Monica Won’t Go After Her Deadbeat Baby Daddy

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By Daphne R

Monica’s journey to success has made her one of R&B’s elite female vocalist but it has also taught her a lot about work/life balance and how to keep peace in her relationships, especially her personal life.

Monica depends heavily on strength, courage and wisdom to get through her troubles in life. Her most recent battle has concerned the fact that her ex-fiance has refused to pay child support their his two young sons. While Monica has no problem supporting and taking care of her own children and giving them everything they could want, she feels that shouldn’t be an excuse for their father not to pull his own weight in providing for his kids.

Monica has been able to successfully blend her family with her new husband, NBA veteran player, Shannon Brown. And they are currently expecting their first child together this fall. “People always ask me, ‘How do you make a blended family work?’ It is what you make it. The first order of business as parents is we gotta respect one another,” Monica says. “I don’t believe in the court system. I’m not steppin’ in no court house, I’m not callin’ them people.”

She goes on to say, “Let me explain. This is my thing. I’m sure every situation may require something different, but for me, I feel like a real man will be man enough to assess the needs of his child, and make sure that it happens. I don’t need to call you and I don’t need to call them people for you.”

“Since I feel that way, I’ve never had any discrepancies with the father of my oldest children at all. Period. Point blank,” Monica explained. “When it’s time for it to get done, he can access the needs, come in and see what they need and it gets done.”

Monica even had some things to say about her new husband and their relationship.

“My husband being the ultimate man, I don’t even have to say anything. But vice versa, he doesn’t have to be in there fixing his own plate, vacuuming the floors and everything,” she said. “I still enjoy being needed. I’m the boss at my job, so I don’t feel like I should be the boss at home. Shannon’s the boss and that’s just it.”

Monica elaborated further by saying, “You got some high society women that will argue me down. I’m not looking for an argument. I just know what works in my house. They say, ‘Good girls are no fun,’ but good girls are always where they run when trouble come.”


Daphne R is an experienced marketing and communications professional that provides social commentary, self-help, tips, and reports news of events that matter to African Americans.