Parents: Bullied Children Universally Liked By Peers, Strongly Disliked by Bully

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With a staggering number of our youth taking their own lives in response to bullying, it is essential that we learn as much information as possible about the heinous act so that we can find solutions to ending it. According to research conducted by research scientist Christopher Hafen of the Univ. of Virginia’s Center for Advanced Study of Teaching and Learning, bullied kids are not universally disliked by their peers but they are strongly disliked by their bully. While being bullied heightens a child’s chances of being universally disliked by their peers, it does not mean that bullied children are strongly disliked among their peers before being bullied.

We found that victims were not disliked by the majority of their peers. While being a victim was associated with a higher likelihood of being disliked, the nominations they received were disproportionately a function of nominations originating from the actual bullies,” Hafen said. “In this case, the history of research on bullying and victimization in the US and Finland are very similar and often find very similar result.” Hafen added: “This is the first study to go beyond the typical assumption that adolescents who are victims of bullying are disliked, and look to understand where this dislike originates.

Of course prevention is always the best approach to saving your child from the distress of being bullied. Having daily conversations with your child about bullying and observing your child’s behavior are just one of many ways you can save your child before it’s too late.

What methods have you used to combat bullying?