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Serena Williams Causes Controversy on Comments about Steubenville R@pe Incident

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After hearing Serena Williams’ comments about the r@pe that took place Steubenville, Ohio, people are either saying that maybe she has a point or that she’s out of her mind.  Williams recently spoke to Rolling Stone Magazine and made comments that have feminists up in arms and accusing her of blaming the victim.

A teen girl was assaulted after drinking until she passed out.  The boys took video of the assault, believing that it was OK to sleep with her because she’d drank herself into a deep sleep, effectively making her a complicit party to whatever the boys chose to do to her.  Serena caused a hotbed of controversy by stating that “she shouldn’t have put herself in that position.”

After her remarks went public, Williams began to hear it from her fans and non-fans alike, some of whom say that the girl holds little or no responsibility for what happened on that fateful night.  But Serena was candid and honest in her commentary, which is probably going to get her into trouble.

“Do you think it was fair, what they got? They did something stupid, but I don’t know. I’m not blaming the girl, but if you’re a 16-year-old and you’re drunk like that, your parents should teach you — don’t take drinks from other people,” she told Rolling Stone.

“She’s 16, why was she that drunk where she doesn’t remember? It could have been much worse. She’s lucky. Obviously I don’t know, maybe she wasn’t a virgin, but she shouldn’t have put herself in that position, unless they slipped her something, then that’s different.”

Two football players involved in the incident were convicted in March for their role in the s*xual assault.  One of the boys was given an extra year in prison for taking a nude picture of the girl.  There are some who agree with Williams, arguing that if the girl is not responsible for her actions while under the influence, then the boys shouldn’t be either.  But there are those on the other side of the debate who say that the girl did nothing wrong.

One thing that could be agreed that kids should be taught to avoid drinking too much, since these incidents usually involve alcohol and end up ruining young lives.  Be careful.

 

59 Comments

  1. Tasha

    June 19, 2013 at 6:41 am

    16 yrs old?. was there anybody as far as another female around?. serena’s right! dont find urself in that situation. (at all). No ones the accual story. there could be a lot left out as far as if she was slipped sumthing, or even if shes a wild teen, flirty, dress appearance, etc… Serena spoke well.

    • me112233

      June 21, 2013 at 8:47 am

      I agree that the girl was stupid. For purposes of being “politically correct,” we never lay even 1% of the fault on the victim when it is rape. But if you leave your car door unlocked, and some theif opens the door and steals your stuff, the first thing will say is “It’s your fault, becuase you left your door unlocked.” Or, maybe you did lock the doors, but you also left your new iphone in plain view, so the crook broke the window and stole it. Technically, theft is always the fault of the thief, but there is a thing called contibutalbe negligence, meaning that while you certainly didn’t want your stuff to be stolen, you did set up a situation that greatly encouraged the thief to take action. Rape is the same way — if you get yourself wasted on drugs or alcohol in the presence of some creep, then that creep takes advanatage of the situtation, then you have a case of contibutable negligence; same goes if you dress in a slutty fashion, with your boobs on display in the front (aka, in plain sight), and your butt cheeks on display in the back, that too would be contribuatble negligence.

  2. jan

    June 19, 2013 at 11:38 am

    Let’s be sensible, just like we tell our kids don’t be out alone at night, for fear of robbery, car jacking etc or don’t flash wads of money for fear of being victimized, people need to not get into situations that raise the risk of being victimized. Not that a victim deserves ever being a victim but everyone must think about that as people are willing to take advantage of any opportunity. Do I feel the guys should have gotten sentenced, absolutely. Should the woman not be trusting of situations , yes. You can never afford to be open to becoming a victim. Doesn’t matter if its fair and should not happen, it does and that’s the reality. This is not even a discussion as far as I can see. I tell my kids to take sensible precautions as you just never know. In todays world even those we most trust have shown they too will take advantage, if allowed the opportunity

  3. Lynda

    June 19, 2013 at 11:40 am

    I agree with Serena both all parties are to blame they were to young to be drinking and all the responsibility of how drinking changes the way a person acts and thinks. The young lady should not have put herself in that kinda situation

  4. R James Ferguson

    June 19, 2013 at 12:37 pm

    Teenagers should not be drinking. Enough said.

  5. Omoye

    June 19, 2013 at 1:38 pm

    The key word in this discussion is “Parents, Parents, Parents” Where were they? For all parties involved…the football players and the victim. I believe all of them were under age…Why were they allowed out all night with no adult supervision? Where were the parents of the home where the sexual assault took place? It appears she was passed out for several hours on the floor of the living/family room. And most important, how is a sixteen year old female allowed to travel to another state alone and stay out all night?

    I know times have changed, and I may be ole school…But there was a time when under aged teens (male and female)had to tell their parents where they were going and they had a time that they had to be back in the house…If not…You had folks out looking for your butt.

    The main problem here is not what happened…but how it was allowed to happen by the people who are still suppose to be in charge…The Adults. Our communities need to re-evaluate the amount of freedom that is being given to our children and make some changes. Obviously, they are not mature enough to handle it….Which is why s**t happens.

  6. aldo

    June 19, 2013 at 1:50 pm

    Oops! An honest and candid opinion these days can get you in hot soup! Though she meant nothing bad, but because she was not hypocritical enough, she is now getting scoured by certain people. people tend to see things from their opinions. To heck with your honest opinions based on your values etc. We are now suppose to walk the line in tow with everyone else. Completing each other sentences are not for Soulmates and lovers anymore!

    • serenaisnotcrazy

      June 19, 2013 at 3:18 pm

      People think too much in either/or black and white terms. The world is not like that, sorry. Most things are shades of gray. We all know that if we insist on doing certain things in certain places at certain times that carries a risk of being victimized. It does not mean that your victimizer is right for getting you because you had a lapse in judgment or decided to play your odds. They’re just as wrong, nothing can change that. Some people may say, well you got what you deserved for dressing that way, for saying whatever, for being whatever. That may or may not be true, but it doesn’t matter. Whoever went upside your head, raped you, robbed you was still wrong. Only those who victimize another for no good reason and are in turn victimized get what they deserve.

  7. moonhead

    June 19, 2013 at 1:58 pm

    Reading the comments on here, is the reason why other races think that we are criminal minded animals. There is no excuse for these thugs to rape a woman, no matter how drunk she was. I guess most of you would think it was OK if the woman had been mentally challenged, or physically disabled. Serena Williams, comments were stupid, and insensitive, and should not have been made. Maybe after it costs her millions in endorsements, and being boycotted by women, she will finally learn the error of her ways. These young thugs should have received 25 years in jail, instead of the light sentences that they received. They are truly lucky, because had this been my daughter, they would never had the opportunity of a trial.

    • makar72

      June 19, 2013 at 2:09 pm

      She was not a woman!!! She was under age… still a child and so were they. Either they all had some culpability or none did. These were all children and all behaving badly. They deserve punishment but she is NOT innocent!

      • Theresa

        June 21, 2013 at 8:26 am

        That’s not how the law looks at it. We don’t get to decide how they should apply. You do understand this, right?

        • Theresa

          June 21, 2013 at 8:28 am

          That was for Markar 72.

    • Mo

      June 19, 2013 at 2:14 pm

      @moonhead

      Your name is so appropriate in this case. Serena is irresponsible for voicing her “opinion”, which makes lots of sense, but the drunken teenage girl is not responsible for putting herself in a vulnerable and compromising position by being in the company of only boys and willingly getting totally drunk? Nonsense! Get a grip and get off of that feminista BS! Exercise your right and dress and act like a whore and you will be treated as such.

      Just as some of us with young African American male children tell them to be careful when interacting with the police, and hanging out in certain neighborhoods late at night, or dressing like a thug, what Serena stated is sound advice. Yes our young men should be able to go wherever, dress however, and interact with the police, who are sworn to protect and serve, without fear of being arrested and/or shot. But the reality is that we don’t live in such a fairytale land. Just ask Trayvon Martin. In death, our so-called mainstream media outlets have escoriated him (Heraldo Rivera!!!) for dressing with a “hoodie”. Where were the feministas to come to his defense?

      Just a bunch of white feel good BS.

      • Phyllis

        June 19, 2013 at 3:28 pm

        Exactly.

      • albert ross

        June 19, 2013 at 7:13 pm

        Right. The girl was drunk and it’s all her fault the boys couldn’t control themselves. Why she probably slurred her approval.

        That so called mainstream media is owned by major conservative multi national corporations and controls every bit of misinformation you receive including Geraldo Rivera.

        Women should dress like women dress in hardcore Muslim countries.
        Just a modest proposal in a Swiftian sense.

      • moonhead

        June 20, 2013 at 5:51 pm

        @Mo

        If these young boys were civilized people, they would not rape a woman, even if she walked down the street butt naked, and sloppy drunk. The only reason why the majority of the illiterate, and uncivilized people, that are defending the actions of these thugs, is because one of them happen to be Black. Had this been two White boys, that committed this act, all of you idiots, would be screaming for their heads, or not commenting at all. We actually have a lot of people in our community, that believe in criminal activity, as long as it’s not directed at them. In some countries, they used to chop off your damn hand if you even picked up some money that was laying on the ground, because it didn’t belong to them. This is an prime example, because no matter what condition this young lady was in, it was her body, and not theirs, and they had no right to touch. Some of you people on here disgust me, because you are so concern about criminal activity, while most of you are unemployed, while every illegal immigrant has a job. Twenty years from now, most of you will be extinct, while the rest of you will be working for the former illegal immigrants, or still standing on the corner listening to rap music, and begging for quarters. You talk about this young lady’s parental responsibility, but what about the parental responsibility of these two young thugs, to teach them self control, and to not assault someone else. I see lots of scantily clad women, some with almost no clothes on at all, but I never even think about assaulting their bodies, because I was properly trained. Yes I use the moniker moonhead, but it’s because I have a big head, full of knowledge.

    • Phyllis

      June 19, 2013 at 3:27 pm

      Well your kid would have been smarter I think.

    • Malaika H Kambon

      June 19, 2013 at 4:03 pm

      19 June 2013

      16 years old and drunk or 60 years old and drunk. In the wrong place at the wrong time or not. Slipped a mickey or not. Deeply asleep (even though this seems to be nearer to unconscious) or not. No parental guidance on either side or not. These issues, while relevant, are not crimes.

      RAPE however is most definitely a crime. It is an act of terrorism and assault. It is a crime of power. It has little to do with sex (aside from the obvious use of human body parts.) It has nothing whatever to do with love or passion. It is the act of a mentally unstable mind; even more so if the victim is asleep or unconscious and/or in a drug induced stupor; even more so if committed by people you know.

      This woman was RAPED by males who knew exactly what they were doing. That they even contemplated doing this shows that their parental upbringing was/is sorely lacking. RAPE is a crime. RAPE is forced sexual assault without the knowledge and/or consent of the assaulted party, in this case a 16 year old female.

      The female is lucky that she is alive, and so are the rapists. I agree with Moonhead to the fullest, when s/he said “They are truly lucky, because had this been my daughter, they would never had the opportunity of a trial.”

      Serena Williams – as much as I respect and admire your tennis prowess, and the fact that you are at or near the top of your game, and are an AFRIKAN woman, as am I – your comments need a serious sensitivity check. Whether the person assaulted was in the wrong place at the wrong time is immaterial.

      MOST PEOPLE WHO ARE ASSAULTED ( robbed, raped, murdered, etc.) ARE TECHNICALLY IN THE WRONG PLACE AT THE WRONG TIME! This should be obvious because most thinking rational people do not plan nor do they want to be assaulted and / or put into harm’s way. So saying that, well, she shouldn’t have been where she was implies that she wouldn’t have been raped had she been somewhere else, which is an irrational inference to make, and/or conclusion to draw.

      The idiots who raped this child would have raped ( and might still rape, despite jail time) anyone else that they thought was helpless to defend themselves. That type of mentality can and does manifest itself at anyplace and at anytime.

      I repeat: RAPE IS A CRIME OF POWER. RAPE is used in war to instill fear and to attempt to destroy people’s will to resist. RAPE is more common among U.S. armed forces than people like to admit – for the same reasons. RAPE and lynching were common tools of oppression against AFRIKAN people in the U.S., both enslaved and not enslaved. And our enslavement was forced, as was our kidnapping from AFRIKAN shores.
      Additionally, white females have been known to cry rape after having had as much consensual sex as they think they want from AFRIKAN men.

      The point? The crime of RAPE is precisely that: a crime: no matter who commits it, and/or up under what conditions. And U.S. society is duplicitous enough to ALWAYS hand the victim.

      So:
      Take a reality check, Serena. White feminists have been known to be just as racist as the KKK, and your comments about the situation not only need a sensitivity check, but you’ve just opened up the floodgates for jealous, foolish idiots to take pot shots at you for something that you are intelligent enough to not have said.

      • Malaika H Kambon

        June 19, 2013 at 4:07 pm

        typo: the sentence should read: “And U.S. society is duplicitous enough to ALWAYS HANG (not hand) the victim.”

      • naimanaima

        June 19, 2013 at 6:12 pm

        Only one point to add: I think when Serena Williams said “she shouldn’t have put herself in that situation<" she was not referring to a "locale" per se, but in the "position" of being not in control of her faculties, – i.e., NOT ABLE to make a judgment call in her own behalf. However, that said, I reiterate one would hope that the teenagers involved would not have been bereft of humanity that just because the "opportunity" to rape one of their age-peers availed itself, they would take advantage of her in such a DEPRAVED way – up to and including photographing and boasting about the act(s). VERY disturbing, particularly for males so young!

  8. Malima

    June 19, 2013 at 2:11 pm

    I agree with Serena Williams, she never endorsed what the boys did but tell the truth and responsibility of the girl herself. Everyone has responsibility for their health and safety. She also mentioned the way the girl was raised – teaching our kids with regards to dangerous foods in this case Alcohols. In America we love freedom but very few Americans want to take responsibility for their freedom.
    I hear this all the time “This America it’s a free country I can do anything I want” but the question is, are you willing to take responsibility for your actions with your practice of freedom? Freedom comes with responsibility
    You are 16 you think you are old enough to drink? Well my question is can you handle alcohol? Why would disk yourself to the point where you cannot remember anything? Who are you trying to impressed by been drunk?
    The boys on the other hand have no right to do what they did to her.
    In that situation where the girl put here self, as man you should help her get home safely do not try to take advantage her because this thinks would always come back to bit you.
    In all of this we were not there when this happens therefore we do not know all the facts about this situation. As it’s always the case girls would play the victim when things go wrong and never want to take responsible for the role they play in situations like this.

  9. Dr. Donald H. Smith

    June 19, 2013 at 2:38 pm

    Serena Williams is probably the greatest female tennis player of all times. She is beautiful and graceful. However, Serena has not read enough and learned enough, particularly about the rape of girls and women, to be taken seriously. No doubt she brings only her own experiences to the discussion.

    • naimanaima

      June 19, 2013 at 6:04 pm

      Just to “piggyback” on your comment about Serena’s statement Donald, I think you’re on point when you say that she “no doubt brings ONLY HER OWN experiences to the discussion.” Therein lies the crux of the matter…Serena did not become all the things you describe by “hanging out” and partying – even as a teenager. She had a set of parents who – fortunately for her – spent their time training her for a career in tennis. By 19, she was garnered a 40mm endorsement w/Reebok. Hers is a singular experience – her sister Venus notwithstanding – where she has been “training for life” ALL her life – an atypical childhood (and adulthood)….And she doesn’t like to LOSE.
      What is so sad about this is that several young people were so DEPRAVED that they took advantage of their OWN PEER. There is a point at which taking advantage of someone -even though it may be infinitely easy to do so – should not even elicit in those so inclined the effort it takes, nor the satisfaction sought, to do so. I think this was one of those situations. They could easily have spared themselves the onslaught of prosecution, media scrutiny, and prison sentences, by simply bringing her to safety.

  10. Haile

    June 19, 2013 at 3:05 pm

    Wether a woman drinks or not or how much, if we were really civilized we would help her to get home safely for we would not like anything else for our mother or sister.We get in all kinds of positions that we should not get into but a real civilized person will not feel that you can now be abused.

  11. serenaisnotcrazy

    June 19, 2013 at 3:09 pm

    I’m sorry. I agree with Serena. What happened to the girl was terrible and it does in no way excuse what those nasty, sick punks did. But every person must do everything they can to avoid loaded situations where you can come to harm. In this case you have a girl, an adolescent of 16 years imbibing alcohol well underage, and this should not have happened. She should not be drinking, nor should she have been so drunk that she was not aware of her surroundings. It’s a gray area, because you can’t say in an instance like this that a person is completely blameless. The majority of the blame goes to the rapists, but the girl has some blame because she knows she should not be drinking. The other kids at the party have some blame too, as do the adults. Their pieces of blame in no way excuse the rapists at all.

  12. Phyllis

    June 19, 2013 at 3:51 pm

    My son is in jail right now because of having sex with a girl that he thought was 18. She was sixteen. He was 21. She invited him along with his friend, who was 24 and her pregnant girlfriend who was also 16, but this young men thought she was older too. The parents pressed charged and my son is a level 1 sex offender with a charge of sexual misconduct. I was told by his probation officer that my son was lucky. At this point he is in jail because he had to wear a gps moniter on his ankle, he couldn’t find a place to live other than my grandsons house and they got evicted so he elected to violate his probation and he will be sentenced July. By the way, he has never been in trouble before. I’m not making excuses for my son. But, understand, this is the saddest time of my life. I am going to be there for my son and I would like to beg you to sit down with your kids ant tell them about these things. By the way, the detectives were so friendly and understanding, as they were talking about this girl in a very negative way. My son never thought about calling me or saying he wanted an attorney, These are the things that we as parents should school our children about. Serena made a good point.

  13. KC

    June 19, 2013 at 4:00 pm

    The men who stuck their s*xual organs into the woman’s body are the ones who did something wrong…are the ones who did something criminal…and the ones we should be talking about. I don’t think minors should be drinking (and I don’t think *anyone* should get drunk), but what happened to her is the fault of the MEN who R@PED her.

  14. Daud Haqq

    June 19, 2013 at 4:30 pm

    The boys are responsible for their criminal behavior,but the girl is also accountable for her irresponsible behavior.

  15. Zaria Griffin

    June 19, 2013 at 4:36 pm

    I am a human being and I love and respect all
    Life. However, if you lay down on a. Busy street. Don’t blame .drivers for
    Running over you.

  16. AL Hill II

    June 19, 2013 at 4:47 pm

    As a man I find the actions of these boys deplorable & criminal, there is nothing a young lady can do that justfies anyone violating her & I would not have allowed any of my friends to do so. With reading many of the female replies 1 thing comes to mind “with friends like you who needs accomplices” & what other poor judgments should allow you to be a victim of what other crimes and or assaults

  17. Mike C. Okereke

    June 19, 2013 at 5:08 pm

    Serena was logical in arriving at her conclusion.

  18. Israeline

    June 19, 2013 at 5:08 pm

    Well, she is a victim and no victim should be accused of the crime.
    What if she had of been drinking lemonaide and they put a drug in her drink, then what? How do we know that something was not put in her drink? As a matter of fact she could have been drinking tea like the doctor’s whose lover gave him drugs. We are too quick to attack. Pretty soon we will be too cold to feel the heat even when its right upon us. Pray! Prey!

  19. M. Hunter

    June 19, 2013 at 6:00 pm

    Serena is correct in stating the facts. She did not blame the girl, she question the girl in putting her self in this position, she question the girl parents. i do not understand why people are angry with her for stating a fact. i find it strange that people are jumping all over Serena for saying what a lot of people are feeling, the girl put her self in this situation, her parents did not teach her self respect, and to protect her self from these type of things. People forget that this girl left with these boys on her own free will, even when her friends tried to stop her, so dont get mad with Serena, look deeper at this girl, her parents, the people that host this so call party where alcohol should not been served.

  20. Sandra Dee

    June 19, 2013 at 6:17 pm

    Rape is rape, they had no right to touch her. If it happened to Serena, I wonder what she would be saying. I doubt she would say it’s her fault.

    • Territc

      June 20, 2013 at 2:39 am

      I doubt any rape victim would blame themselves. But to answer you, Serena would not have put herself in that position and this is the point she was making. I totally agree with Serena. If this underage girl, who should not have been drinking in the first place, had stopped and thought for a moment about her actions, she would not have been in that position. She could have ended up in the side of the road and someone else could have raped her and killed her. I am not justifying the rape at all, but I am saying that people do also need to take responsibility for their actions and subsequent consequences of those action.

      • moonhead

        June 21, 2013 at 7:58 pm

        Could you please tell everyone, how do you know what Serena does, do you know her personally? Do you hang out with her? You sound like a stupid jackass.

  21. Patrica Robinson

    June 19, 2013 at 7:00 pm

    I agree 100% with serena she should not have been drinking she is only 16 yrs old not 46 yrs ok these girl are to grown now they need to stop it ” 🙂

  22. Stuart Campbell

    June 19, 2013 at 8:23 pm

    Predators never run out of victim’s , mother’s teach your daughter’s to be safe, because the animals are out there, waiting for their next victim…sad but true…and the truth shall set you free from the bs of public opinion

  23. Stuart Campbell

    June 19, 2013 at 8:26 pm

    Serena was right and entitled to her opinion “Freedom of Speech” ofcourse it comes with open forums of other people’s opinions…

  24. Stuart Campbell

    June 19, 2013 at 8:30 pm

    Teaching our children to be responsible, makes them better citizens and better decision makers…needs to happen in a big way or we will as a society lose more of our young…and the sad reality is the young represent the future of a people…let’s make it bright.

  25. Tia C.

    June 20, 2013 at 12:45 am

    I think it would have sounded better if she put responsibility and blame on the boys AS WELL. I was not a teen nor drunk but I have been raped. As many times as I said no and cried, I was at that man’s house and honestly I could’ve prevented it by not being there. He was a bastard for what he did, but I didn’t listen to my first mind which told me to stay my butt home. There’s a lesson in everything and I HOPE that’s what Selena was trying to communicate.

  26. Territc

    June 20, 2013 at 2:33 am

    I’m with Serena on this one. There is nothing wrong with her comment. It’s time people took responsibility for their actions and the subsequent consequences for those actions. 16 years old and drinking. There is everything wrong with that. Let’s forget about the rape for a second, but this underage drinking could lead to alcoholism and whole myriad of other problems. Instead of getting on their high horses, these feminists should be teaching these young ladies about respecting themselves, about actions, about consequences and about taking responsibility for their actions.

    I believe what Selena was saying, was think before you act. If this girl had clearly thought first, she would never have been in that situation. And if in doubt, ask someone. Where were her parents?

  27. TIMM DAWG

    June 20, 2013 at 6:28 am

    She should have kept her mouth shut in regards to this incident. She should have made no comment at all. She’s a celebrity with no interest at all in this case. She has nothing to gain in making any kind of comment whatsoever. STAY OUT OF IT SERENA…LOSE LIPS SINK SHIPS!!!…

  28. mike j

    June 20, 2013 at 7:34 am

    This world is so freakin broke it pathetic! You cant even speak the truth without being criticized. It was the truth! They were ALL wrong, but it STARTED with UNDERAGE drinkng.

  29. Phyllis A Johnson

    June 20, 2013 at 8:30 am

    Everybody was wrong . . .16 year olds should not be drinking, more less drunk unto unconsciousness. And teen boys should not be having sex, more less, rape!! You see their are consequences when you do wrong. Now that poor girl has to live with fact she was violated and humiliiated in front of the world and her violators will now have a prison record/sex offender for the rest of their lives not to mention all the scholarships they may have lost and a chance for a bright future in sports. I hope while they are in prison the ask themselves was that worth it?? And I hope the girl ask herself, do I ever need to be that drunk again. Everybody will now suffer. Everyone loses here . . .there are no winners!!

  30. Chinee

    June 20, 2013 at 9:50 am

    I think the boys need counseling instead of jail time, and the girl needs counseling instead of guilt and humiliation. This is a sad situation but punishing the boys for the rest of their lives is not the answer. Ask yourself, what would you want to see happen, if it were your children?

    • moonhead

      June 21, 2013 at 8:06 pm

      They should have given these damn filthy animals the death penalty. I hate you passive, weak liberals. People like you should be exterminated. Now you filthy people want to give rapists counseling, instead of hard time or death. I sincerely hope that someone does this to you, or someone in your family.

  31. S

    June 20, 2013 at 10:56 am

    This is an ugly situation all the way around. I truly believe all parties were responsible (from the ones who purchased the alcohol—to the one’s drinking it.) The boys definitely got what they deserved; they were wrong, dead wrong for raping, taking advantage, and taking picture of her. Alcohol and underage drinking does not mix, never did and never will.

    On the contrary, I somewhat agree with Serena. This young lady should not have been so intoxicated to the point that she was unconscious. Now I do not believe that was her intention to get that drunk but unfortunately she did. She used poor judgment and above all she disrespected herself which unfortunately opened the door for others to do the same. Reading this story even today discusses me—mainly because I remember parties like this when I was in high school & especially college. I remember telling a girl I knew from school that she needed to be careful when she went to parties and drank because there were rumors being going around about what guys were going to do to her the next time she got that way. She did not listen and unfortunately had a similar encounter as this young lady. Did she deserve what she got, definitely not—but I strongly believe she was just as responsible for what happened to her. Who knows, this young lady could have been warned as well. I’ve gone to a lot of parties when I was younger and even now as an adult & many times you see the same people (men & women) completely inebriated. I am not saying this young lady had a history of getting this intoxicated, I do not know her personally and I was not there, but I do know this sort of behavior catches up with you sooner or later. Let’s just hope all parties learned a valuable lesson and this awful situation don’t scare this young woman anymore than it has.

    This can definitely be a lesson learned for young & old. Be careful, smart, & most importantly be responsible for your actions and the actions of others while they are in your presence.

  32. LaTia

    June 20, 2013 at 11:29 am

    Although the teen had put herself in a horrible situation, that doesn’t mean that she is public property and people are able to whatever they please. I wonder if the teen was Serena’s little sister or niece would she feel the same way ? I highly doubt her opinion would be consistent.

  33. Princess P.

    June 20, 2013 at 5:11 pm

    Serena’s words are taken out of context. She never blamed the victim for being raped. Never did she blame the victim. Serena’s comments applies to both young women and young men. Be careful of where you are and who you are with. Do not drink so much or take anything that will take you out of your natural senses. When you do that you make yourself vulnerable and prey for those with evil thoughts.

  34. rubyfromnj

    June 20, 2013 at 8:57 pm

    “She HAD DRUNK herself into a deep sleep.” Learn English grammar, for pete’s sake!

  35. REASONABLE THINKER

    June 23, 2013 at 12:46 pm

    Too many teens are engaging in inappropriate behavior. Sexting, Drinking & Drugs seem to be the norm. The parents don’t even know where their children are or even the names of their friends. This girl got drunk and was taken advantage of. Contrary to popular belief a minor under the influence is a criminal offense. The boys should be punished but as juveniles as they were opportunist not sexual predators. I agree with Serena that females have to assume some responsibility for their actions as men have to assume responsibility for their actions. Teenagers are not thinking or acting like adults. The lives of all involved have been damaged. Education and responsibility are the answer for these crimes of opportunity.

  36. Ann G.

    June 25, 2013 at 7:21 pm

    I agree with Serena, It is against the law for a 16 year old to be drinking period and to drink until she passed out is just plain stupid on her behalf and on the other hand it is against the law to rape or take advantage of someone that is not capable of saying no or protecting themselves so, they both were in the wrong as far as I am concerned. The guys involved should have been given time and she should be introduced to community service around alcoholics!

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