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Iyanla Vanzant Says Black Women Are “Out Of Order”

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Reported By: Britt L

Spiritual adviser and speaker Iyanla Vanzant recently did an interview with Madame Noire about her comment’s referring to black women as being “out of order.”

During the Essence Music Festival held in New Orleans this year, Vanzant made the candid comment and was happy to elaborate on exactly what she meant in this hard-hitting interview.  Black women are her largest fan base, so she has to be careful not to offend them.  But her comments appear to focus on the idea that it is bad circumstances and treatment of black women that can often lead to unseemly behavior.

Vanzant told Madame Noire during the sit down:

“We have such a rich culture and in that culture, there are roles and purposes and powers. And we live in a society now where women are commodities, where women are demeaned, diminished, demoralized in ways that we accommodate.

And if we really understood who we are as feminine representations of the creator of the universe, some of the things that we experience in life — like crying when the unemployed boo boo leaves us — if we really understood who we are, we wouldn’t be so apt to let other people define us and confine us. We are out of order!

We give men, let me just say people, who are not honorable respectful sensitive to who we are – we give them reign in our lives in ways that make us mentally emotionally and physically sake.

There is no reason to continue to have children with men who don’t honor us and don’t take care of their children. Out of order.”

Vanzant went on to talk about how black women continuously “defile” one another in instances like “sleeping with another woman’s man, betraying one another’s confidence and not honoring one another’s word.”

If you would like to view Iyanla’s interview with Madame Noire, you can watch it below.  Does Iyanla empower women with this advice or somehow shift the blame onto men?
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 You be the judge of that.  Maybe we can all be accountable for our behavior, and treat each other well.

Vanzant hit the issues of African American women head on, but do you agree with her statements? Vanzant speaks on how African American women have adopted into a society that does not honor women. But have the women of society themselves unintentionally worsened societies perception of them? Why aren’t women of this century yet unified?

Leave your comments below and tell us what you think.

Iyanla has come over some leaps and hurdles in her life as an African American woman herself. Vanzant became pregnant at the age of 16 and had three children by the age of 21. After losing her Maryland home to bankruptcy, her husband of six years, Charles Vanzant, filed for divorce. Shortly after on Christmas day, Vanzant’s daughter lost her life to colon cancer in 2003.

Iyanla now has a television show ran on the Oprah Winfrey network titled “Iyanla: Fix My Life”, and has published a book “Peace from Broken Pieces: How To Get Through What You’re Going Through,” that is now on the New York Times best sellers list.