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This woman says Sherri Shepherd is irresponsible for buying a baby she doesn’t want

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If a woman arranges for use of a donated egg and a surrogate mother to conceive a child and signs a contract agreeing to take custody when a baby is born, is she the child’s mother?

“The View” host Sherri Shepherd is apparently trying to argue that she is not, in fact, the mother of a child that will soon be born to a surrogate mother. The New York Daily News reports that Shepherd and her estranged husband, Lamar Sally, reportedly went through fertility treatment. The unborn child was conceived via a donor egg that was fertilized with Sally’s sperm and then was implanted into the uterus of the genetically unrelated surrogate. Now that they are divorcing, Shepherd doesn’t want to pay child support for the baby or to be the child’s mother. Sally has filed for custody.

As far as I’m concerned, the child’s right to the financial and emotional support of two parents trumps Shepherd’s right to back out of this arrangement and avoid future contact with her ex. If she intended to become the child’s mother when she arranged for its conception, she should be required to act as his or her mother when the child is actually born. Presumably both the egg donor and the surrogate/gestational mother have no desire to be this baby’s mother and have signed away any parental rights they might have. Hence, Shepherd, the “intended mother” and legal wife of the child’s father, is the only legal mother left standing.

The Shepherd case is probably another example of the need for regulation of the fertility industry and clarification of laws surrounding this practice. Different states have different laws regarding surrogacy and conception using donated eggs and sperm and regarding the rights of the resulting children. Thousands of children are conceived using donated eggs or sperm or both. Some are carried by surrogate mothers, often in foreign countries such as India. In other cases, an infertile woman might carry a child who was conceived via a donor egg that was fertilized with her husband’s sperm. A gay couple might hire a surrogate mother to carry twins conceived with eggs from the same donor but each fertilized with a different man’s sperm. The resulting children are twins and genetic half siblings. A lesbian couple might arrange for one partner to donate the egg and the other to carry the child to term, giving both women the claim to the title “mother.” The laws regarding all of these practices differ from jurisdiction to jurisdiction, leaving the children produced in legal limbo.

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