing, Shepherd doesn’t want to pay child support for the baby or to be the child’s mother. Sally has filed for custody.

As far as I’m concerned, the child’s right to the financial and emotional support of two parents trumps Shepherd’s right to back out of this arrangement and avoid future contact with her ex. If she intended to become the child’s mother when she arranged for its conception, she should be required to act as his or her mother when the child is actually born. Presumably both the egg donor and the surrogate/gestational mother have no desire to be this baby’s mother and have signed away any parental rights they might have. Hence, Shepherd, the “intended mother” and legal wife of the child’s father, is the only legal mother left standing.

The Shepherd case is probably another example of the need for regulation of the fertility industry and clarification of laws surrounding this practice. Different states have different laws regarding surrogacy and conception using donated eggs and sperm and regarding the rights of the resulting children. Thousands of children are conceived using donated eggs or sperm or both. Some are carried by surrogate mothers, often in foreign countries such as India. In other cases, an infertile woman might carry a child who was conceived via a donor egg that was fertilized with her husband’s sperm. A gay couple might hire a surrogate mother to carry twins conceived with eggs from the same donor but each fertilized with a different man’s sperm. The resulting children are twins and genetic half siblings. A lesbian couple might arrange for one partner to donate the egg and the other to carry the child to term, giving both women the claim to the title “mother.” The laws regarding all of these practices differ from jurisdiction to jurisdiction, leaving the children produced in legal limbo.

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47 Comments

  1. Colleen

    July 12, 2014 at 12:13 pm

    Sherry should be ashamed of herself

    • toyabg

      July 15, 2014 at 1:51 am

      Hey the baby isn’t hers she’s having it bad already.

  2. Sharon

    July 12, 2014 at 12:18 pm

    She should be responsible, but if she do not want to, it would be better for the kid.

  3. loky

    July 12, 2014 at 12:40 pm

    I feel that Sherri Shepard is greedy and want to make all the money out there. Family comes second maybe even maybe third. She wants the American Dream. And she obviously choose to sacrifice her family for that. She had a special needs child. I know that means exactly that. They have Special needs. How can a mother be working 3-4 gigs and not be there for the special needs of her family. I believe that Sally and Jeffery father truly feels that she neglected the child and them. Look at all the jobs she had Dancing with the Stars , The view, Match care and every game shoe and others.

  4. Judy

    July 12, 2014 at 1:47 pm

    I have no respect for Sherry, she loves attention more than anything…shows off every time she’s on the view which is five days a week…glad she got fired!!!

    • Daleo

      July 24, 2014 at 8:51 pm

      I’m glad they fired her also. I think she should be ashamed of herself. I do not believe that Sal is as bad as she says he is. She used to always praise him and say how loving and wonderful he was on the view when they first wed. I say let Sal have the baby. Genetically it is his. I do not think Sherry will love the baby in the proper way…so it’s a blessing in disguise if she wants nothing to do with the baby. I feel bad for the baby, but I think the baby will be ok with Sal.

  5. parrish

    July 12, 2014 at 1:56 pm

    She’s a bafoon!

  6. big annie

    July 12, 2014 at 2:17 pm

    Well, I think she intended to be a family with hubby and child. She stated that she worked a lot to earn a living and to pay for the costly fertility treatments and care for special needs kid..and yes that hubby . I have not read what income he had, if any. Then there was marital strife. Did he harangue Sherry about having children? Did he pressure her with the surrogate thing? Seems like he has an issue with work. Nevertheless, she doesn’t want to be bothered with baby or the man. Men do this all of the time. Get a woman pregnant then change mind…in fact they sometimes find another woman.
    If Sherry is not feeling the family thing any more, maybe folks need to take a closer look at how her husband has acted and treated her as of late. He is capable…let him care for the baby. He will be a single father.
    I wish her the best.

  7. tanya t

    July 12, 2014 at 2:56 pm

    i”ll take the baby no child shud cme in this w/o being wanted and loved . Not abargining chip

  8. Vickie Anderson

    July 12, 2014 at 3:04 pm

    What is wrong with you people? As a former CPS caseworker, I KNOW what happens to children who aren’t wanted! If his father doesn’t want him/her, that child should be up for adoption. There are so many people who would love to have any child!

  9. michel

    July 12, 2014 at 3:15 pm

    Let us Not be so judgemental…..Ms Shepard wanted love and a man that she could share a healthy relationship with and from what has been written she made a bad choice…sad to say just like a lot of people…she married a man with many tricks up his sleeves as well.
    They could not have a child so they opted to have someonesle carry it with whos sperm????? THE HUSBAND’s!
    Sherri has probably spent as much Money On and with him as she cares to…for a little”Happiness!”
    Unfortuantly…she never thaught at the point she agreed to do this procedure…that she again was on the “RIDE of her Life!” She is just fight back!!!!
    This is the second Husband, that has taken the “Glass Slipper” and ran with it!!! She is just fighting back! Can any one of US blame her? She must of been trying to hold on when she agreed to someone carrying her X-Husbands sperm…
    What did he get from the divorce?…Pardon my French … but I am sure he did not walk with his penis in his hands…
    She already has a child with special needs…and I believe she is working very hard to be able to support him.
    Then she married someone that…what the Hell did he do for a living? So she was probably supporting him mental, physically and monotarily. And now she is looking at Mo-Money!!???? OUT of Her Pocketbook!!!
    For the childs sake…I hope she will have to support the child but with the same amount she has to pay him already…
    She will just think a little more when she runs into the next (shall we say…penis looking for a nut!(Straight no chaser)

  10. annrowe

    July 12, 2014 at 4:49 pm

    Things change!!!! She should not be accountable for a child her husband deceived her into agreeing with. He planned this from the beginning. I don’t blame Sherri it’s deceit. Her husband is a Man Gold digger. He didn’t want her for her. If he knew she was a bad Mother why would he want a baby with her? She married the wrong Man. I agree with Sherri and people are so judgemental of her.

  11. ericaf

    July 12, 2014 at 6:23 pm

    People are criticizing Sherri for working all the time, she does have a special needs child who is getting the best care money can buy because she works. Maybe is big lazy Sal worked half as she did the burden to carry the family would be off her back. She makes sure that her son has the best care at home also and nothing says she gets child support for him from her previous ex so it’s all on her. Why should she pay lazy Sal support for his child with possible eggs from his previous girlfriend ? Would you? Leave her alone she knows what she knows that we don’t but there’s some shady stuff going on with the paternity of the baby.

  12. Rhonda

    July 12, 2014 at 6:25 pm

    Does it make anyone wonder why the husband wants full custody of the baby? I agree with some of the others. Her ex husband had this planned the whole time…He doesn’t want to work. He wants to live off her money for the next 18 to 22 years…He’s just a BUM

  13. sonja

    July 12, 2014 at 11:29 pm

    I’m very disgusted with the way she is handling things. When you have a baby you don’t get to choose whether you want to be a mother or father you just are unfortunately there are people in this world that think they can just walk away from their responsibility she should have thought about the decisions that she was making before she signed up for this I feel like she should pay this is not a pet that you pick up at the store then decide later that you no longer want to be a pet owner and drop it back off at the dog pound. What is going to happen when this child is brought into the world knowing that this is the conflict that was going on before he or she was even born.damn sherry step up to the plate

  14. Alexander

    July 13, 2014 at 1:46 am

    I absolutely disagree with this woman’s views about Sherri Shepherd. Since it seems clear that this marriage is over and the contract for this marriage has so quickly become null and void. Then this baby, which was inclusive in this contract and solely based upon a signed agreement on paper within the parameters of the marriage and not involving Sherri’s literal egg, does not incriminate her as the responsible mother of this child. I think this woman does not see the broader picture of this case. Marriage and the family were instituted by God and not by what human reasoning conjugates. It is these type of things which send the ethics and logistics of the family unit as God intended it, into a tail spin, and produce moral problems that results in public disgrace and shame. Who knows if Sherri’s ex, whom I believe is much older than her, intended all the while to use her name and or fame to solicit from her this child as an avenue for his financial gain. The heart is deceitful and desperately wicked. It is both physically and legally his child and the child of the surrogate woman whose egg resulted in this baby. This is the moral of these births. Before God that woman IS the mother of the child. Children do not carry literary DNAs, they carry blood. If Sherri and this surrogate would both go on the Maury Povich show, after the tests, he would say “the mother of the child is…..Ms Surrogate”, It is time we stop paying for babies to be made, without seeing the spiritual, moral and eternal consequences of responsibility we also adopt when we bring our children into this world. That man must be a man and realize it’s his seed regardless of the failed marriage (NOT her seed), and regardless of the surrogate’s irresponsibility to mother what she carried for nine months, and FATHER HIS CHILD, or his butt would pay again. God said for a man not to leave his seed on the ground. Finally, the bible is replete with answers to human related issues as difficult as they are. Of course ‘a baby is never a mistake’, how they came may be the mistake. The father of faith Abraham made the mistake of implanting his seed in a surrogate named Hagar. Abraham has died over two thousand years ago and the problem of this confused union still exists today with the children at war. I hope Sherri has learned her lessons here and trust God for a baby. Sarah’s faith for a child paid out in the end over her suggestion for Abraham’s surrogate doing. The backlash of this is unending.

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