Ayvaunn Penn: Black Men More Likely to Date White Women According to Research

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Black men swore it was a myth. Black women swore it was the truth, but research now gives us the facts both sides have been waiting for. A recent online dating study conducted by researchers at the University of California Berkeley proves that African-American men really are more likely to date white women. In an attempt to explain the reason for this phenomenon, Professor Mendelsohn states, “In this country, our notions of feminine attractiveness are based almost entirely on images of white women… the hypothesis that some people have argued is that there is no surprise that black men should contact white women, because that’s where we get our notions of who’s pretty.”

That is not the end of the startling facts, however. African-American women’s worst fears continue to be confirmed. The Berkeley study also shows that African-American women are the group least likely to be contacted by men of any race. The study showed that if black women did not initiate contact or express romantic interest, they not only failed to be approached by men outside of their culture, they also failed to be approached by men of their own race.

No doubt, this can leave a sista wondering what she can do for her love life. If she’s not wanted by the brothas, should she go out on a limb and approach men outside of her race? “Waiting For My Hershey’s Kiss” from the book entitled Ephemeral Moments — video excerpt above gives a modern black woman’s humorous and outrageous account of how she decided to put black men in their place while also giving vanilla love a try. What choice would you decide to make?

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Ayvaunn Penn is an award-winning writer and author of Ephemeral Moments. This book of poetry and short stories addresses issues such as: struggles Christians face, domestic abuse, racial injustice, a falling economy, and contemporary love – all through the art of poetry and short stories. It is available for purchase on Create Space eStore and For additional book previews, click here To receive The Penn Speaks: Daily Bible Devotionals by email, click here. 


  1. Monique

    June 24, 2013 at 11:38 pm

    Don’t believe the hype. There are a couple of questions to be raised. Is this research from a credible source? Is this another failed attempt at uplifting white women while attempting to put down another group of women? Don’t feed into bullshit media and propaganda and don’t confuse opinions with facts. Who knows if this research is even accurate. Don’t believe the hype.

    • BigWill

      June 27, 2013 at 12:29 am

      ACTUALLY, black men owe a debt of gratitude to the caucasian male for making most BW available to them. No doubt- if caucasian men decided tomorrow to make BW the object of their affection, every BW would be in an IR relationship. I have asked a ton of BW both online and offline if they were open to IR dating? From the responses I’ve gotten at lest 17 out of 20 BW have answered with a resounding “YES” they are ready/willing to date interracially. BM, thank your lucky stars WM are not choosing BW at the same speed as BM are choosing non BW.

    • SYLVIA

      June 27, 2013 at 12:36 am

      Black men are not only partial to white women, they are partial to fair skinned black women! Especially dark skinned black men!

      • HyenaJones

        June 29, 2013 at 12:25 am

        That’s a lie. I’m dark skinned and I love dark skinned women. I’m single and I’m not looking for a white woman. Honestly the pickings are slim to none for me. Reason why? It hurts to say it but,the condition of our women is horrible. It seems like our women want that reality tv life. Drama and foolishness. I’m not perfect but,I do carry myself as a stand up Black Man. I’ve learned that most of our women don’t want that. They want one of these disrespectful guys on tv. I just can’t be that type of person…..idk what’s your take.

        • Adrienne Ashwell

          August 8, 2013 at 1:11 pm

          I’m sorry, my black brother; not all of what you are saying about Black women is true. Do you know that black women ADORE black men? We LOVE our black men; and not because no one else wants us but because you are our black kings. The pickings among Black women are not slim to none but abundant. There are plenty of good, beautiful black sisters out there; myself among them. But brothers sometimes are too willing to quickly “X” a sister out of his life when she displays a flaw. When we’re in relationships with you, we walk on eggshells because of perceived flaws we may unknowingly possess that will drive you away.

          Yes, there are some sisters who seem to like those disrespectful “brothers” on tv. Let me tell you why this is: we love our black brothers so much that we try to be what we THINK you want. If you want seductive, we try to be that. If you want quiet; we try to be that. If you want dumb; we try to be that. WE WANT YOU TO LOVE US. So we work at balancing our needs with the black man’s (sometimes fragile)ego. Not always successfully or even in the right way. but we try. Hence, the reverse would be true: if you want gentle and loving; we’ll be that. If you want virtuous; we’ll be that. If you want respectful: we’ll be that. However, we need those things in return.

          Black women are constantly sent messages that we’re both too much and not enough at the same time. That’s confusing. Then layer fear of losing you on top of that because of some flaw that could be corrected if we only knew it what it was and you were patient and willing enough to stay while we worked on. Layer that with successful black men being sought out by white women. Unfortunately, white women know that a lot of black men desire them and it gives them an edge that sisters don’t have; which leaves the sister who has struggled with you in assisting you to achieve your dreams, left out in the cold. Many black men seem to be flattered by white women who express their intention to be with them. That same trait in a sister is considered “aggressive” and immediately considered a flaw that a brother can’t live with; leaving a sister scratching her head in confusion.

          We black women are so much more than what the world, even our own black brothers see and know. We love our black men so much but our hearts ache for want of beautiful, loving relationships with you. One encouraging word from a black brother and openness to getting to know us better: I mean REALLY know u:, would make all of the difference in the world. Then you eyes would open to see us more clearly; as your African Queens that no woman of ANY race could compete with.

        • Kenny

          December 15, 2013 at 3:01 pm

          I would just like to say that not all Black men are the way that Black women proclaim us to be I’m a Black man who loves Black women and I’m light skinned but that doesn’t really matter its all about respect personally I think that due to the fact that everyone putting Black men down and how tv is portraying us is messed up I feel like most Black women not all but most Black women push Black men to date outside of our race I’m not racist at all its all about RESPECT and treating someone how you want to be treated.

          • Kenny

            December 15, 2013 at 3:06 pm

            Also I would like to say that it all comes down to what you like and if that individual is treating you with respect and We as a People must never forget We are Kings and Queens black is beautiful no matter what anyone or thinks and just like Paul Mooney once said everyone wants to be Black but nobody wants to be Black be proud of who you are and remember cant nobody judge you but God Almighty

  2. obed norman

    June 25, 2013 at 12:17 am

    This is absolutely not true. Only 15% of marriages are interracial. How can this researcher’s finding be even remotely true? This research is irresponsible and the conclusions premature and at best only true for the small sample of the study. This research only perpetuates the racist perception and myth that Black women are unattractive.

    • Clay Thom

      June 25, 2013 at 10:56 am

      Your answer is obvious:
      “Date” does not equal “Marry”. The article only talks about “dating”.

  3. Almighty

    June 25, 2013 at 1:00 am

    That not true people….It aint got shhhh to do with color…

  4. akbar

    June 25, 2013 at 1:07 am

    Just like Django we have another issue that we did not generate that will create more conflict and distrust among ourselves. Like we need help with that. More reason to believe that our longevity as a recreated group of people was not meant to be. It’s not like Black men were prepared to be deluged with white images of beauty and Black images of disgust every since images could be created and printed. This is not a Black male issue its bigger than us. We as Black people never had a chance to be a cohesive people once our language was taken. being poor was never a detriment for the immigrants because they had language which is the glue to a culture or people group. I hurt for what we thought would happen integrating into a culture without getting ANY of the resources or power just an integrated cup of coffee! Wonder what the Creators plan was for the recreated Black people? I admit that I have studied the interracial thing most of my life having grown up at one time in my life in the white suburbs. The white girls in my neighborhood were “free” enough to show me stuff in public while the Black girls in private. Historically, we thought that integration was just about rights, but now we see that it is way more complex than that. I have also discovered an ambivalence with white women. I love dark chocolate Black women but I like going out with white women for reasons that I do not think have substance but is fun for a while. Their racial IQ is very low so I avoid that topic because if she says something common about race that is like putting on a condom every time. I have never allowed a white women to say something about race that is so typical or offensive and stay around because she had a rare big booty. They will date you four ears of college and marry you easily if you get drafted because they see life differently than we do. Her whole social reality and history points towards $$ security. She might love you in her own kind of impersonal way but to her its real love. Most brothers don’t know what hit them in college. We all live in white rejection… then bam, a fine white lady wants only you?! Most brothers are not prepared for any of this and neither were the integrationist. I went to a Black church and a white school. My favorite TV show was dream of Jeannie and Leave it to Beaver, all white. So that is not about just a Black man its what happens when you think Gd is going to work it all out by loving the white man, and holding hands with white children that King advocated. No one is at fault we just thought was the best course of action. Maybe it was but this whole Black man white women ambivalence came with it. They were my teachers, the first Playboy pictures were white, supervisors white women, managers, store clerks, professors, favorite shows, what image is in the Black mind to challenge tis much acculturation? Its a tangled web we have woven through integration hope it was worth it.

  5. JadeKit

    June 25, 2013 at 1:40 am

    It is not a lie or a myth. In my age group, I am 22, you go out to a bar anywhere and black guys are seen with white or hispanic girls most of the time. A few years ago the pew research center reported that 25% of AA male newlyweds got married to non black women. Someone mentioned IR marriages being 15% with white women that doesn’t count the black men that are just dating and shacking up with white women and other races. Check the cohabitation rates. These women are so in denial.

    • TurboTruth

      June 26, 2013 at 7:31 pm

      So if 25% get married to ‘non-black’ (assuming you are comparing heterosexual marriage) women, who do the remaining 75% marry? The survey says, BLACK women. I wish people get their facts straight it sickens me to have to point out things any critical thinking person can see for themselves.

  6. SP08

    June 25, 2013 at 2:30 am

    For all of you people who think this study is a lie, get your heads out of the damn clouds. This is DEFINITELY happening. I cannot go ANYWHERE today and see a Black man with a Black woman. Black men are seeking out more women who aren’t Black especially the college educated ones. I go to the club and me all my Black girlfriends who are good looking, have no attitude, etc all get ignore by Black men for Becky, Tiffany, Amber, and Becca. Stop lying to yourselves. Black women get such a bad rap. Stop sticking up for men who don’t love or want us. Most Black men have demonstrated they don’t want to marry their partners, just screw and make babies. I am personally done with all of that.

    • Chris

      June 25, 2013 at 3:25 am

      And you say you have no attitude? How about reading what you just wrote lmao.

      • Yvey

        June 25, 2013 at 6:18 pm

        She expressed how she feels, doesn’t mean she has an attitude. If u think there’s a nicer way to put the truth, then by all means the stage is yours’

    • Jerz

      June 25, 2013 at 5:50 am

      So because in your angst, YOU stereotype “ALL” black men in the pol of dating other women. ACCORDING TO THE BUREAU OF LABOR CENSUS 89% OF BLACKS ARE MARRIED TO BLACKS.

    • dickens toussaint

      June 25, 2013 at 6:56 am

      Sister don’t become gay its one reason too many fine looking black women became gay.

    • Cindie

      June 25, 2013 at 9:49 am

      I am seeing older black men in my age range with older white women, too! So the next time a nice, older white man asks me out, I am going to say “YES”. My grandfather said years and years ago when his granddaughters were teenagers “to have some pride about yourself and not run after anyone who didn’t want you.” I’m throwing my “running shoes” in the trash.

      • truth

        June 26, 2013 at 12:58 am

        YOU ARE ONE.

        • Kenny

          December 15, 2013 at 3:15 pm

          If we can just hear each other out first then we wouldn’t be so caught up in all of this race stuff If Black women would just hear Black men out first then make there decision instead of just shutting us down from the jump All I’m saying if its not about nothing then do what you have to do but if if sounds like its worth your time then go for it

    • bernie

      June 25, 2013 at 10:31 am

      First let me say this. I’m married to a Black woman and have been for 19 years(July)…a darker complexioned sister at that to be more specific.:) Let me say this though. The truth is just about all of my single friends are either seeking white women or at very opened to them if they come along. Sisters have got to understand that they and not everyone else do have a problem. They have for such a long time had these unrealistic views on men….chose the wrong men while men on the other hand have gotten wiser about the women they choose despite popular opinion. You see how all these clowns in prison have kids. Most of those guys were career criminals but sisters find that attractive. They run to that and then when the game is over and judge slaps 35 years on him. They turn to the so called nerds that they didn’t want to begin with. They need someone with some health benefits. They are constantly raising hell…trying to figure out a way how they are going to get what they want without giving up anything.
      The other thing I noticed and have even been talking to my wife about is Black women are insecure as hell….even the beautiful ones. They want “all” of the attention. The ones that are married are jealous of the ones that aren’t and the ones that aren’t are jealous of the ones that are. I’ll get responses saying that’s not true but I see it everyday. No one wants to tell the truth and now you end up with this. You have Wendy Williams on her show questioning Ochocinco about the white and latin women on his little show. WTF does she care of what he chooses. Black women raise hell about black athletes sleeping with white women. Where is all the hate about Serena? She’s out not only laying around with white men…she’s screwing a married white man and you won’t hear one word about it from Black women. You want to question black men on tv but you want get one woman to
      question Serena.
      So at the end of the day, there is a lot of truth to the article. Just go out to the clubs. The brothers tell me all of the time how white women are easier to approach. It’s not a myth. Just wake up and start having conversations about how you can change it. I’ll give you one hint. Start loving and liking yourselves first and then start loving and liking each other. I can tell you from one Black man that there is nothing that is a bigger turn off then a woman that can’t handle another beautiful woman walking into the room. I am no Denzel Washington but I’m far from being Flavor Flabe and I can tell you that I’d have no problem being in the company of Denzel, Shamarr Moore(remember when light skin brothers was in, Morris Chestnut…all these so called black sex symbols. See we as men understand that those guys can only have so many women. The pendelem Sisters need to get a grip. Stop worrying bout who Ocho prefers and concentrate on the Black man in front of you and for God’s sake stop stepping over good strong black men and running to fools that have no intention on marrying you and you will start to see a change.

      • Vandellish

        June 25, 2013 at 11:15 am

        What you say here is GOLDEN!!!!
        Thank you!

      • Marie

        June 25, 2013 at 11:34 am

        With all due respect, I agree with many of the points you make in your statement. We as black women DO need to start making better decisions when it comes to our love life. HOWEVER, there are several fallacies that I continue to hear black men make in their arguments as to why they choose “other” women. First, I will agree that black women do seek out the “cool” guy or the athletes in high school and the early years. But this also holds true for black males. They don’t go after the quiet nerdy black females in high school. The quiet church going girls don’t get much attention either as I recall, so it goes both ways. This is the same for black men when they make it big. They have a tendency to go after the lighter skin females or date out of their race. These same fellas that I speak of will blame the attitudes of black women for their romantic selections yet black women are not supposed to categorize all black men as being misogynistic, womanizers who only want to sleep with a lot of women with no commitment. This is so unfair and frankly I’m tired of hearing the nonsense. The bottom line is that we suffer from a bad case of self hate. We are conditioned to believe that the lighter the skin, the better in our society. Especially for men. Women, on the other hand are conditioned to be attracted to tall dark and handsome. This reality creates a natural attraction between white or light women and black males.

        It also angers me that in order for a black woman to be a suitable mate, we have to be superwoman. Listen to music. Neyo loves us because we “have our own thang”. We have a job, a nice car, a home that’s almost paid for etc. Webbie or whoever the song belonged to said he wanted us I-N-D-E-P…. (independent). Listen to the music of other cultures. The men place their women on pedestals. Latin men speak of the beautiful senorita.. Country singers talk about how they love their women.. Yet black men love us because we place our selves in a situation to care for ourselves without demanding anything of them. Why do we have to save the world in order to capture the heart of our men? Yet these SAME lames will go out and find becky the waitress at Hooters or some starving model-type and wife her up and let her stay home and take care of the babies and shop. It’s just not fair.

        Black men need to stop with blaming black women for their choices and own up to the fact that they simply desire a white woman. We are all adults here and free to chose who we want. I’m ok with that…just don’t put me and other black women down in an effort to justify your selections. There’s good black women and black men out there and your experience is a direct result of your choices.

        • Truth Speaks

          June 25, 2013 at 11:57 am

          Amen amen!!!!!

        • Pattycake, RN

          June 25, 2013 at 5:24 pm

          Wow, you must be a mind reader bc I couldn’t have said it better myself.

        • Yvey

          June 25, 2013 at 6:38 pm

          Marie, your absolutely brilliant and you hit the nail right on the head. We have some serious deeply rooted issues within us as a people and we need to soul search and come to acceptance with the truth and do something about it.

        • Unk

          June 25, 2013 at 8:07 pm

          Marie, don’t kid yourself. ALL MEN want to sleep with as many women as possible with no commitment. Until a man is seriously ready to settle down, most men will experiment with as many women that will let him. Don’t just put that on black men. And personally, I honestly don’t get hung up this light skinned/ dark skinned thing. I suppose some men do, but I find both light and dark skinned black women equally attractive. I’ve learned that finding a suitable mate has little to do with the external and more to do with the core of a person. I’d be lying if I said attractiveness is unimportant to me. But once I know you, I have to be attracted to who you are or else the relationship will be one-dimensional or just fade away altogether.

          One last thing. Is it possible to get all black women together to decide on what philosophy or idealogy best represents you all as a group? We really need this because you all are all over the place on this one. First you proclaim your liberation and tell the world you don’t need a man. Then we as men celebrate your independence and you get angry at that. Now it’s black men don’t want to take care of their women like other men? You reject the meek nice guy in school and run off with the bad boy. Two babies and a 15 year jail sentence for the bad boy later, you want a man that’s responsible with a good job that can take care of you.

          Clearly you’ve never dated a black woman. If you did you would at least feel some of my pain. Personally I love black women and have no intentions of crossing over, but as a group, there is still a lot of work to be done.

          • BigWill

            June 27, 2013 at 1:10 am

            Both Bernie and Unk are spot on. Now, only if their superb suggestions would do more than go in one ear and out the other.

        • bernie

          June 25, 2013 at 10:38 pm


          Thanks for your response…so lets address this notion that black men tend to choose lighter skinned or white women. You even said yourself that sisters tend to light tall dark skinned men and they do. So as you said it goes both ways. It’s about a preference right. A sister wanting some guy that is 6’5 and dark is no different than some brother wanting a blonde blue eyed white woman. It doesn’t matter what the reason is. I’m 5’9 and light skinned. So I trust me…I know what some sisters go through because I went through it as a man. My point is though that I didn’t hold that against sisters. I found one that wasn’t shallow. No, all sisters aren’t shallow but the truth is it’s sisters that have the problem or are complaining. You don’t hear brothers complaining…white women…white men…latin women or men etc. So all I’m saying here is there has to be a problem if 70 percent of sisters aren’t married. I’ll also tell you that many men will sleep with a number of women but when they find one that is right…they will marry them if they are the marrying type. All men aren’t and they are pretty easy to tell early in the relationship if women aren’t so stuck on the guy being 6’5 and all the other shallow nonsense. Brothers can be shallow as well…the difference is this. There are an abundance of women so men that have themselves together can afford to pick through. Black men have their own issues. Many have records…they are locked up…have 3 or 4 kids with 3 or 4 women….then you have educated sisters out here narrowing their choices even more with superficial nonesense. It’s not that you have to be super woman…you just have to come to the table with something besides what’s between your legs now. I still hear all the horror stories of sisters thinking they haven’t went on a good date unless the guy is spending 150 dollars. As I told you before, brothers are changing the game and how they view women. You’d be surprise but there a truck load of brothers that are choosing lesser attractive women whether they are black or white that have something going for themselves. Those days of women that look like say Halle Berry or Angela Basset but they are working on fries in mcdonalds getting executives from IBM are over. If you come with nothing…you will get nothing.

          Another problem I’ve noticed is many sisters spend much of their 20’s and 30’s getting a career together….and don’t have time for a serious relationship. They have to show the world they can take care of themselves…then they hit 36 or 38 and want to settle in and have a family…they go through the next few years with their superficial standards and get a bunch of twerps. Then they hit 40 and find it increasingly difficult and now the clock is they take the first thing that comes along that will hop on the train. Here is a serious reality check for sisters. Very few men if any at all are looking to marry a woman at 45. Men that are married most of the time know they want to be married at an early age. So what I’m saying is this. You can’t wait until your career is in order and then go try to find a man. By the time a man is 45ish…he’s either already been married or not looking to be married. Of course everyone knows a black man or two that have gotten married but you go back and you think. How many brothers do you hear or see running around at 45 talking about he’s looking to start a family. It’s pretty much too late at that point unless you are willing to go back and marry a 30 year old man. I have nothing to gain here so I’m just telling you what other brothers may not because I have nothing to gain. I speak to them on a daily basis and I’m telling you this is not just in this region…it’s all over. It is what it is.

        • truth

          June 26, 2013 at 1:45 am


      • Island Diamond

        June 26, 2013 at 8:32 am

        What you say is indeed golden. I see it everyday.

        Sistas can’t stand to see another sista looking good or betta than them. Ask for me….My husband and I would be watching TV. A beautiful woman comes on the screen…I would be the first to say “She’s gorgeous!”

        Sistas need to stop being crabs in a barrel.

        Love what you said brotha.

    • BigWill

      June 25, 2013 at 11:41 am

      Both SP08 and JadeKit are spot on. The majority of other posters remain in complete denial. The article is highlighting what many of us see on a daily basis and this dating pattern will only increase. BW should accelerate their IR dating because BM are not going to stop as long as there are white women available.

    • Fkblkmenwhohatblkwm

      June 25, 2013 at 11:33 pm

      Your right I seen the same thing in Orange County most of the Uncle toms can’t even say hi to women who look like their mother, sister, or female relative because they too busy looking for their next free ride and sisters aren’t having it so the next thing is becky, maria, lee lee and any non black woman as long as they can get someone to support their nappy azz

    • TurboTruth

      June 26, 2013 at 7:34 pm

      Well, if you’re hanging in the clubs, you probably are not going to meet the Black Family that stays at home, does activities like camping, church, traveling, and other family oriented activities. So you’re actually reporting ‘skewed’ results, based on environmental issues. IF you want to see black couples , you have to do the things black couples do. I see when I go out on the weekends many families (or what appear to be families) of black people living life. But you club heads, wanna be baller chasers get mad because the ballers wont choose you, and if you are in that ‘meat-market’ environment you need to accept that you are just not that sexy.

  7. SP08

    June 25, 2013 at 2:32 am

    The Census numbers actually SUPPORT the FACT that interracial marriages have gone up and that Black men are most likely to marry outside of their race. You can sit here and wait for a Black man all you want and pass by all these eligible non-Black men who are interested in you and end up single and lonelier than a mug.

  8. Isis

    June 25, 2013 at 3:03 am

    I have been seeing articles like this for years, and I often wonder what is the real agenda behind these articles? They can be very discouraging for a sister who desires to marry a black man. I also believe you cannot speak for everybody, yes I have met brothers who openly prefer white women, but so what they’re many more brothers and men of other races who desire black women too. Let me tell you sweetheart I have no problem pulling any man Black, white, Hispanic, Asian, whatever but guess what my husband is black and I love him with every cell in my body. I am so tired of these articles that try to hit below the belt, I always feel like we are being attacked.

    • TurboTruth

      June 26, 2013 at 7:40 pm

      Hear you sister. IMHO these articles are written by agenda laden individuals, usually self promoting a book or another angle. Rarely will they provide substance and evidence supporting their claims, and often cite other shaky studies as ‘proof’. Additionally, analysis of their research practices show bad scientific methods and just terrible research in general. For example, some of these respondents actually claim ‘25% black newlywed men marry non-black’ as if that is a big deal, without realizing they are actually indirectly saying ‘75% of black newlywed men marry black women’ account for error Im sure we can accept in a free world 25% or so of the people who can choose may choose to date someone not ‘ethnically similar’ . The hyperbole and hysteria that is ‘ginned’ up is an attempt to cloud critical thinking peoples communication and to distract us from the real issues. [MARS BITCHES] lol ok sorry hard to stay serious (although this is a serious issue) because we’ve seen this movie before, we know the plot, and we know how it ends. A bunch of racist so called scientist telling us yet again how phucked up we are when we know we not as phucked up as they wish we were.


  9. J. D. Hill

    June 25, 2013 at 3:49 am

    Black women, please smile, dress somewhat conservatively, and make yourselves approachable to men . . . of all races. Black men do not belong to Black women. The Black man is now free to choose, as the White man has always been!
    So, it’s O.K. for Black women to date, marry, and have children with men of other races as well as with Black men. If you want a man and a husband, look at the men who are looking at you.

    • Dr. T. D. Anthony

      June 25, 2013 at 5:49 am

      Most Black women do not care that these Black men are dating outside of their race. I happen to be one of them. It’s some of them I wouldn’t think twice about or waste conversation on. The issue is when White women believe that they are better than, smarter, prettier than a sister because she is with a Brother. Truth be told. We are not trying to bleech our skin to make it lighter to look like theirs. But, they are in tanning salons and on the beach every chance they get to tint their skin to look like us. We are not paying plastic surgeons to give us curves, unlike them, because we have them naturally. We are not getting calligon injected in our lips to have full lips, unlike them, because we have them naturally. We don’t have to get breast implants to have full breast, unlike them, because we grow them. We don’t have to get botox injected into our faces, unlike them, because we naturally age gracefully. They are the ones that actually have issues with us. Not us having issues with them and some of these brothers that they are keeping company with, Some of these brothers we wouldnt be caught dead with. You also have to understand, most Black women are raised to be a young woman. Meaning that unlike White women who are quick to drop the panties and give up the goods, we don’t. Brothers don’t want to wait. They also want a White women because they know she is docile and easily controled. Whereas, most Black women, will not be that way. Dont get me misconstrued. There’s a huge difference between being controlled and being submissive to your man. Most Black men don’t understand the differences, that’s why they perceive control as submission from women of other races. Just for the record, i get approached by men of all races. I can go on but I will not. Please excuse any typos. This was typed from a smart phone.

      • Khe

        June 25, 2013 at 8:03 am

        Amen Dr T.D

      • bernie

        June 25, 2013 at 11:02 pm

        Dr, Anthony,

        I hear what you are saying but lets keep it real. If I see one more Blonde Weave on a Black woman I will die. White women do a lot of what you say, but Black women do a lot to look like white women as well would you not agree. Let me also say this with all due respect. “all” women get approached at some point during a day or weekly basis. There is a difference however in a man approaching one and trying to have a serious relationship with one. Maybe you have it like that but I just want to be sure that we are talking about the same thing. The issue here is not whether or not sisters are being approached, the issue is black men aren’t marrying them.

        I also have to address the issue of white women dropping their panties faster. Do you really think that is the case? Not only do sisters drop their panties just as fast, they tend to drop them to guys that are either gang bangers or on some other fast track to prison or the grave yard. If what you say is true, why is it that they don’t have the out of wed lock baby numbers that sisters have? Again, I just think we have to be honest and start telling the truth if anything is going to get resolved.

        • Island Diamond

          June 26, 2013 at 8:37 am

          True dat (Caribbean slang) 🙂

        • TurboTruth

          June 26, 2013 at 7:50 pm

          Real talk there brother Bernie.

      • TurboTruth

        June 26, 2013 at 7:47 pm

        Truth comes out. It’s not at all about ‘black men’ , but more about ‘what white women think’ , or what black women (who are buying this hype), think white women think about black women (freaking Inception was a great movie,).

        So twisted this outrage, so insidious the racism and methods those with a white supremacy agenda have developed. A serious mind trap. I wonder what Dr. TDAnthony has a doctorate in?

        I will say this, as a ‘brutha’ its difficult to find a ‘sista’ that has her mind and body together. Can we get both (Fries and shake?) Seems its a dumb chick with a banging body/face or a braining PHD doctorate that is so full of themself that you should just love them for being fat, mean, and lazy/boring.

    • D rhyme

      June 25, 2013 at 10:29 pm

      Wow. Thought you were sensible. Your solution is like solving a problem by creating another one. If black men disrespect their mothers then black women should disrespect their fathers. Self hatred is not good and accepting the white standard of beauty IS THE DEFINITION OF SELF HATE. PLEASE DO NOT RESPOND I MIGHT THROW UP AT YOUR ANSWER.

      • D rhyme

        June 25, 2013 at 10:37 pm

        That was for Mr JD Hill.

  10. Tammy

    June 25, 2013 at 3:52 am

    This so called study is the reason why Black Folks should study Black History. White men have loved our beautiful black skin and bodies since slavery. I get so sick and tired of every research study conducted by white folks always indicating that “Africans Americans are always the race that has the highest rate of every social ill in America which is total Bullshit.

    • Khe

      June 25, 2013 at 4:58 am

      Loved our beauty??? Savage rapes and burdened with loving the results thats how history show us us how much the white man “loved” our bodies . with that freshly etched in the minds of most african american woman wrecked and ravaged is the relations between black woman and white males so you see asking most black women to date outside their race is like asking them to willingly make passionate love to an established enemy and threat ….take it how u want but crack a history book black men stop wearing your ass as a hat thank you stay blessed

      • elaine

        June 25, 2013 at 1:21 pm

        You’re correct, Khe, thanks.

      • Yvey

        June 25, 2013 at 6:48 pm

        Thanx khe, for explaining to these ignoramus’ why it is a crime against our ancestors and nature for us beautiful black queens to lay with those savage animals’

  11. LovelyCaramel

    June 25, 2013 at 4:08 am

    If some black women want to most black women to sit waiting for black men to come for them until they are old and dusty let them. I can’t do it, I have been attracted to other races all my life and the older I get the more I realize that they are the ones that check for me when I have my tan and natural hair. They also treat me well. Black men go for whoever they want as they should and so do I and other black girls. All these women denying the facts because they have a black husband, good for you, but do not sit and here and tell younger black women that there is a surplus of black men worth their time wanting to date them because you are lying. You are going to have them being fools talking about waiting on their “black king” because you found yours and all that mess when the numbers say otherwise. These girls in the upcoming generations are going to look at you crazy when their black male counterparts are chasing after lighter skinned and other race girls while you spread the lie that most black men want black women because you do not want to face the facts .There are all types of good men they can have relationships with.

    • Yvey

      June 25, 2013 at 7:00 pm

      Right miss lovely caramel (cuz your name says its all) typical house nigger mentality, your so grateful to the man that you have certain opportunities in life so it doesn’t bother you that other black women suffer from heart ache and yearning the love and affections of their own men. How could you encourage myself and other young black women to lay with those monsters after all they’ve done to us. They raped and tortured us for no reason except because they were egotistical pigs power tripping and wanted exercise their strength and show the black man how weak he is that he can’t protect himself or his women from the atrocities and horrible pain staking events that took place. No! Hell no! You can’t say it’s ok, in essence your saying forgive and forget…it’s a part of the past. But that’s bullshit cuz it’s that past that’s brought us to this present. You need to sit and be quiet, your not a black women, your one of their offspring. Ur DNA was conceived from the rape of my ancestors’

      • BigWill

        June 27, 2013 at 1:33 am

        @Yvey- I greatly appriciate your conviction, strenght and spirit. You are a beautiful person and we need more like you.

      • Kitana

        June 28, 2013 at 11:32 am

        Get out of here with that old slave rhetoric BS. Stop trying to convince black women not to expand their options because unless a black woman is screwing a man that is almost 200 years old, then the white man she is dating was not around when all that happened. We are talking about NOW and right now the climate for ” black men only” black women is not looking to good sweetheart. I am pretty sure some black men and women will still date each other but the numbers are short for the women’s interest. People do need to stop lying. They are the ones on youtube bashing us, not other races of men. Also, where did she say only white men? Black women can date hispanic men, asians and other ethnicity. Black women are going to see that black men only start talking this ‘we are all in this together mess’ when black women are making moves away from them. They need their mammies while they pursue other women.Any other time black women are insulted or attacked you hear a few good blakc men or crickets.

    • bernie

      June 25, 2013 at 11:09 pm


      I for one think you should go with whatever makes you happy, but don’t be fooled. There are plenty of Black men that will probably want you, but you have put your bid in early…in your early years. Don’t wait until you’ve had 3 kids by 3 different men and packed on 60 pounds and in your mid 40’s….:) It doesn’t work that way and it may be too late for the sisters that have done this but there are plenty of black men as well as others that want to be married but men in general aren’t hearing that chit after 40. That’s just a fact of nature. You will find a few instances where it has happened but for the most part. It goes the way I just described it. So I wish you well in finding the right one. 🙂

      • D

        June 28, 2013 at 11:55 pm

        How do you know what is going to happen to LovelyCaramel in the future? That same analogy you gave to LovelyCaramel can be said about all women. Living in Southern Cali, professional Black men will marry a white, hispanic, pacific islander, asian, etc. women who have 3 kids by 3 different men with packed on 60 pounds, in there mid-40s, on welfare, negative attitudes, etc. & professional nonblack men will marry a Black women in the same category. Look if Black men want nonblack women, fine. Now maybe where you live at is different, but seriously, please stop telling Black women what they should do because the reality is men will date/marry who they want to date/marry. So if Black men want to be with nonblack women, so be it, & at the same time Black women will go with men who want them, i.e. Black, Latino/Hispanic, Asian, Pacific Islander, other Blacks (Latinos, Caribbean, Africa, etc.), etc.

  12. Deborah

    June 25, 2013 at 4:43 am

    I would like to know why anyone cares about this! Black men can date who they want! Black women can date who they want! This is the WEST! The WEST is RACIST in beauty standards! Go back to Africa, and you will see beautiful black women married to strong black men! Ignore this bullshit! DRAK GIRLS RULE!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    I’m a proud black woman!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • Yvey

      June 25, 2013 at 7:18 pm

      Yea Deborah thanx for that, I nearly agreed with you but then I thought go back to Africa and do what. We’re not welcome there, we’re foreign to those lands, we’re clueless to the tradition and rich culture. We know nothing of our history or even where to start looking. All of it was snatched away and stolen from us. And the more we continue on this path or self hatred self loathing and interracial dating the further we’ll go away from the truth or wanting to go back to mother land. There’s gonna come a time wen it’ll be pointless to care about our own. The fact of the matter is black women get a bad rap, yes we’re the most desired woman on this planet but to what degree, men in general see as a sex symbol and not just because today that is the role we’ve chosen to play based in the fact that we’re suffering from an identity crisis, but because since the beginning of time we were treated like cattle and put on display like animals for our unique body’s and flawless beauty/figures. Sarah bartman was one of the many African women that was exploited until she died from syphilis. This isn’t just about interracial dating, it’s about what they did to us and are still doing and still getting away with it. Who is going to persecute them for their ancestors did? No one? Because the first thing they’ll say is we aren’t responsible for what put ancestors did yet they’re still reaping the benefits of the legacy their four fathers left behind for them and we’re still suffering as a race because of it. So where does it end? Wen do we say enough is enough. Give it all back, if your really changed and you want to make good on all the bad your ancestors did to us give us back everything they took, & they’ll never do it. They like the system that’s is place just the way it is’

      • truth

        June 28, 2013 at 2:21 pm

        if they tell you to go back to say give the indians back their land,and pay us for kidnapping our ancestors and their offspring and then we will think about it,but wait you have to
        pay us for reparation like you did seven races in america from 1971 up until 1985

  13. bahati sobukwe

    June 25, 2013 at 4:52 am

    Have you guys noticed that every week-end black men take their “others’ shopping in the mall? Showing her off, I say. That’s what makes it look so pervasive. What’s with that brothers? We see your betrayal!

    Especially, the black woman sees you, she birthed you, fed you, burped you, stayed up all night with you, and wiped your noisy, messy little black baby ass, sat in the emergency room at three am praying her baby boy’s temperature went down.
    She was the one who cheered you on at your performance as a bunny rabbit at the Easter Sunday Church play, and years later, cheered you on from the stands at his high school games and clapped the loudest at your graduation.

    Now, you’re all grown up attacking black female’s self esteem via gangster rap “music, movies like Norbit, Big Momma’s House, Precious, District 9, Good Hair and MaDear”, that hold the black female (victim of white supremacy) up for public ridicule; utilize words and images that portray the black female as ugly, obese, materialistic, evil, and diseased. MOST black men know this is a White Supremacy game plan and they ain’t buying it!

    • Truth Speaks

      June 25, 2013 at 11:28 am

      What I see is “can’t beat ’em might as well join him”
      The quickest way to DESTROY a people is thru their WOMEN.
      Take away the backbone & protector, the male. This leaves the female unprotected on so many levels: financially, physically, mentally…etc.
      These are the rules of war>>> The Lynch Laws>>> read them! It’s the blueprint for every f-ed situation plaguing AA to this very day.

      True BM and BW can date whomever they want. But don’t let the DEVIL trick you into believing we weren’t made to be PAIRED together. Giraffes don’t mate with cheetahs EVEN THOUGH THEY PROBABLY COULD. Just because you can do something DOESN’T MAKE IT RIGHT!

      For you fools who think with your d*ckbrain…if you are conditioned to believe another races women are more beautiful than your own you are sad and sorry and prove that you are WEAK: we don’t want you or your lame man parts.
      Do you not understand how you are getting played? If advertising didn’t work, commercials wouldn’t be worth millions. There would be nothing to watch during super bowl breaks. Every day all day we are bombarded with the MYTH that weak white women are somehow better than every other women. Only weak whack people succumb to that b.s. white women couldn’t survive if put under the strange and strangulating conditions BW have had to endure. THAT’S why they are coddled so…because they are loose and fragile. No woman has been more loyal to their men than BW and this is how you repay us? By sleeping with, marrying and ultimately giving much needed wealth back to Mr. White Folks. Yeah…Tiger’s Becky the Nanny didn’t bring those millions she ‘earned’ as a professional trophy wife, back to the hood. No no no. ‘Beautiful’ Becky did what any smart person would do…took her hundred million back to empower and enrich her white country. Trust that NONE of that will get past her two mulatto children, who after enduring being raised in an all white country…will no doubt grow up and marry white as well screwing every bit of color out of themselves…smh. Survival of black families goes way farther than your 6 inch prick…smh.

      • Yvey

        June 25, 2013 at 7:29 pm

        Truth has truly spoken. All men’

    • Yvey

      June 25, 2013 at 7:24 pm

      Thank u bahati, couldn’t have said it any better myself’

    • truth

      June 28, 2013 at 3:23 pm

      because brothers know you will betray with them with that whiteboy if the money is right,and alllllllllll the
      sisters see it and have nothing to say about it because they condone it. a lot of blackwomen have put themselves on the auction block for a whiteman to buy,and they is cheap as hell by the dozens.blackmen
      cannot account when he seen a blackwoman with a whiteman and other blackwomen had nothing to say about,such a selfish hypocrite.brothas know about what you do with these whitemen on your job,in public,at the give them the control of a slave master,and we as blackmen are helpless to do
      anything about it because it is about money,opportunity,and genetics,and of course desperation to be saved
      from a life you consider to be pathetic.blackmen know that you think that a whiteman is better than him
      on all have proved it through every standard of life in america.A lot of blackwomen look for
      more white in a blackman in order to except him.I remember back in the eighties when height was not an
      issue with blackwomen until white women stated that they wanted tall,dark and handsome.all of a sudden
      blackwomen been jumping on board every since,and as soon as a whiteman set a standard of what suppose
      to exceptable in a man,you look for blackmen to have it while you are replicateing white girl hair,ways,and
      their looks.first of all,i think it is almost impossible to compete with a whitegirl by her being natural and
      you are showing a unatural fake white look.stop giveing the blackman the white look,and give him the black look.blackwomen dont realize that they are prepareing a blackboy,or man for a whitewoman through
      her images of a whitewoman,but if the sisters wear the afro,refuse to wear their makeup,then they can
      compete because what ever blackman chose you,he will be chooseing you for who you really look like
      and that look is not based on a white female image,but brothas that choose blackwomen with a white image,blackwomen will never know if he is chooseing her for a white image,or a black image.The fact that
      a lot of black wm have conditioned this into the minds of blackboys and blackmen by not being responsible for her image in order for blackmen to except,but a lot of you is sooooo hypocrital that if you
      seen a lot of white girls in the mall rocking a afro,and talking like she is black,the first thing you would say
      is she wanna be black and she needs to stop,and probably would assume she is looking for a blackman
      well blackwomen what are doing ?. brothers know that you dont like them like you like whiteboys.
      dont pretend like you dont know when you do.blckmen watch,and hear you shove compliments down the throat of a whiteboy for no reason at all.this is so disgrsacful,but a lot of you decide to get angry as as soon as
      you see a whitewoman with a blackman.we know how you really feel about us regardless of what you say,
      so please stop the lies.when you decide to get out of your pride and realize that you are promoteing the
      white image through a black image,and decide to change it,then the brothas that really want a real
      blackwoman will approach some accountability because whitewoman did not leave their men
      when they realize that they liked bigbutts and curves,what they did they went and got them to please their
      men so if a whitewoman is easier to approach,why not make it easier for a blackman instead of applying
      a easy relaxed standard to a whiteboy in order for him to get some,apply the same to the brothas.its
      obvious your not worrying about respect because you will give it up to a whiteboy quickly so they can call
      blackwoman all types of whores,or money hungry whores.a lot you been whitemen whores for to long
      but you expect us to marry you.its so obvious that you rather be called a hoe by a whiteman than you
      would a brotha.I think it would be more appropriate from your race than from a race that continue to
      degrade you nationally,and internationally.blackmen just do it in the community but whitemen go big
      on defameing blackwomen characters THATS MAKEING YOU MORE UNDESIRABLE because your not
      haveing any respect for yourselfs,and dont think your not pissing these whitewomen off and makeing
      them think about dateing a blackman when you are there flirting with their men.whitewoman wants some
      get back some racial accountability by acting like you love your men instead of every chance
      you get to flirt and have sex with a whiteguy in front of blackmen and whitewomen.THE ACTIONS THAT

      • Pattycake, RN

        June 29, 2013 at 9:31 am

        @ Truth,

        I have seen that as well, it’s a double edged sword, however, to my peeps I would like to dedicate that old school song by Miles Jaye…”Let’s Start Over”. For those that want to hear but not for those who don’t want to listen.

      • Tony Castro

        June 24, 2014 at 10:27 pm

        @Truth, your commentary is hurtful because it is so vivid and real. Black women give up control to a white man at the blink of an eye. He is the gold standard, and black women show, and reminded us of this both consciously, and subconsciously.

  14. Alexis

    June 25, 2013 at 5:09 am

    John McCain’s son just married a Black woman. So, it’s not that Black women are not wanted, but rather we choose not to date outside of our race. However, this too shall pass! If our brothas claim to no longer have interest in us, then there are other races who are. We are slowly but surely taking our eyes off brothas for the OTHERS!

  15. Khe

    June 25, 2013 at 5:11 am

    Interracial couples are the “browning” of the world like it once was before all the albinos up and left to Europe be happy we all about to be black in a couple generations eat that for breakfast white supremacy

  16. Ish Muhammad

    June 25, 2013 at 5:24 am

    This BS is like the light skin Dark skin BS when it was crackers who did this by forcing Himself on Black Women! Thank you Massa tired of the BS! Most Brothers will Marry Black Women has we always have! The Big crime was telling any group of Black person’s that Jesus & God is White,like Mr Muhammad said the Devil is a Liar! If He went around telling the truth He would not be who he is & always was! We unconteious Blacks are like Frankenstein & Frankensteina We are like the Whiteman’s Dog think & believe Everything Massa Say on the Tel-lie-vision crack some books open & try to acquire Wisdom to pass on Prophet Isa(Jesus) was & is a Blackman stop running after these Woods who show up every few years claiming they are the one? Naw we looking for your own Black Brother Dummy most of these crackers are cult leaders & only crackers lead Cults let some Negroes get a Cult He will be rolled on Quick! Jim Jones the Government let him kill & steal from Negroes Dummy! The Last trick crackers will use on ignorant Dumb Unsuspecting Negroes is to give you His Woman good luck OJ some Niggas need to be shot in the Head for being so ignorant! I try to learn from others mistakes only a fool would experiment on Himself in such a way! Big Broke Dummy because they work to keep ignorant Negroes Broke!

  17. Ish Muhammad

    June 25, 2013 at 5:31 am

    These Negroes show-up around other Blacks to say I made it or I have arrived which is BS or look who I got! Most crackers I know are trying to dump these White women & get an Asia Chick No Doubt because they say they are Money Hungry & Sluts this is from a Whiteman Dummy!

    • Pattycake, RN

      June 25, 2013 at 5:38 pm

      Are aboriginals considered Black? Is Kim K. aboriginal?

  18. Jackson

    June 25, 2013 at 5:41 am

    The older I get I feel that our men hate themselves therefore they hate us. There is no other race will speak out publically in a negative way about women frome their race like African men. I have heard them say on the radio and on TV that they date white women and women of other races becasue, they get oral sex, sex on demand, and their food is ready when they get home. I feel that they always try to reduce a Queen down to something sexual. It is very hurtful. As far as the study I feel that it is a bunch of BS. Sociey and the media has always set it up as Black women are sex toys and white women are desirable angles. The world knows that black women was raped, beat, tortured, and still had to work the masters plantation. The Black man is the only man who want to marry his oppressers daughter. The same white man who owns the prisons, The same white man who run the prisons. The same whie man who get the contracts for the soap, toothpast, orange uniforms, etc. He wants his daughter over his African Queen. Jewish man can’t and will not date or marry German women who grandparents participated in Hitler’s extermination of his people. The Jewish community actually have a community where we don’t their children don’t learn their culture in school like black children. They learn their culture in the home.

    • sarah

      June 25, 2013 at 9:15 am

      You hit the nail right on the head…My husband and i just had this conversation the other day. I’ve always felt the black man hates and does not respect himself. Because if he did, he’d want the very best for himself, he would n not mutilate the black women with his word, hurt her with his strength and run from her like a slave.

    • Truth Speaks

      June 25, 2013 at 12:03 pm

      Indeed!!!! Truer words have never been spoken!!!!

  19. Rita

    June 25, 2013 at 6:07 am

    I think that women of color are beautiful, sensual and many times just gorgeous! I am light complected Italian woman (not a dark skin Italian) and I was married to a black man, that now, comparing to the Africans around me, I see him as a light skinned man. I hate the division of colors and labels, and I do understand what the writer Ms.Ayvaunn Penn is saying about feeling “less” that a white (pink?) woman. I am sorry for this feeling that somehow it appears a little as a competition between women, not necessarily because of the color of the skin, but because the man seems to betray his own race. (Well, are we not all part of the human race, regardless?) However, I do believe that opposite attracts and that many time it is the reason for choosing someone different from you.

    Now that I am in Italy, surprisingly enough, I see many married couple where he is Italian and she is African. It did not use to be this way about 20 yrs ago. Now it is common to see Italian men stepping out of the norm by choosing brown skin women as their partners, as mothers of their children. I think it is awesome!

    We should marry who we truly love and care for without the barrier of nationality, color of skin, religion etc. At least, this is what I believe. God bless you all beautiful Brown Skin Queens <3

  20. nathan

    June 25, 2013 at 6:42 am

    Unattractive??? my dark skin sisters my light skin sisters are the most beautiful species on the face of he earth. i agree with everthing jo-nathan has to say. we as black men not only have to protect our black women from physical harm but also from propagnda that causes low self esteem. this is a clear tactic of divde then conquer the black race.

    • Truth Speaks

      June 25, 2013 at 12:05 pm

      Ty Nathan!!!!!! Thank u for remaining a ‘protector’

  21. jan

    June 25, 2013 at 6:56 am

    And this information helps us how ???? We have no more important issues to address because? Well if this is all we are concerned with, all the problems we face as a people will continue and you can count on that. This is just too ignorant to continue discussing.

    • DebNBrooklyn

      June 25, 2013 at 11:29 am

      Bleaching creams and mutilating hair chemicals on our babies (literally) is not too ignorant to discuss.

  22. Edward Smikle

    June 25, 2013 at 7:13 am

    We have reached a sad state of affair, when black men reject the women of their race for one who will gladly call you the N-word.
    Most of this come form low self esteem, and inability to read and understand history. If we were taught our true history, or wanted to know our history we would make better choices in our relationship.Unfartunately the survey that is used to make this argument was done in the United States. First of all United States does not represent the world. Secondly, the African American, are not the brightest of black men in the world.Most of them think with their sex organs and their stomach, because when it comes to intellegent they are no where to be found. Thirdly the survey were done talking to maybe blackathletes, and entertainers and you dont have to look too far to understand rhat these are not intellegent men. Example look at OJ Simpson. A perfect example of a fool, and the list go as long as my arm. Most of the men are in the entertainment field, because they never spend much time in the library reading about the history and struggle of their ancestors.
    The majority of them can hardly read and understand the contract that they sign with the basketball team, or the football team, or even the record contract that they sign. Look where they end up, on drugs and in many case pennless. Because that white women get most of the money, in other words they are high end prostitute. They take the money and may end up with a white man, maybe.
    We all seem to believe African Americans are the expert on black intellegence, well they are not with few exception, they are the dummist jackasses out there.
    And they play right into the hands of their slave masters, because they are short sighted, and are after the quick buck, and do not know what to do with it when they get it., they always take it right back to the people who they get it from to ask for help, and they take them to the cleaners.
    After all everybody is entitled to love whomever they please, but would that white woman love that black man if he did not have great earning potential?.Blackmen all over the world have issues with relationship, some are their fault, but lot of time it comes from slavery mentality.
    We never took the time to analyses the impact of slavery on our minds amd how we behave, and until we brgin to take responsibility to teac or children the history of slavery, and oppression, and our ancestors were mistreated we will continue to look down on our women as well as our men. I know I have two nieces who are married to white men. So I have ediots in my family as well. Sad part about it I work hard to help them to get a good education, but this does go to show you, this can happen in any family.

    • Truth Speaks

      June 25, 2013 at 12:15 pm

      God bless you for speaking your truth! I agree with many of your points. The truth can be a bitter pill for some folks to swallow but white supremacy doesn’t work if the people they are trying to oppress are EDUCATED. Educated people are EMPOWERED people. It is NOT in the best interest of the white man’s system to have empowered people. This system ENSURES that ALL wealth leads back to WHITE PEOPLE ESPECIALLY WHITE MEN. Your boss is white for a reason. And even if your direct supervisor isn’t white….all roads lead back to a white man somewhere even if that white man is ‘Uncle’ Sam. Free your minds and the rest will follow!

  23. Labimmer

    June 25, 2013 at 7:21 am

    Who cares!

  24. Torrance Muhammad

    June 25, 2013 at 7:27 am

    It’s very interesting that this survey comes out right after Oprah’s “Black Girls”.
    Satan is always working, I’m a black man and I have never dated a white women and don’t care too, how could I? How could I leave the mother of civilization for that which came from her/us. The children of a lesser God could never compare or compete with God. Family, don’t worry about this, let them keep mixing with us, shortly they will have mixed themselves right off our planet. Then we will never again have a race problem, believe that…for they will no longer exist.

    • D rhyme

      June 26, 2013 at 12:19 pm

      Light skinned versus darker blacks is often worse than white versus black
      You have an overly simplistic solution to a complex problem.
      In fact you will rid the world of all things black – language, history, culture, pride. Your solution will create a world of no diversity. You are therefore a racist if you want to rid the world of races. Do you hate black so much that you want to rid the world of blacks? You want a world of all light skinned house nyggahs. You are worse than the KKK. even worse you think you can hide your hatred by mixing with blacks. You are the most dangerous racist on the planet.

  25. Torrance Muhammad

    June 25, 2013 at 7:32 am

    It’s very interesting that this survey comes out right after Oprah’s “Dark Girls”.
    Satan is always working, I’m a black man and I have never dated a white women and don’t care too, how could I? How could I leave the mother of civilization for that which came from her/us. The children of a lesser God could never compare or compete with God. Family, don’t worry about this, let them keep mixing with us, shortly they will have mixed themselves right off our planet. Then we will never again have a race problem, believe that…for they will no longer exist.

  26. Jennifer

    June 25, 2013 at 7:46 am

    Opposites attract.

  27. j/k

    June 25, 2013 at 7:58 am

    Black women are out performing Black men in the professional world. Many of them want to be with someone who is more than a laborer. Many Black men who work hard all day for small pay want someone more than a hoodrat. People of different races are filling these gaps.

  28. mj

    June 25, 2013 at 8:20 am


  29. Sargento

    June 25, 2013 at 8:22 am

    Come to Dover, Delaware. I have witnessed our sisters wearing cornrows, deadlocks and natural take a man (both white and black) away from their white wives and girlfriends. So far three marriages were lost to our sisters in Delaware. You know who you are. Also, we all must remember that white women are considered the forbidden fruit and everyone wants that forbidden fruit. Once you take a bite out of the forbidden fruit, it does not taste as great as it seems. In history throughout the world, because of our slave status, anyone can have us at their convenience, and nowdays because we are desperate for a love life and marriage, the supply of black women is greater than the demand. sistas continue to keep your head up high to God, he will reward us if we love ourselves and not wait for some brainwashed human to love us.

    • Truth Speaks

      June 25, 2013 at 12:26 pm

      I’m also in Dover. Saw a klan rally for the first time here. Expected the worse of the worse. But guess what? Brothers still want this. But what is most interesting is the level and the extreme at which white men here have gone to ‘holla’ at this sister. I’ve had them shut down a private restaurant for a very private date, hook me up with free everything just for what they think is a ‘chance’….sorry this sister can’t be bought and won’t be sold! I notice every time I’m at the doctors though, the all white family is there, the all Mexican family is there, the brother is there with his WW/bi-racial family and then there’s the sisters with their children. Alone. Unprotected. Abandoned.

  30. elrancho2

    June 25, 2013 at 8:39 am

    I have no idea how accurate this “research” is and whether it is, or not, it really doesn’t matter because people will love who they love. Unless, or course we want to go the way of “arranged marriages” which I think are cruel. If the world can survive the next 100 years I would hope that we end up with a predominantly black and brown world with white people in the minority. I have a feeling that the black gene is way stronger and will hopefully dominate the blend. It would be a far better world.

  31. LaLa32caramel

    June 25, 2013 at 8:40 am

    I date the person, not the skin color. I do see alot of black men with a nonblack woman. But I’m starting to see more black women date outside their race. I also see many blacks married to each other. This article is wrong for trying to put black women down. I have no problem with men from every race approaching me. White men love our body shape and especially the fact we have a big behind. Also they proudly had me on their arm while taking me shopping and had no problem having me meet the family. I love my black men. True some are not worth anything but there are still quite a few professional black men with their own business, etc that was proud to display me on their arm as their woman. So I believe its all about who attracts you at the moment. Except for the few who are colorblind because they are wanting to be white or a black woman is too much for them so they go for the next best thing.

  32. Savannah, GA.

    June 25, 2013 at 9:17 am

    Black men and white women stay in the media because of white women. The w/female is the marketer who produce images of her desire; black man loving me, white female. If the white men were producing the ads and commercials he would show his desires; white men loving me gay white man.

  33. Almighty

    June 25, 2013 at 9:40 am

    Man this shhhhht is crazy….

  34. Barbara

    June 25, 2013 at 9:51 am

    Stories such as this is nothing but propaganda.

    If you want to date and marry others, do so!

    Look for the next Dr. Boyce propaganda story: Black women have this disease, etc, etc.

  35. DONALD

    June 25, 2013 at 10:00 am

    The jury of the George Zimmerman trial consist of five white women and one woman of mixed race. If these white women acquit Zimmerman for the killing of TRAVON MARTIN, will Black men STILL prefer white women, then?

    • Truth Speaks

      June 25, 2013 at 11:53 am

      Yep! Sad but true! GZ could kill they own mama and if its in his mind to continue to love the enemy, a low self esteem BM will use each and every excuse to justify his self hatred. White supremacy has ZERO power if black folks love themselves!!!!!! People who love themselves don’t behave the way we do and are doing and have been doing for the past 50 years!!!!! We allow the WM to decide if we’re attractive or even worthy…,now that’s sad as f*ck! Turn off the WM’s idiot box (the don’t call it ‘programming’ for no reason!) trust & believe the television serves a purpose: to LIE.
      Tune out the ‘noise’ and pick up books that empower, enlighten and push you forward!!!! The M’s didn’t die for this sh*t! (Martin, Malcolm, Marley, Marcus, Michael, Medgar and even Mandela>>>bless his heart right now) THINK people THINK ON THESE THINGS!!!!

  36. Sasha

    June 25, 2013 at 10:20 am

    And we needed this study WHY?? Anyway, I have no problem dating outside of my race, I just don’t want to do that. I love the brothas and forever will. LOL, I get approached by other races all the time, especially Latinos. Don’t know why because I’ve never shown interest in them but it’s okay. In my opinion, at the end of the day, men still look at “women” in general if they attract them. Btw, more power to those Black men who date wite women – I have no problem with that. The problem that I have is when I see those same Black men degrade Black women. REMEMBER, your Mother is Black. Sorry that you hate yourself for being Black.

  37. Sandra Dee

    June 25, 2013 at 10:41 am

    Who cares? They have other races for us, who will treat us better and appreciate us.

  38. Scorpion King

    June 25, 2013 at 10:41 am

    I feel that is true due to high levels of morbid obescity. So many of the black women are so fat that its just not going to happen for them. Slimming down would do wonders for scores of lonely black women.

    • DebNBrooklyn

      June 25, 2013 at 11:23 am

      That would be true IF it were only “fat” Black women who were not married and IF black males who marry white women only married skinny ones – and we all KNOW that ain’t so.

    • Truth Speaks

      June 25, 2013 at 11:42 am

      Lol….every BM is with an obese WW in this town!!!! I’m still looking for the BM with the Kim K beauty…, and speaking of that Kim K is a very rich hoe with sh*t for brains but Kanye would rather have that and all that’s been with THAT than find him a great black beautiful spouse…speaks volumes to all the little black boys watching. One’s not ‘successful’ unless they bag a WW even if she’s a stank hoe…

      • Vaughn

        June 25, 2013 at 3:40 pm

        Anger!!! This is why we prefer WW!

        • Pattycake, RN

          June 29, 2013 at 9:42 am


          I doubt anger is the reason your kind prefer WW. Most of the time I could be as happy as I wanna be, but when some WW see me happy, they be hating a whole lot!!! Now who is angry? Some of them will just smile in a BM’s face and act innocent (and most of us can guess why). However, I think you would choose to ignore this fact to justify your thinking with your little, lower brain. If that were not the case, you wouldn’t feel the need to “try” to justify.

      • Jan

        June 26, 2013 at 10:52 pm

        So if we stop supporting kanye until his mind gets right, he would not be so appealing. It’s all about money for white folks. They are always right there when we succeed, no matter how old, how ugly, how stupid. I would not buy a kanye song if he was giving gold with it. When will we stop supporting those who have no respect for their own?

  39. Jah Larry Dread

    June 25, 2013 at 10:44 am

    OPEN YOUR EYES BLACK PEOPLE/WOMEN! Many of us watch TV with our eyes wide shut! Has anyone notice that on commercials and many TV shows the black women’s love interest is usually the white boy? Black women are you writing in or calling on these producers on why the black on black love in not often showed on there shows and commercials?

    • Pattycake, RN

      June 25, 2013 at 6:10 pm

      What you say is true about the lack of Black on Black love being shown on TV and I believe it is for a reason. For the people who want to know why Black women are angry, it may be because we are being devalued and therefore dehumanized and therefore treated as sub-human. We are being left to fend for ourselves and when we do so we are again attacked for being rude, loud mouthed and therefore unattractive. This sounds like a game plan to me and when you try to explain that to someone, they want to turn around and call you jealous or paranoid. However, statistics will show this to be true. It is so true that people are making big time money off of this concept, which is probably the reason that this idea is being promoted by highly paid rappers, athletes, etc., etc. In my case, it has little to do with jealousy because when I see some of these Black men with these “OTHERS” I’m thinking that he is not even my type, however, his “OTHER” may see him checking me out, become enraged, check him and he in turn will begin his propaganda campaign to try to take me down. I have seen instances where some Black men have approached me following the directives of haters to try to get in my good graces to get something on me and take back to his owner in order to have something to use against me. Sounds crazy but true. Some of you may know what I am talking about and some may not but there are some vicious handlers out there with money and a deep desire for vengeance. But please don’t be surprised if it happens to you because these tactics have been used in the past.

  40. t_99

    June 25, 2013 at 10:47 am

    All of the negativity in the media about black people is getting on my last nerve – this one shot, this one stabbed, this one arrested, this one caught in a scandal, this one hates black women, this one hates black men, this one hates black women wearing red lipstick, this one hates black girls with afro puffs, etc. The foolishness just goes on and on. People have to remember that “if it [the story] bleeds, then it leads”. IMO this “study” serves no purpose other than to attemtp to give legitimacy to some academic or think tank, and to upset the masses so that we run out and spend more money on self help books, and beauty products that we don’t need. Yes, we have issues to address, but this does not reflect my reality. It has no impact on my Blackness and the pride that I have in my race and our accomplishments, and I’m not buying it.

  41. blacjk jones

    June 25, 2013 at 11:12 am

    There is SOME truth to to this article—but by no means is it ABSOLUTELY true– Black mean still prefer Black women overall, but theirs always going to be black men who lean toward the white woman as well as Black women leaning towards men of other races, do not get it wrong our men love us and always will—-loosen up black women and feel free to let your love show –because you are LOVED!!!

  42. DebNBrooklyn

    June 25, 2013 at 11:20 am

    Indeed we need to be careful with numbers. Percentages are VERY relative and often have little to do with actual quantity. We must keep in mind our overall population numbers. Also, a SURVEY, is just that.

    That being said I do think we need to try to understand why those black males who do deal with white females seem more willing to MARRY them – while the majority of black males are with black women but not often married to them.

    Also, what/who does it benefit when Black women stop producing Black males (and females). Really slick tactic to stop the production of Black males, it seems, to deem the womb that produces him unworthy, undesirable.

    • Truth Speaks

      June 25, 2013 at 12:43 pm


  43. Terry

    June 25, 2013 at 11:27 am

    I make no apologies for the statements I am about to make. I have never desired to be with, date or marry a white woman. I am not interested in finding out what they feel like or are all about. GIVE ME A SISTER!
    The mentality of our race {especially Black Men} has been so damaged until many of them don’t really know who they are. The only identity they have had all of their lives are through someone or some other culture. We feel we must identify with the race that’s supposedly are superior or at least act as if they are. As a result of racism and slavery the black family has surfed for many years and still today many are suffering from lost of inner and outer identity. I often wonder if there ever be a time where the black man will be able to reach inside of himself and be who he was created to be, a king and not some pawn to the white man’s world.

  44. DebNBrooklyn

    June 25, 2013 at 11:31 am

    Black males who have been in relationships with white females need to start telling the truth.

  45. Peter Darryl Slaughter

    June 25, 2013 at 11:54 am

    Myself my first choice is a fine black woman overall.
    Yes some of them and other women might look good or dress to be more of a sex object or do more sexual stuff in private.
    But guess what ?
    Real black women rule for sure.
    I myself can be friendly to white women and other women in other races.
    But not going out of my way to meet up with some white women or other women in other races to prove some watered down diversity theory.
    This whole scenario goes back to the plantation and that is the root of it.
    Read all the books by J. A. Rogers ” Sex and Race ”
    I would say for sure.
    These days these types of relationships are more benificial to white supremacy and white domination.
    Maybe back in the day before the new world order these relationships might have been okay or just normal.
    But in the 21st century beyond the civil rights 60’s and onto the 21st century.
    Black males and females are having the race card used against them in a very slick subtle matter when it comes to these type of relationships.
    People in general can choose to be with whoever.
    But in the case of the Afrikan/Black race real unity and togetherness is the key to the real revolution.

  46. Michael

    June 25, 2013 at 11:58 am

    I really do truly Love Black Women, thay just don’t seem to Love me Back.

  47. Read and do what is right.

    June 25, 2013 at 12:10 pm

    I love and date Black women and I don’t believe the HYPE. I am dating a Black woman who I love, adore and admire. We have great Communication, Respect, Love and Future. Praise the “LAWD”! I once dated one negro and she was horrible but, she didn’t represent all Black women or any other women. One fool don’t represent the whole entire race of people. If a person fall in love with a person, just let it be for the right reason and not because of a lie/myth. Love U Brown Sugar.

  48. Vandellish

    June 25, 2013 at 12:26 pm

    A few things:
    1) For years women of ALL races have claimed that THEY are the ones who choose when it comes to relationships and that men simply take what’s available to them. Therefore, it’s funny how black men are being held accountable for non-black women choosing them. Search Owen Williams’ ‘Women Pick Men’ on Youtube.
    2) The most powerful statement in this piece is here:
    ‘The study showed that if black women did not initiate contact or express romantic interest, they not only failed to be approached by men outside of their culture, they also failed to be approached by men of their own race.’
    This says a lot to me as a lifelong bachelor and a person who’d love to have a beautiful, healthy, positive black woman by my side. Today’s beautiful black women can be extremely difficult to get to know. They hold themselves at a premium and often have unrealistic expectations of what a partner is supposed to be. Many have completely bought into all of the BS stereotypes that society has driven into their heads as well as their own negative life experiences with their natural partner-the black man. Non-black women who are open-minded don’t always have those same hangups because they may not have as many experiences with black men. It’s also not as hurtful when a person of another race is dismissive or uninviting to you as it is your natural partner.

    With that said, I wouldn’t worry too much about this. Because of our shared culture black women and black men are inseparable and will always seek each other out. Some of us, including myself may not be lucky enough to find one for ourselves and that’s ok too. Just because we’re open to relationships with other races doesn’t mean we have contempt for our own race or ourselves. That’s just lazy and jaded thinking.

  49. Truth Speaks

    June 25, 2013 at 12:40 pm

    That moment….that epiphany….when the light goes on and the bells and whistles start going off…that moment of TRUTH when you realize that EVERYTHING about THEM is a lie!!!! Everything from their history to the real reason why the economy crashed>>>>the election of a truth seeking black man just highlighted their craziness.

    Pre-Obama, we had an economy which appeared stable but was really shifting sands>>>>we, rather THEY, built an ILLUSION of a strong economy by robbing Peter to pay Paul!!!! One can only tank an economy if it was unstable to begin with!!!! Don’t get hoodwinked and bamboozled by all that ‘racist’ propaganda hatred….they know that will appeal to your ego and will easily distract you! EVERYTHING about them is an ILLUSION….vapors! Don’t get GOT!

  50. Robert

    June 25, 2013 at 12:43 pm

    Huh.. I’m an athletic educated white guy and I love women of all backgrounds. But sadly, black women never even give me the time of day. And how I have tried. 🙁

  51. andre

    June 25, 2013 at 1:23 pm

    not true

  52. sharon

    June 25, 2013 at 2:10 pm

    In this society, white woman is put on pedestal and represented the epitome of beauty, white woman always snicker how they can get black men, they do anything to get them, so black men fall into their arms, This is a white dominated society, also black men have been programmed to hate himself and love evrybody else, ( I am beginning to believe black is on a downward spiral) also there are white men who date black women, (but some of it is kept in the background). but the masses of white men dont marry black women…

  53. Will

    June 25, 2013 at 2:18 pm

    This study is crap. Leave it up to Berzerkly to come up with some white liberal bullshit to piss people off. Black men do not prefer white women and white women do not prefer black men, there might be a few cases but that is it. People are still tribal and we prefer to be around and with our own kind. Black prefers Black, Asian prefers Asian, European prefers European, etc, etc.

  54. Marie

    June 25, 2013 at 2:48 pm

    You know why they’re promoting this lie. They want to wipe out the black race, but the DEVIL is a liar. God crested us all equal and he has no respect of persons. They’re trying to get into your minds to always believe what they want to happen. They don’t want no more beautiful black children growing up in society.

  55. sunshine

    June 25, 2013 at 2:49 pm

    What photos do you have are meaningful of this report?

  56. KG

    June 25, 2013 at 2:58 pm

    I believe the online survey because blk men have a colossal ego to go with their (generally) screwed up personality. Relationships are about getting to know a person, and then loving that person in spite of their misgivings. Blk men expect an unrealistic version of women, not really the ‘superwoman’ (what blk man you know actually APPRECIATES a black woman for having his child), per se, but a fantasy while at the same time, not really being worth anything to a woman in general. There are a LOT of blk men who refuse to work and don’t mind living off a woman for the basics. I live in Washington state and black men must’ve gotten “the memo” cause ALL you see are indigent black men with white women, probably living off their welfare checks!!

  57. Ernesta Walker

    June 25, 2013 at 3:01 pm

    First and foremost I want to know how many respondents were in the survey was it a representative sample? Why then r white women trying such dangerous and horrific plastic surgeries to get full lips, bigger bottoms and wearing braids? We set the tone for beauty always have and always will.When I walk into a mixed social gathering you should see the white women clinging to their men (and they be lookin’ at me)My brothers (biological) don’t want anything but a black woman so let us not be fooled by this survey keep on loving black women and men.

  58. Scope

    June 25, 2013 at 3:07 pm

    Hey I started dating white women just so the sistas would notice me!!!!
    It works too.

  59. Terry

    June 25, 2013 at 3:55 pm

    Dealing with the horrible nightmare of a wife I have, I don’t blame any brother in this day and age. I can’t wait to get rid forever of this no-good, rebellion, multiple personality, hate-filled, lying, horrible wife and horrible mother of mines. Good riddance forever. The most backward race of women in the world. Most black women need to be in a mental institution.

    • Vaughn

      June 27, 2013 at 3:46 pm

      Thanks for being real Terry!!! I am not married but I have a better chance of being struck by lightening before I marry a black woman.

      • Pattycake, RN

        June 29, 2013 at 9:50 am


        I hope dreams and wishes come true, especially the one about the lightening…LOL!!!!!!!!!!!

    • Pattycake, RN

      June 29, 2013 at 9:48 am


      I am offended, don’t knock crazy…lol. Check out “Q.U.E.E.N.” by Janelle Monae…sometimes crazy actually works, especially for those conscious enough to comprehend. Peace Bro cause it seems like you need some.

    • Tony Castro

      June 24, 2014 at 10:47 pm

      @Terry, It sounds like you married my ex-wife, LOL.

  60. Hiroader2

    June 25, 2013 at 4:13 pm

    Pure JUNK RESEARCH to me.., Definitely not this conservative versus (they want stuff) liberal.,, “Haves vs have nots” growing supremacy environment in this country… Evidently this “JUNK RESEARCH ” hasn’t evaluated the social mentality that’ll flip that financially struggling blk male seeking white easy/any lay chick into stalkers… NOTE: The junk research states black males prefer white females and not the opposite … If I’m wrong then “make it rain ” on Becky…

  61. Elizabeth

    June 25, 2013 at 4:57 pm

    So, men of color (in jail, have AIDS, dating white women). Sisters you better start looking at other races and quick

  62. Im saying tho

    June 25, 2013 at 5:10 pm

    Will yall quit trying to make black seem like we are not interested in our own women. Interracial dating still isnt the majority. Some men are just having sex. Most of us blaçkmen are so stuck on black women that we not trying to date out or f@ck out. Alot of black men that talk sh!t about black women are mad that they havent found the right one YET, BUT they WILL. He just haven’t met her YET. Finding true love is hard. They just going throughthe motions of finding her. You Cant Stop Black Love Because It Is The First Love That Mankind Ever Knew. BLACK LOVE LIVES ON.

  63. Tchalla

    June 25, 2013 at 5:15 pm

    Its true dating which to me is sex and actual dates is more common with BM but BW have lots of sex with WM and others. I can confidently say that every person on this posts knows a BW who has slept with a WM most of you can name a blood relative.

  64. marcus davis

    June 25, 2013 at 5:15 pm

    Can,t say I believe that or buy into it .When I was in the states I did,nt see too many inter-racial couples.The very few that I did see in the states the black men were pretty messed up in the head to begin with.Now if you,re talking about Canada or the UK especially the UK then yes most of the black men would be chasing after white women.When I was in the UK the majority of black british men are with white women,thats all you see over there with them.No I don’t buy into that survey, in the states when I was there black men were with black women ,it was very rare that I saw a black man with a white woman.

  65. Rev. George Brooks

    June 25, 2013 at 6:01 pm

    Boyce Watkins, and these black websites are turning into just a bunch of gabber, gabber and jawjacking to seemingly give black folks a place to blow off steam. And to get off into CERTAIN issues, while the websites avoid many other subjects, or frame them in a way so as to not allow blacks to beat up on CERTAIN whites. And especially Jews. This issue is not based on any REAL factual material, and give no figures whatsoever, while focusing on this Ayvaunn Penn, who is NOT an expert to be the leader on this subject matter. She is merely one of these wild, imaginary poets, and has no researce experience. And then there is some white dude called only by his last name, Mendelsohn, without his first name and any background information on him that would qualify him to be informing us about this subject. And this is being constantly thrown at us readers of these websites, which is my opinion is to lead us in the way that the folks heading up these websites, and those in the background whom we do not know, want us to be led. And I will bet my last dollar that those in the background are JEWS and other whites. — Rev. George Brooks

  66. tonya powell

    June 25, 2013 at 6:20 pm

    Look Behind the writing. The white race believe they rule this earth, and will always make everything beneficial for them. ‘Please do not believe the hype”.

  67. Yvey

    June 25, 2013 at 6:26 pm

    Everyone is going on about these stats, oh please. I wonder who’s behind them, obviously the same white supremacist. They run everything, these facts are not accurate, they too are lies just like every other outlet they use in society to manipulate and control/ brainwash us. Tell me there’s black doctors and black scientists in their own labs with their on data and research coming up with these facts cuz then I’ll know they’re not bias they’re telling the truth to their people. What reason do white people have to be honest with us, they lied to us since the very beginning. They are like their maker, cunning, baffling, and insidious . I’m not going based on their statistics, or hear say. I’m going on what I see before my eyes and all I see is the eradication of my race because of all this mixing with everyone else except for each other’

  68. makar72

    June 25, 2013 at 6:29 pm

    I never have and never will. There’s one.

  69. Yvey

    June 25, 2013 at 7:33 pm

    I couldn’t agree more with this study, and it really does sadden me to see the level of ignorance coming from so many black women as if they really can’t see what’s happening & it’s so typical of black people to get complacent in their little cushy jobs, semi decent relationships, living their mediocre lives and forgetting about the struggle. So because you were given a lil opportunity to live better you forget about the rest of us. typical house nigger mentality. so grateful to the man for having mercy on you that you sell out for your own happienss so it doesn’t matter that the rest of your people are suffering. Yeah ok you have a black man and your playing house, but for how long before something else catches his eye and then you’ll be screaming “niggas ain’t shit” and then you’ll be referred to as a bitter overbearing black woman. The way I see it our men are the problem, their mentality. The fact you’ll hear so many of them say I don’t want kids with nappy hair, what does this mean. Did you not come from a patch of nappy hair? My thing is our men hate themselves, they hate being black so much so that they’re willing to help in the eradication of our race by dating/marrying and impregnating women outside of the black culture. This study shows that it’s all psychological and that a lot of the conditioning that our men are receiving is from the media via posters, videos, bill boards, television etc. and after a while of having the same images of beauty being perpetuated at you, your brain starts perceive this as the definition of beauty. Long soft hair, coloured eyes, pink lips, & ivory skin. The best part for me is that with interracial dating these women that black men choose to date don’t have to be full on white women, just non-black women. So if your mixed race, lite skin or Puerto Rican “you ah bad one”. So long as the hair isn’t “nappy” and their skin is lite our men are attracted. I mean its getting so bad our black women are obsessed with looking like them, I mean as if it wasn’t bad enough that we started using relaxers & weaves then we took it one step further and started bleaching using skin lightening creams. I mean how degrading, how pathetic and desperate have we become. This is what society has reduced us to and just because we want to be loved and admired, appreciated for all that we are and all that we have to offer but because we don’t look white we get over looked and forgotten about. Is that really fair, do we not have feelings, do we not deserve love and affection. Going back to the social media, you’ve got some of the biggest names in the industry with non black women and these men are praised, their relationships are publicised on the cover of every tabloid, talked about in every light of the media. These are the people that our children admire and look up to, our sons will carry on with the same behaviour. Kimye, chris bosh and Adrian, and most all other ball players, Michael Jordan’s new wife is white woman he’s paying to stay married to him. granted his first wife was black but the only reason he stayed with her is because his father made him after he got her pregnant, which he admitted in an interview. Wiz and amber, reggie and Kim. Omg, how could i forget Michael Jackson, those kids? really who does he think he’s kidding. he died a shame and an abomination to the black community. All the money they made off him alive and dead and none of it has touched the community, everything he had left is going to white children. How many black women went out and bought his album or went to his concerts to support him with the hope that maybe he would choose one of them to share his empire with and instead he chose a fat sloppy masculine looking, blonde hair white woman and before her he was with Lisa Presley (“the king of rock and rolls” brat) and once she sucked him dry of funds and fame she kicked him to the curb, it cuts me to my soul. Thats what all white women do, they only want our men when they have something & when they’re successful. they won’t have anything to do with black men when they’re broke and have nothing. We’re the only ones that will take our men no matter what, broke or in sickness even after all they’ve done to us, we’ll still take them back. That’s the oath we pledged before God. Those woman are just like their fathers, selfish opportunist that are jealous of us and don’t want us to have happiness. They don’t want black men, they just don’t want us to have them plus they’re bored cuz their men don’t want them, their men want each other lol, so they’re glad to keep them distracted with our men and off and their backs so they can get on with their slack life styles, even homo sexuality they introduced into our communities. I mean the list goes on. Black women never get a break, right now Dwayne wade and Gabrielle Union have been dating for almost a decade and he still hasn’t married her. shes the definition of ” miss independent”neyo even made her the love interest in the video. She has beauty, intelligence, class, and success yet it still seems not be enough. Llamar odom dated khloe k for three months before he popped the question. Even when are men are with us, they cheat on us, bring us pain, shame and embarrassment. for white Women they’re faithful and worship the ground they walk on. It’s so painful that our men strive for success just so they can get a white woman, they bend over backwards for those women. our men feel like they’re not true kings until they have the slave masters wife by their side because to them our slave masters were kings. Going back to this same Kim k who is Armenian from her father and Irish from her mother, everyone knows her scandalous track record yet Kanye has made the ultimate statement by dating/impregnating her and planning to marry her. Showing that no matter what a white woman does or how nasty she is, she is still above us and they’ll choose them every time. Amber rose is another one with a similar story to Kim, these men don’t care & neither does society because white women can do no wrong and it’s because this is a white mans world we live in and no one can say a bad word about his lil princesses. In their minds our black men should be so grateful to be in their presents much less get to touch them and be with them. 300 hundred years ago if a black man even looked too long at one of em he was hung, castrated, and burned. I’m surprised no one has mentioned Emmett Till, did we forget what happened to him in Mississippi in the 1950’s (look him up) this stuff is real out here. Black men aren’t marrying us because during slavery they weren’t allowed to and if they did they had to run away and we know what happened to run away slaves, its all trauma. As people we don’t want to be associated with anything that causes us pain, being with each other causes us pain. For example a small child touches a hot surface, from then on they’ll associate that situation with pain and anguish so they’ll refrain from going near it again. White men had us like cattle the only time they put us together was when they wanted us to make babies and then they’d send the men back into the fields to work and make the women stay and look after the children, for hundreds of years they had us living like this. who really believes that we’ve recovered from this vicious cycle cuz if you ask me the pattern feels all too familiar. thats why are men just make babies with us and leave, because they don’t know anything else. So many black children grow up without fathers including myself. In my 20 years I’ve only had one black girlfriend that her father and mother are still married and he’s been there to raise her and her 4 siblings. I grew up in a black neighbourhood in NYC and only had black friends but only one that I can honestly say has had her father there from day one and i met this girl here in London, the capital of interracial dating. Black men don’t understand how important it is for them to be there raising their kids. their sons need to be taught how to be good men, women cant teach a man how to be man, daughters need their daddy’s love and affection, they need his attention and reassurance that everything is gonna be ok cuz daddy’s here. And mommy needs daddy for warmth, comfort, support, to provide, companionship, reassurance that everything is gonna be ok cuz your black man is here and he’s gonna protect you no matter what. It’s so sad No matter how hard our men try to do right by us there will always be obstacles in the way stopping them from loving us. be it family disfunction, financial hardships, pressure from society. everything in this world is designed to keep us apart.They’ve made their women like the forbidden fruit and most desired. Wake up and smell the coffee, understand our strength is in our numbers. We have to stick together, united we stand divided we fall. The difference between us and them is that, one isn’t happy if they all aren’t happy. We as black people can share joy, in the fact that one of our own is suffering. Watch Django, that movie had so much truth. The fact that we can murder each other without blinking twice and take photos and put them on the Internet. In the end it all reverts back to slavery, our hatred for each other, our love and fear of them. It was a conditioning that they knew was more powerful then just whipping and killing us. They got into our heads and ever since they’ve had us in metal bondage. Every other race of people is doing better then us in society and it’s not just because they weren’t enslaved and they didn’t suffer the atrocities that we did, but it’s because they stuck together. The Chinese, the Indians, the Arabs, the list goes on. They’re not as trusting of the white man as we are, they’re not letting them in because they see what they’ve done to us. And they understand they are not to be trusted, they have intelligence that far exceeds the small minds of so many ignorant black people, they have a selfish desire to own everything and take it by any means necessary, they don’t have a conscience or compassion for us, they care more about animals then us. It’s time for us to realise that we are hated by them and every other race of people because we are God’s, we are his chosen. The promise of ever lasting life was for us, why do you think he made us so strong and durable. We were built to last, he made us in his image. Look at all they’ve done to us and still we rise. Why do you think they wouldn’t let us read, because they know knowledge is power and with our strength, durability and knowledge we are truly unstoppable and what would that do to their futile forever dying race. They can’t compare or compete with us. They don’t have the strength. It is imperative to our survival they we learn our history, that we dig deep and find the truth, then accept it and do something about it. Look what they did to our greatest leaders, Martin Luther king, they killed him because he was enlightening too many of us, he was bringing about true change and they couldn’t have their system be challenged by him and his followers so they killed him to take away our hope and put us back in our place and remind us who’s in charge, so once again we now associate freedom with pain and death. So we flee from it and fall back into formation and the confinements they’ve put in place. Hell they even killed their own leaders because they were pro black people. Ab Lincoln free’d us and took a bullet to the head for it, JFK same thing. They are ruthless and through out history, in movies, in government and in so many other ways they keep showing themselves for who they really are to us and we just can’t see them as the monsters they are, it’s like there’s hypnosis or some sort of vale over our eyes that won’t permit us to see and think clearly about these people.
    They put guns in our communities again the same way they did 300 years ago to entice us to kill and murder each other while their off tending to other matters and the destruction of other countries. The drugs in our communities destroying lives and families, they put em there. The misleading and deceptive things on tv that are children’s impressionable minds are soaking up they’re behind it. can’t you see it’s all a diversion to keep us oppressed and distracted from the truth. Our daughters are on birth control and having abortions. We multiply and procreate like bunny’s and they know it which is why they’re trying so hard to keep our numbers down (population control.) Look how they went to the mother land and planted aids and malaria all these man made diseases they cooked up in a lab just to kill us, our babies in africa are child soldiers? what is this. the disfunction in us is so deeply rooted. More guns, for land that is so poverty stricken and dying from disease where could the possibly get weaponry from? They are the ones that are truly obsessed with us. They are suffering from the ultimate inferiority complex. And all the other races just go a long with it cuz as long as everyone hates us there’s peace amongst them, but I bet as soon as we remove ourselves from the equation you’ll see the real world war. Black men do right by us for a change, I understand 300 years ago you felt powerless and ashamed that you couldn’t protect us and our children. But this world is evolving things are changing, more of us have rights, power and true knowledge of our history and who we really are so it’s ok for you to love us again, it’s ok to Marry us again and have loads of Beautiful, strong, healthy, and smart princes and princess to inhabit this earth. We need you, I write these words pleading and begging for you our black me to come home to us, charity starts at home. Help us to rebuild our community and take back all that we’ve lost and was stolen from us.

    • Truth Speaks

      June 25, 2013 at 10:31 pm

      Amazing!!! So many truths on so many levels! Bless you.
      “Once they take your mind, you’re as good as dead”
      Black people truly need to wake up!

      A fool above, replied to my earlier comment in a way that, instead of seeing my message as truth…he’d proclaimed my statements to be ‘angry’ and this was enough to justify him turning away from black women.

      What a sad and sorry commentary from him but hey, thanks for proving my point that some men are just weak and blind even to their own ignorance!

    • Bentley

      June 22, 2014 at 4:55 pm

      Very well said. If I may add something to your comment: if you are 20 years old, I am more than double your age. When I was coming up the majority of Black men and women married each other before they had children. In fact, an out of wedlock pregnancy was looked down upon. It was in the 1970’s that this began to change, from my observation. Fathers were there for their children. The community had unity. We had the saying “Black and Proud” and most of us had afros and was demanding Black history to be taught in schools. Neighbors looked after each other more and each other’s children. These days, if someone said something to correct someone else’s child, there would be a fight. We didn’t call each other the N-word and we would kick anybody’s a** that would call us that. My opinion is that intergration with these monsters has done us alot of harm.

      Regarding Lincoln and JFK, please research these people. Don’t believe the hype the white miseducators feed you. Lincoln hated Black people but he wanted to unite the country regardless of what it took. He said that was his goal, whether Blacks were enslaved or freed. JFK didn’t care for Blacks either but he succombed to the pressures of the times while the world was watching. He also played a part in the gruesome murder of Patrica Lumumba, an African freedom fighter for his people that insisted that if anyone wanted the natural resources of his country, then they must pay for it, instead of going in and stealing it.

      Your heartfelt essay is powerful and I’m sure there are many young and loyal brothers out there that are touched by your words.

  70. Morgan The Writer

    June 25, 2013 at 7:40 pm

    I don’t know about this one … statistically, 88% of Black men who marry get married to Black women.

    It seems like there’s this constant hysteria surrounding Black men and interracial dating, when it’s not as popular as many people think it is. Well, it might be in California, but I don’t know about the rest of the world.

    Would I date a white woman? If I thought she was attractive and had all the personality traits I want. Am I adamant about chasing them? Not really.

    • 3rd world shit running water bitches from hell

      June 27, 2013 at 10:50 am

      You must be buff and hanging in the real world of white girls. If all is a lost cause your mind may play the effort she needs to at least flash you some tits.

    • Tony Castro

      June 24, 2014 at 11:07 pm

      I’m a very well educated black male married to a wonderful black women. Most of my friends are also black couples. We have to began taking responsibility in the people we choose to date marry and have children with. At the end of the day you get who you choose. 88% of Black men who marry get married to Black women. The key with any relationship is to choose responsibility. What I find amusing is the large numbers of AA women in this comment section finding excuses to down black men and lust for white men. If that’s what you want that’s cool, but don’t down all of us, because you chose someone who wasn’t about shit. There is good and bad within all races.

  71. Ann G.

    June 25, 2013 at 8:29 pm

    Most Black men that date and marry White women, at least those that I have spoken with, say White women are easy like Sunday morning, whereas most Black women will not take any bull from you. Just saying….

  72. corbin56

    June 25, 2013 at 9:12 pm

    Who gives a rat’s behind about what black men like?? Certainly not I. White women can have all of them as far as I’m concerned. The majority of them are lazy, uneducated bums with an IQ of 49. Not my cup of tea.

    • Berdell

      June 26, 2013 at 8:32 am

      where are you looking? I beg to differ and if they are like that it’s the fault of how they are reared and our women are in charge of that.

  73. Fkblkmenwhohatblkwm

    June 25, 2013 at 11:43 pm

    Now back to my serious comment I don’t give a fk what or who black men date, marry, or fk that their business and these lame azz articles are so full of shat. We all need to start ignoring them because obviously they think that’s the only thing black women are concerned with is who black men are with child please

    Black men do not run or rule my life and considering the state of mind most of them are in I do not care what the fk they do as long as they take their drama some dam place else

    Black men do not love nor support their own race, when they get some change they think their too good to marry within their race but don’t mind fkn a hood rat who think she got it like that but in reality she w horing herself out lil does she know

    Black men think when they divorce the mother they divorce the children and most of them will abandon their children and never help support them

    Black men want respect well they need to start respecting their selves and getting in the azz of these young boys and teaching them how to be men and show respect to all people

    I have more negative shat but I’ll save it for the next black man with becky article that should be popping up in the next few weeks

  74. Berdell

    June 26, 2013 at 8:28 am

    as a former educator o over thirty years I observed many Little AFRICAN American boys being totally ,armored and fascinated with white women in the schools.
    I worked at 5 schools during my career and this was consistent across the board.
    I noticed in their quest not to be viewed as racist many of these euro teachers would coddle, cuddle and over do the attention for many of these boys.
    If the boy was deemed “cute” he was generally spoiled rotten ,with little attention being given to his academic ability .
    I felt as though many of the euro teachers were meeting emotional needs of their own.
    If the child was not cute but defiant and angry there was less attention given to them but they were handed over to more seasoned African American teachers to be “straightened out”
    I wander if any African American Scholar has done any study on this as it seemed to have started during the seventies and so called integration. Many times the boys would ignore or disrespect the black teachers and tell us that My teacher said’, meaning I listen to the “white ladies” it was interesting
    to watch and I wander if it has or does play out in choosing a partner , since teacher’s can be such powerful influences in our lives.

    • J Wilson

      June 27, 2013 at 6:10 pm

      Ms. Berdell,

      It seems that you are attacking the Black Male Child.
      You said that –
      “since teacher’s can be such powerful influences in our lives.”

      Most black children are raise by black women (70%).
      So when the chicken comes home to roost, why are you so surprise.
      You are putting down a Black Male Child because of your hate for the white women.
      It sounds like you were abusing the Black Male Children;(
      Just because an adult pays attention to a Black Boy “Child” you are upset.
      You need to see a Therapist ASAP:(
      I hope you do not have any male children…
      Here is a hint – 1- Do not have a baby without the Father, CHILDREN NEED A DAD.

      • Pattycake, RN

        June 29, 2013 at 10:07 am

        J Wilson,
        I think you are mistaken, I think Berdell was observing and reporting the fact. You seem to be trying to put all the blame on the mother. Some of the problem may be the mother’s fault but do not exonerate the fathers. Sure you might say that the mother made a poor choice when choosing the father but maybe the mother did not realize the depth of the father’s flaws when they got together. Or maybe she hoped that he would or could do better. I don’t know the particular circumstances of each of these parents but that does not excuse society’s part in creating some of these dynamics in the past and their exploitation of them in the present and the continual attempt to nurture these same schisms so that they continue to be a problem in the future. Therefore setting up a continuous division of the Black Male/Female union by us at odds with each other to compete, hate and destroy each other. Everyone needs to play their part to counteract this travesty.

    • Pattycake, RN

      June 29, 2013 at 10:00 am


      So interesting and gets to the heart of the matter. Also, I believe it is more by design then accident.

  75. J walker

    June 26, 2013 at 9:09 am

    “The Berkeley study also shows that African-American women are the group least likely to be contacted by men of any race. ”

    This say’s it all – so other men are not in to your game.
    You do not see the white women complaining about the Asian women.
    Your video is like psyco-women.
    Why don’t you just go out with other men, but do not show them you video.
    If no black women wanted to go out with me, I would be a shame to put
    My tired ass in video all over the net.
    You need to get help – you are not well.

  76. Truthbeliever

    June 26, 2013 at 9:48 am

    What is it with writers on this site just making up their own friggin’ statistics and reporting them as facts? Even if the trend of interacial marriage is on the increase, that is by no means any indicator that most black men marry outside the race. It’s absurd. All you have to do to disprove that theory is simply look around you. It’s nonsense like this that makes writers on this site not very credible.

  77. Dassine

    June 26, 2013 at 11:12 am

    I read with great interest the comments on this research and I am sutupéfaite to see how this study challenged individuals here. I ask myself this question, or is that this research took place, criticizing this research because it gives those who did these studies, not only you are about to say that black men are selected by white women just for their colors but the more you give importance to these results,. Look, kids, they do not stop this detail is the color, er it not because they do not know the hitoire peoples, but because they are still neutral and do not bind with other children for their color but for their Interest, recreation, games etc.. Why keep talking about color, how the fact that a white woman black, red or other is a selection criterion that true qualities that these black men have it done. What is a fact is that we are all Africans and Africans come from the same land. thank you to all

  78. Daisy

    June 26, 2013 at 11:15 am

    There was also a study that showed that on the average a mixed raced marriage only last about 3 years, whereas a black couple’s marriage lasts a lot longer.

  79. Ray

    June 26, 2013 at 11:34 am

    I dated a psychologist once.
    She told me that most psychological and social science research is conducted by giving surveys to the local students of the college where the professor conducting the research works.
    So much for representative samples.
    This means most of that research is bogus.
    It’s the same with this rubbish.

    Let’s examine this claim briefly.
    ‘Most Black men who engage in online dating are dating non-Black women.’
    Let’s even accept that this is true.
    Well, most dating isn’t conducted online.
    Everything online cuts across barriers because the Internet is global.
    Online daters get to meet persons they would never meet in the usual ways.

    Most men find their dates in the usual ways.
    Most Americans live in segregated neighborhoods.
    So it stands to reason that, when Black men engage in online dating, they find and choose women different than those they meet regularly.
    This would happen just by the odds, similarly to molecules of different gasses mixing in a bottle, but, given that we ARE segregated, it’s not surprising that Black men take the opportunity offered by online dating to date other types of women.
    It’s probably their only opportunity to do so.
    Men everywhere like to try different women, as women well know!

    Now, I don’t know about this generation, but I know that most Black men I know have dated or, at least, slept with, a White woman at least once.
    I’ve also been to Disneyworld once.
    That doesn’t mean we prefer to date White women or that we want to marry White women.
    Been there; done that.

    I urge you all to be skeptical of all claims of this sort.
    Ask yourselves how the authors of such studies actually came to their conclusions.
    Realize that much of science, like finance and Hollywood, isn’t about truth or efficient causation, but about telling people what they want to hear.

  80. Kolanget

    June 26, 2013 at 11:42 am

    You did not need a survey to read what the programming has set up for Afrikan/Black men. Their objective has always been to break down and separate the power of Afrikan/Afrikan American/Black Race of people … White women are one of their Race annihilation mechanisms. Our Black Men are right in line with where the powers that be/the administrators of the programming want them to be. Wake up my people and RISE UP ABOVE THE PROGRAMMING! I live is Southeastern Connecticut and a SisStar has a small chance to be with a Brutha … White women are the order of the day here. A few SisStars are with White men who have been wanting SisStars since they first invaded Afrika! The programming mechanisms always benefit the conniving/scheming/manipulative White Man/powers that be! Wake up my people!

  81. 3rd world shit running water bitches from hell

    June 27, 2013 at 10:47 am

    Black men always wanted a not black woman. Who is on the beaches after soccer practice volley ball tennis lacrosse after something that gives them longevity. Not black girls. We learning how to smoke pot with the brothers get pregnant beat -up and abortions due to the brothers. We are getting a tattoe for our pussies breasts and other body parts while high off of killing a mother fuckah eating out the girls ass for a black man and getting off while watching a parent have intercourse with it’s own kids.Black women love drugs sex and all that other dumb shit.So who is raising a black abandoned child.That white girl. We turned out to be used stupid whores and to lazy to excercise study and do our own damn hair. We steal from another bitch in a scam buy things we know our money can not normally purchase we put freaked out close on a child and a black bitch look for a way to steal that or ruin that too.Who car is that black bitch driving ?is it under her name ? is it her insurance? or is it all of a sudden a sick cousins shit? I wish I was white. I would be in better shape and have a more positive outlook about life. Sike!!
    I like being the jackass.

  82. Aquil

    June 27, 2013 at 5:22 pm


  83. Alexis

    June 28, 2013 at 6:14 am

    I hang-out with several white women. I know first-hand that if a white woman is with a black man it is because there is no white man that wants her. Hence, once again the black man is getting the white man’s trash (which black men are already accustomed to receiving).

  84. Marlon C

    June 28, 2013 at 4:12 pm

    A lot of us complain, but we are the same people that will watch Maurey and Basketball Wives and other shows that depict our women in a negative light all day, every day. And if you think that those images don’t affect how we see black women, you are sadly mistaken. Just like the derogatory music that we listen to everyday. We have to train and teach OUR babies from birth how to act and think as men and women; not waiting until they are in high school and beyond.


    June 28, 2013 at 9:23 pm

    I personally think that the whole thing is rather interesting. For one none of these articles or opinions do not cover the fact that many white women live in black neighborhoods and are exposed/attracted to black men. The other fact that I personally noticed while at a predominate white college is that white girls are prone to shower the (non-starting)black male atheletes with money and access to their cars while the majority of the sisters who are struggling themselves to pay their own way. By catching that third string srubs on the bench that has been ignored by everyone else (black females) they go where the money/attention is…i.e white women.

    One poster did make a point of brothers ignoring the nerdy/average/church going sister when they are young and miss out when they come into their own later in life.

    Personally I love my black nerdy computer geeky wife and I do not hold anything against my brothers who choose to go the other way as long as they do it for love and not because the woman is white


    June 29, 2013 at 3:51 am

    Most of this is just hype! Date who you want but don’t blame the black woman or black man etc…I get tired of this! Don’t think all white women have it together, prettier, smarter, better bodies…most are messed up too…problems…baby drama, half crazy, NOT a size 6, have attitudes and etc…. Too! Overseas, the black woman is a goddness…no lie…they LOVE her all sizes, shapes, and colors!

    Back in the day, the ONLY reason why a black boy was with a white was for sex or money. I asked why he my bff said it was taking too long to get the panties with most black girls….they wanted a commitment or worse marriage…he just wanted sex…but sure he was marrying a black woman and did. My one girlfriend bff dates ONLY white guys for 15 years now…we are all black when the lights go out! It is preference for black, white. Red, brown, or yellow. DO NOT blame the black woman or man if that’s your choice.
    Marry who you want but don’t feed into that name-blame hype. We ALL need help…none are perfect, chose wisely and be mature not just look at superficial things. Ok, so she gained weight…don’t just toss her to the side…both go to the gym…trust me, if don’t want those thighs and hips–trust someone will..and love it and cherish her more#hypeanduntruthsdon’tbelieveit!

    • Pattycake, RN

      June 29, 2013 at 10:22 am

      Lynn in town,

      I am curious, specifically where overseas are BW treated as Goddesses?

  87. Eric Matterson

    June 29, 2013 at 9:20 am

    This is BS. Unless she did this survey in Colorado, where there are more mixed couples than regular couples. Nothing against WW but after 45 a lot of them get wrinkly faces, sagging breasts. BM for the most part date within their comfort zone which is BW. Women of all shades are beautiful if they have the right features and nice shape. White racists started this with their jealous insecurity of a BM dating one of their women.

  88. Veronica

    June 29, 2013 at 9:33 am

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  89. redbone

    June 30, 2013 at 9:49 am

    I’m so damn tired of hearing all the damn hype about blackmen in relationships with white women, who cares??? Do you know how many blackwomen there are who are in very very successful relationships and marriages with whitemen… My son girlfriend is a foreigner and I’m looking forward to them getting married. I’m also looking forward to dating outside my race whatever the hell that is… we all need to fricken growup… My daughter is in a relationship with a foreignor, my other daughter is stuck because she keeps fooling with blackmen… When black women get tired enough of being single and alone, and tired of doing drama with blackmen then they’ll learn to be open to other flavors and living a real queendom lifestyle… God didn’t stop creating men after he used up all his dark crayons plezzzz…. Whitemen who really want to be with blackwomen don’t play games and waste time gettin busy with a sister, laying down the red carpet 100%…

  90. JDub81

    June 30, 2013 at 4:33 pm

    They probably polled all USC black athletes!!!!

  91. JDub81

    June 30, 2013 at 4:35 pm

    Most brothers prefer ugly fat white women.

  92. beverly

    July 1, 2013 at 12:02 pm

    listen…the forbidden fruits…jungle fever whatever you want to call it.white girls are vunerable simple and easy…and their mom is telling them that if they are going to date a black guy make sure that he has money or something in the bedroom that you can’t forget. Brothers all you want is a motherly fiqure and a someone to share the same things as you…and your curiosity being fulfilled of what she’s like in bed. the both of you deserve one another…she will do anything and everything and so will you…but, when its all said and done you are black not exceptional…eventually she will call you the n -word. IT ALSO SEEM THAT WHITE MEN ARE AFRAID OF EXPRESSING HOW THEY FEEL ABOUT BLACK WOMEN….believe me we have always been his desire…and as quiet as it kept he treat us alot better…the now generation is not ashme they are daring…young white boys….there is alot to be said but, when its all said and done …love the person not the color..and stop experimenting…you are wasting time

    • Billy Benson

      November 6, 2013 at 3:34 am

      …yeah… well, if black women did the filthy ish for brothers they do freely for funny looking whitey then NO DOUBT you’d be the desire of many more brothers than currently. No to mention how proud many Black females act of every little thing whites say or do (right and wrong.)
      I know that our best black women prefer us. Problem with this is that the topnotch black women who are loyal to brothers, as “topnotch” white, latina and indian women (who are disproportionately ANTI-BLACK MAN and loyal to their respective men)…Of course these Said Black women are Spoken for already. Our relatively good ones & bad ones are the traitors and our Best are not not a plenty. The aforementioned groupings are. Why, with understanding all this, shouldn’t we expect something similar (even with our minds off history) across the board. At least mutual respect if worse-came-to-worse. Especially since all these phony studies are to tear us apart. Our women are a greater population group (We want them, We Need them), but too many either want to believe questionable information or many are just idiots. ASK YOURSELVES WHY THEY DO NOT STUDY THE RELATIONSHIPS, GENDER RATIOS, CRIMES STATISTICS ETC OF ANY GROUP BESIDES OURS?!?!?! Even if others are studied, they aren’t flooded throughout media or held up to be discussed and analyzed by all the world.

      Real black women young and old, wherever ya at, We love you dearly.

  93. Will-I-Am

    July 4, 2013 at 9:10 pm

    I’m that educated BW, nice house, 6 figure income, fancy cars, etc. etc. etc. In school I got good grades and liked computers. For this, BW hated me so *I* crossed over. However, non black women accepted me so I followed the love. Now BW hate me more than ever! I know women, whatever race are complex and illogical, but this is ridiculous. So that’s my story…

  94. Will-I-Am

    July 4, 2013 at 9:13 pm

    Typo correction: I’m that educated BM

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  97. Jesse

    August 10, 2013 at 11:58 pm

    Most BW treat well educated, career minded BM (uh, like me) like aliens from another planet! That has happened with a WW (or Hispanic, Asian, etc.) to me. simply following the love.

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  99. jay

    September 7, 2013 at 12:00 pm

    this is not true. this article says “according to research..” so where’s the research and how many people were surveyed and what is their racial composition? As a Black man with a lot of Black male friends from all over the country, I can really say that Black men are waaayyyyyyy more attracted to Black women than White women. Nevermind that “In this country, our notions of feminine attractiveness are based almost entirely on images of white women”, because Black men PREFER women with wide hips, large behinds and thick lips, and that’s what Black women have more so than other races, aside from the fact Black men can relate to Black women better from a cultural standpoint. Black men strongly prefer to get with a Black woman over any other race. When a Black man is with a White woman, it’s usually because, quite frankly..White women “give it up” much quicker than Black women do. Black women are known for not giving it up as easily, and men of all races, being the sexual creatures that we are, tend to gravitate towards what’s easier sexually, as sad as it may be. THAT is the reason why Black men, as do men of other races, gravitate towards White women.

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  101. Cynthia

    June 21, 2014 at 10:12 pm

    I have an honest question to the Black men who are so a angry about the tv show “Scandal”. I have heard you call the actress that plays the part of the president’s mistress a ‘bedwench’ and other names because she is having relations with a white man and rejected a Black man. How come you don’t react the same way when Black men date and marry or have babies with white women? Why are you guys so quiet when Kanye West married and had a baby with Kim K? Why the double standard?

  102. ST

    June 27, 2014 at 5:58 pm

    Since controversy sells, this idea will probably go “blowing in the wind”. But is there any interest in ANY positive ( not necessarily YBW) black websites that knows how to reconstruct a better relationship between black men and women? When you listen to the pain of both black men and women, there’s more to it than “what meets the eye”. There’s a definite lack of communication (not words back and forth, but actual communication) and an even greater lack of empathy. No one wants to hear what the other is saying. Black men and women are pointing figures at each other. For the most part, they are angry at each other. Black bloggers, authors and clergymen who want to push an agenda They aren’t helping us to resolve our differences. They aren’t addressing HOW to listen to and acknowledge each other’s pain. Maybe they just don’t know. After all, listening is a skill. Many say interracial marriage is largely a sign of self hate. That may be part of it, but I believe it’s deeper than that. With 85% of black men marrying black women, there’s still a lot of potential in strengthening the black family, and blacks as a group. We have been manipulated by the media ( both black and white), and what we need is a venue that is there not to exploit us, but cares in resolving the divisions among us. Right now, this issue is being “milked” and exploited for all it’s worth. Only to read the same old REACTIVE rhetoric we’ve been hearing and reading for years. Blacks lack insight, guidance, and real answers, in this area. Our problem isn’t white beauty. Our problem is, a failure to get black men and women on the same page, and understanding each other. I personally don’t care who marries who. If anything, if blacks are truly fleeing their own group, it’s a symptom that something larger needs to be addressed. It’s the lack of value and respect we have for each other that needs to be looked at.

  103. john

    February 11, 2015 at 1:42 am

    white women that say they would never date a black man is lying trust me i had plenty of white women so i dont give a fuck what a white chick says they see a handsome attractive black man they would be drooling i care what a white women say are think

  104. john

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    April 24, 2014 at 6:17 pm

    I’m a white woman who never has and never will in a million years touch a black man with a ten foot pole. Black ladies can keep em, I don’t want em!

    no black man would want you anyway so stick with white men cracker!

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