Jada Pinkett-Smith to Friend Who Questions Joining a Blended Family: ‘WOMAN UP’

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Jada Pinkett-Smith took to her Facebook page to discuss marrying into an already-made family.


Jada Pinkett Smith is an interesting woman. She’s an actress, she was the lead singer of a Heavy Metal band, and she is the wife of a man who is arguably one of the most famous black actors in Hollywood today.

When Jada became Will’s second wife, she became the maternal figure of a blended family. Will brought with him his son Trey from a previous marriage when he and Jada started dating. Although the couple made subtle revelations about their struggle of blending families in the 2006 sitcom titled “All of Us,” the actress recently took to the social network Facebook to speak candidly about how to make blended families work and how to overcome the obstacles.


Check out her letter to an undisclosed “friend” below:

A letter to a friend:

Blended families are NEVER easy, but here’s why I don’t have a lot of sympathy for your situation because… we CHOOSE them. When I married Will, I knew Trey was part of the package…Period! If I didn’t want that…I needed to marry someone else. Then I learned if I am going to love Trey…I had to learn to love the most important person in the world to him…his mother.

And the two of us may not have always LIKED each other… but we have learned to LOVE each other. I can’t support any actions that keep a man from his children of a previous marriage. These are the situations that separate the women from the girls. Your behavior is that of an insecure child who needs to recognize her own weaknesses that MUST be strengthened to take on the task at hand.

 We can’t say we love our man and then come in between him and his children. THAT’S selfishness…NOT love. WOMAN UP… I’ve been there…I know. My blended family made me a giant… Taught me so much about love, commitment and it has been the biggest ego death to date. It’s time you let your blended family make you the giant you truly are.

It is eye opening to hear someone speak so honestly and openly about all of the emotions, issues, and triumphs that come along with having a family made up of children from previous marriages and current marriages.

What do you think of Pinkett-Smith’s advice?

Malcolm Morrow, a Your Black World Network contributor, is a senior, criminal justice major at The University of Southern Miss.