Asa Lovechild:Could Black Women Be Fueling Their Own Objectification In Entertainment?

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I have watched blog after blog, including my own, report on Rick Ross and his outlandish lyrics and in every case, we have all attacked the former security guard/rapper for being so disrespectful to women. The rapper may have sparked a much needed revolution within the entertainment industry. Where are the Sister Souljahs and the Queen Latifahs when you need them?

But before women get high and mighty about telling men off, take a look in the mirror, if only for a moment. We must ask ourselves are we contributing to the behavior that we despise so much? As entertainers, we tend to say that it is all in good fun, everyone has a right to explore their creativity and their s**y and just be free. But, what about the audience that is naturally gravitating toward you that is comprised of those 21 years and under?

Then those same youth become of a certain age and still believe that in order to attract men, you have to look like the girls in the videos and the singers who appear to look well put together. We have to ask ourselves why is it we get mad at men, when we perpetuate their behavior with the things that we choose to wear?  And before we place all of the responsibility on parents, let me remind you that we are role models by default, whether we like it or not. Even if a parent has a strong hold on their children, we can often make it challenging for them by what we as entertainers put out there.

The young men that are looking at the images of these very same celebrities expect the women that they date to be as hot as them with no flaws, when the reality is that these same celebrities have to do a lot to look that way, giving the illusion that they wake up in the morning flawless. Instead of art imitating life, life soon begins to imitate art and the line between illusion and reality becomes unhealthily distorted.

When a young girl looks in the mirror and sees herself not so perfect, she begins to wonder, “how do I get to Beyoncé status and fast”. Much worse the young men who look at these images and how we as women allow ourselves to be smacked on the backside, made to dance around while men swoon over our big derriere and supple front, sucking on lollipops and filling our mouths with milk made to drip from our lips down to our thighs, what do you expect? Instead of women “running the world”, we become women run by it.  Instead of being queens , we become faithful concubines.

We have become sophisticated prostitutes for pimps. We have become the modern day Safreeta Mae house Negros whose sole purpose is to exist, simply for the pleasure of men. Forget that we have beautiful voices, can run businesses, write timeless songs with substance, forget that we are real.  But who changes this predicament that we have found ourselves in? Hollywood is not going to do it. We cannot expect men to see us differently if we don’t set the standard. Sure there are those in the industry that have a different voice that refuse to subject themselves to being defined by their outer extremities. But, they can only be named on one hand and their voice seems to be muted by the loud siren call of heavy hitters whose success has been anchored by their advance ability to gyrate in a leotard.

Asa Lovechild is an accomplished actress and singer out of New York City and a supporter of  One Billion Rising

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