Monica Won’t Go After Her Deadbeat Baby Daddy

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By Daphne R

Monica’s journey to success has made her one of R&B’s elite female vocalist but it has also taught her a lot about work/life balance and how to keep peace in her relationships, especially her personal life.

Monica depends heavily on strength, courage and wisdom to get through her troubles in life. Her most recent battle has concerned the fact that her ex-fiance has refused to pay child support their his two young sons. While Monica has no problem supporting and taking care of her own children and giving them everything they could want, she feels that shouldn’t be an excuse for their father not to pull his own weight in providing for his kids.

Monica has been able to successfully blend her family with her new husband, NBA veteran player, Shannon Brown. And they are currently expecting their first child together this fall. “People always ask me, ‘How do you make a blended family work?’ It is what you make it. The first order of business as parents is we gotta respect one another,” Monica says. “I don’t believe in the court system. I’m not steppin’ in no court house, I’m not callin’ them people.”

She goes on to say, “Let me explain. This is my thing. I’m sure every situation may require something different, but for me, I feel like a real man will be man enough to assess the needs of his child, and make sure that it happens. I don’t need to call you and I don’t need to call them people for you.”

“Since I feel that way, I’ve never had any discrepancies with the father of my oldest children at all. Period. Point blank,” Monica explained. “When it’s time for it to get done, he can access the needs, come in and see what they need and it gets done.”

Monica even had some things to say about her new husband and their relationship.

“My husband being the ultimate man, I don’t even have to say anything. But vice versa, he doesn’t have to be in there fixing his own plate, vacuuming the floors and everything,” she said. “I still enjoy being needed. I’m the boss at my job, so I don’t feel like I should be the boss at home. Shannon’s the boss and that’s just it.”

Monica elaborated further by saying, “You got some high society women that will argue me down. I’m not looking for an argument. I just know what works in my house. They say, ‘Good girls are no fun,’ but good girls are always where they run when trouble come.”


Daphne R is an experienced marketing and communications professional that provides social commentary, self-help, tips, and reports news of events that matter to African Americans.


  1. Read and think!

    December 23, 2013 at 7:34 pm

    Great family! Any male can be father but it takes a man to be called daddy. I respect what Shannon is doing.

  2. Read and think !

    December 23, 2013 at 7:41 pm

    Being a man of the HOUSE is a right that is earned, not given because of gender. Earn our way to be men of our houses and take care of OUR women/ children.

  3. Wanda Beason

    December 23, 2013 at 7:59 pm

    I have so much respect for Monica. She has been through so much and managed to come out on top. Her song “Still Standing” was on point in describing all the things she has endured in her life. She has a beautiful husband/family and is very successful. I agree with her interview as well.

  4. What

    December 23, 2013 at 8:15 pm

    Monica has always been a women. A lot of women can learn from her. Stay classy Monica

  5. vanessa

    December 23, 2013 at 8:18 pm

    Im with Monica on this. If I have a man doing right by me
    I want him to feel he’s the head of our houshold. Little
    things mean a lot. So many women make an issue out of
    fixing their mans plate & serving him. I enjoy doing that
    for my man. If I respect & appreciate my man, he will get
    that treatment.

  6. Zia

    December 23, 2013 at 8:31 pm

    Feel the same

  7. LarryJ

    December 23, 2013 at 9:06 pm

    What the hell is Monica talking about? She sound so brain dead.

    • Dianna

      December 23, 2013 at 10:29 pm


      You just a damn trouble-maker…LMAO!!! I know how she feels, and she’s too blessed to be stressed. She don’t have to chase after that damn fool, God don’t need her help to flush his sorry-a$$ down the stankin shyt-hole… But every women in this world needs to see his MUG-SHOT as the DEAD BEAT DAD OF THE CENTURY… Expose his a$$ to the public…

  8. corbin56

    December 24, 2013 at 1:56 am

    It is pointless anyway. You cannot get blood out of a turnip.

  9. Devon

    December 24, 2013 at 2:35 am

    I love Monica. The deadbeat should step up but eh f@@k him. Monica has a good man who loves her and her kids. She doesnt have time to be chasing down a deadbeat. Besides Monica CHOSE that deadbeat to lay up with and probably knew he was a deadbeat when she was f@@@ing him. Oh well lesson learned and she picked well the second time around smart lady!

  10. Willena Miller

    December 24, 2013 at 11:10 am

    Her ex should be held accountable and own up to his responsibilities as a father to his children. He should not be let off the hook.

    She may not need the money but that’s besides the point.
    It took “two to tango” so let him step up to the plate.

  11. kay

    December 24, 2013 at 12:26 pm

    I think Monica’s ex-fiance is a Atlanta rapper called Rocko (Rodney Ramone Hill Jr.) and is suppose to be on “Love & Hip-Hop: Atlanta” So hey after he gets on there he can’t say he didn’t have or make any money to support his sons! So, she may not have to do anything, the courts can just roll the tape. “give a fool enough rope and he’s hang himself!”

  12. Susan

    December 24, 2013 at 6:15 pm

    I respect you Monica and how you live in your household. But, for me, my
    baby daddy will have to pay. “Hook or crook,” he would not dodge his
    responsibility. Some women don’t have the money to take care of their
    children ALL by themselves like Monica, so many women look for the legal system to seek out these “dead beat dads” for monetary compensation.
    If that was me ex, he would not get away with the financial aspect of
    their lives. As for as their emotional needs, I can’t make him love his
    children, but he will PAY!!!!!

  13. M

    December 24, 2013 at 10:11 pm

    If she didn’t have money, she would use the court system. This isn’t even about her, it’s about the rights of her sons. Hopefully, she’ll always have money…if not,without the court order, she won’t have a chance of collecting a dime from their father (deadbeats sometimes come into fortune later in life). Good luck to her…..

  14. Huge Bullbone

    December 26, 2013 at 3:25 pm

    Monica is fine in MANY ways and I admire her. Nevertheless, women are in control of getting pregnant and having babies. Period. However, with the advent of so many KILLER and incurable STD’s, sex may eventually become too risky, thus, taboo. Major portion of the problem solves. For real. Also, the day is coming when it will be a wide spread proven and accepted fact that too many women are opening their legs in hopes of either getting paid, to hold the man hostage, use babies to control a man or some men, and to put him/them on lockdown in a vicious and self-serving manner. That along with playing to the outrageously biased and unfair courts as a threatening backdrop is all too often the on-going patheric case AND end result. Make no mistake, the police, judges, lawyers, and jailors don’t give a damn about the parties involved since they benefit from the activity. The children are almost invariably the victims. If a man DOESN’T pay, chances are he wanted sex BUT didn’t want those kids, doesn’t want them now, and most likely despises the mother then AND now. And the beat goes on.

  15. Caryn G.

    December 26, 2013 at 5:08 pm

    Preach it Gurrl!!! Love Monica. she’s so very Gifted. I’m glad that she’s with a great guy, Great Husband, and provider for her, and her children. it’s a dang shame!!! that a woman would have to Run in & behind her Baby’s father in order for him to do the right thing. what is wrong with these MEN! that “REFUSE” to support their children. quit their jobs to keep from paying child support. if i we’re a Judge.. and any Man did that I’d SLAM that a***** BAAM! GAVEL DOWN!!! (5) five years automatic. No questions, No negotiations. ya quit your job, i got you Bruh!! go put your lil numbered Neon orange zip up jump suit on and Take a load off Bunk with Dexter cuz you’ll be here a minute! set the trend for the next air head that wants to quit his job. Bet they’ll do a little head scratching and think twice that next time. Congrats!!! to Mrs. Monica, Hubby, and family. keep making Beautiful Music and Video’s. please remix/make So Gone! any time i hear that song whatever i’m doing it’s gotta stop LOL & give me your make-up artist, and hair stylist #’s Those are The prettiest short cuts Ever!!!!

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