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Coach Sent to Prison for Deliberately Infecting Player’s Mother with HIV

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by Dr. Boyce Watkins

According to the Dallas Morning News, Jimmy Bernard Billingsley has been sent to prison for aggravated assault causing serious bodily injury after he admitted to sleeping with the mother of one of his players without using protection.   What is unfortunate for the young man’s mom is that Billingsley had known for quite some time that he was actually HIV-positive.

The man dated the player’s mother back in 2009, and for his despicable crimes, he was facing up to 20 years in prison. State District Judge Robb Catalano gave him 15 years, where he won’t be free to harm anyone else for quite some time.

According to the Tarrant County District Attorney’s Office, Billingsley admitted that he’d “been intimate on numerous occasions with a woman he met in 2009 while coaching her son’s youth football team.”

Upon finding out that she was HIV-positive, the woman called police because he was the only man she’d been sleeping with.  She said that Billingsley insisted upon sleeping with her without protection and the woman eventually succumbed to his pleas.  This made her believe that he had infected her deliberately.

On the stand, the man went on to admit that he’d slept with several people since finding out about his status and never told anyone that he had HIV.  That’s when the judge gave him 15 years in prison.

““This defendant’s intentional non-disclosure to numerous sex partners was egregious, dangerous, willful and malicious,” said Assistant District Attorney Joshua Ross in a prepared statement. “He is truly a snake in the grass. His sentence brings some justice to his known victim and provides a measure of protection for so many others.”

When I first read this story, three thoughts came to mind:

1) Jimmy Billingsley is not the only one.  Billingsley is not the only one to do this kind of thing, he’s just the one who got caught.  The next predator could be the person you allow into your bedroom, so perhaps you will want to be extremely thoughtful, patient and careful about who you choose to sleep with.  When I was a youth track coach a decade ago, I noticed a few single (and married) mothers who took interest in me, likely because I took care of their children.   While I appreciated the interest, I was astonished at how much trust I’d earned by simply having an honest face and a friendly smile.  The truth is that people with friendly smiles don’t always have your best interests at heart – you must take time to get to know them.

2) Jimmy’s arrest is the tip of the iceberg on the harm he has done to others: When someone does infect so many other people, the epidemic multiplies itself several times over, because these people are also sleeping with others as well.  As a result of Jimmy’s actions, there are 15 people who might be infected with HIV, some of whom may not even know their status.  When you consider someone like Magic Johnson, who admittedly slept with scores of women, the impact is simply mind-boggling.  Any epidemiologist will tell you that the spread of disease has a huge multiplier effect, where you can easily be harmed by the choices of people that you don’t even know.

3) The making of the STD epidemic in black America is quite simple:  A disproportionate number of black men are in prison, uneducated or unemployed, reducing the supply of men for women to marry.  This leads women themselves to have more partners over their lifespans, increasing their risk of infection.  Additionally, many men don’t go to the doctor to get regular STD panels (that means a check for ALL diseases, not just HIV), especially among those who’ve been marginalized in our society.  This is compounded by the fact that many people will do lots of creative things in the bedroom with people without having a clue about where their bodies have been (nearly every hip-hop song on the radio encourages men to have a slew of women).  So, the fact of the matter is that when you share yourself without thinking it through, you make yourself vulnerable to those who are not careful about their health.

My thoughts on this issue can be summed up with a personal story.   A 32-year old woman in Chicago sent me an email message, telling me that one of my articles might have saved her life.  I was curious to hear her story, so I gave her a call.  She told me that up until one month before, she’d been a virgin, waiting for her husband.  When her husband didn’t arrive, mother nature took over (a woman’s drive for “male companionship” tends to increase between 27 and 45 for various biological reasons).  The woman met a nice man, and slept with him.

The mistake the woman made was that, in the heat of passion, she didn’t protect herself.  She said that this was when she read my article about STDs in the black community and asked her new boyfriend if they could go get tested together.  He agreed to do so and they made plans to go to the doctor.  Unfortunately for the woman, this was the last time her new “boyfriend” ever returned her calls.   This indicated to me that he was accustomed to sleeping with women without protection and not being asked any questions.  It’s a dangerous world out here, so we have to be careful.

Dr. Boyce Watkins is a professor at Syracuse University and author of the book, “Commercialized Hip-Hop: The Gospel of Self Destruction.” To have Dr. Boyce commentary delivered to your email, please click here.

 

34 Comments

  1. Erica

    January 3, 2013 at 2:57 pm

    Agreed that was fuck up but people are so retarded to think that there is no cure for this there are many cures and I ma not talking about the white mans drugs. Of course people want to continue staying with this disease so be it.

    • warnock

      January 3, 2013 at 3:55 pm

      And what cure is this? Please stop passing along this propaganda unmitigated bull fertilizer. If there was a cure (other than the white man’s drugs), certainly scientist would have already discovered it. Or you would have already provided info on this cure and have won the Nobel Prize. Shut the f–k up ignoramus!

      • george

        January 4, 2013 at 12:08 am

        This is what you will find; United States Patent 4,647,773 Gallo , et al. March 3, 1987 Method of continuous production of retroviruses (HTLV-III) from patients with AIDS and pre-AIDS Inventors: Gallo; Robert C. (Bethesda, MD), Popovic; Mikulas (Bethesda, MD) Assignee: The United States of America as represented by the Department of Health (Washington, DC) == The US government also invented the patented cure for AIDS, called Tetrasil (U.S. Patent Number 5676977)

      • Zennetta

        January 5, 2013 at 7:39 pm

        Lol! Thank you for saying that. It seems to me that all these “New so called conscious
        Negros!” Feels that there is a cure only for because of how well Magic is doing.
        What people fail to realize it that, Magic don’t have the everyday stressors
        That the average person have, I’m sure he has a cook, personal assistant who practically wait on him
        And provide his every need; while the average Joe/ Jane is working
        A job where’s that the money don’t always supply the needs, transportation issues,
        Unable to work due to sickness and a host of other “life factors” that money
        Can take care of.

        • Finn

          January 13, 2013 at 10:46 am

          Re Zennetta…….
          First let me start by saying shame on you. Regardless of your skin color to use the word “negro” when referring to African Americans is completely offensive. In this day and age you should really know better. Every race has some despicable slang word that is used to address its people. However, in this country it seems to be socially acceptable to belittle the black people at every turn. “Negro” is what they called us when it became illegal to put the word “nigger” into books and publications. Your comment has an air of bigotry. Perhaps you should keep things like that to yourself, so that the rest of us aren’t exposed to your ignorance.

    • Dee

      April 29, 2013 at 11:11 am

      Yoi sound like ppl ask for it or deserve it. Once the virus is n ur body it doesnt leave, except a miracle from God. Otherwise u can live with it but stop giving false info theres not a cure. Even wholistic methods focus on stregnthening the immune syatem which the virus altets. I pray for a cure for ths manmade virus and all others but until the the best cure is keep ur legs closed BEFORE you gwt infected, have sex only AFTER ypur married and TRUST GOD who can cure anything.

  2. deech

    January 3, 2013 at 3:47 pm

    he preyed on the weak minded woman who chose to not protect herself.

    there’s a special place for cretins like him, but women have to be smart about safe sex and making better choices in who they decide to sleep with.

  3. Doc916

    January 3, 2013 at 3:50 pm

    Ain’t nothin’ but the d-e-v-i-l. No hype to that nasty word; don’t even want to say IT!!! F N it up for the good guys! Now we hafta go thru h-i-s home to get what WE want!!! Ain’t that some she-it!!!

  4. Regina

    January 3, 2013 at 4:21 pm

    She gave in to his needs and threw away all caution to protect hers? She is just as guilty by allowing him to bullying her into submission. Was the sex worth it?

    Here she is doomed for uncertainty because of this decision. People say use condoms, but no one talks about the scrotum and testicles pounding against the vagina during sex. This can also spread STDs.

  5. Destitute American

    January 3, 2013 at 5:14 pm

    The answer is to care about yourself more. Stop giving in to partners that insist that you go raw, especially when you are not committed and married. There is nothing they ought to be able to be able to say to you to get a ‘yes.’ And if you are like-minded as your partner and want to ditch the condom, go get tested together. Do not accept old reports. You need a current one you trust.

    Plus when you have kids depending on you, you should want to make sure that you will be around by protecting yourself and your family anyway.

  6. Terrell

    January 3, 2013 at 5:37 pm

    No sex…Makes for a great relationship…I like these kinds of stories to be published because what readers don’t often read about they think it has gone away. HIV is alive and still killing!

    • Hank Millbourne

      January 3, 2013 at 6:45 pm

      Unfortunately criminalizing persons with HIV is not the answer to dealing with HIV in Black communities. There is no other disease that we do this with. We all have a responsibility to have conversations with our sexual partners and to get tested together and know each others status

  7. HASSAN AKBAR

    January 3, 2013 at 7:24 pm

    ALLAH MOST HIGH SAYS HE HAS SENT DOWN A CURE FOR EVERY DISEASE EXCEPT DEATH

  8. SayWhat

    January 3, 2013 at 7:55 pm

    I heard someone say, “HEALTHY is the new sexy”. I second that. Women, DO NOT rely on a man’s honesty (or lack thereof) to make a decision about using protection during sex. And, don’t let loneliness do your thinking for you. Sex is not worth sacrificing your health or your life for, no matter how fine you think he is or how provocative the sweet nothings are he’s whispering in your ear. If you catch anything, you have no one to blame but your poor judgment.

    • deech

      January 4, 2013 at 12:52 pm

      that’s real talk! agreed!

  9. Erica

    January 3, 2013 at 8:53 pm

    Just sad

  10. kash

    January 3, 2013 at 9:23 pm

    @ erica, if you are going to make a comment about there being a cure for a disease that is destroying lives, please have some sort of solid proof… otherwise you sound retarded. That mother is a victim, he took advantage of her in a vulnerable moment.

    • george

      January 4, 2013 at 12:07 am

      United States Patent 4,647,773 Gallo , et al. March 3, 1987 Method of continuous production of retroviruses (HTLV-III) from patients with AIDS and pre-AIDS Inventors: Gallo; Robert C. (Bethesda, MD), Popovic; Mikulas (Bethesda, MD) Assignee: The United States of America as represented by the Department of Health (Washington, DC) == The US government also invented the patented cure for AIDS, called Tetrasil (U.S. Patent Number 5676977)

    • deech

      January 4, 2013 at 12:54 pm

      she had just as much choice in the matter to protect herself, but she chose not to.

      i feel sorry for her and her family, but she was grown enough to have sex, which makes her equally at fault.

  11. chrystal

    January 4, 2013 at 3:15 am

    This is not all his fault. This is apart of an epidemic of woman allowing easy access to their bodies. Woman pay more attention to the next pair of shoes than they do on the next guy they sleep with. Then why wasn’t protection used? If it was not the HIV then this woman would have been the next pregnant woman for this guy. Then she would want us to feel sorry for her pregnancy.

    • Pinky

      January 4, 2013 at 3:58 pm

      Pregnancy is secondary. He was a coach who were suppose to be in charge of our children a couple hours a day in the week. We were trusting him with our children. I think this investigation needs to go further and stop focusing on this one lady. My heart goes out to her, but i think the investigation should go a little further. So the parents whose children were under his his care should start questioning their children. Nothing should be ruled out, because somebody hurt this man and he was out to hurt who ever.

  12. kimberly

    January 4, 2013 at 4:23 am

    Wow!And they only gave him 15 years and have the nerve to say @ least he wont be able to hurt anybody else any time soon.Well when then?When he gets out of jail?

  13. Nicquiunique

    January 4, 2013 at 7:05 am

    This is sad for everyone concerned especially within our community. This story reminds me why I’ve stayed celibate because this can happen to anyone at any time. I just can’t understand why someone who has contracted HIV Virus would want to inflict the suffering and pain of this disease on anybody else

  14. Betty

    January 4, 2013 at 2:37 pm

    Just spreading his infectious love around huh. Sisters be territorial and carefully guard your southern region. Otherwise some nasty mother-f****r will be red flagging it!

  15. Adjoa

    January 4, 2013 at 4:12 pm

    My heart goes out to this sister and her child. This man did not give her HIV…she took it from him by having unprotected sex. She needed to set an example for her child…not to have sex without marriage and definitely not unprotected.

    • arthur lee davis

      January 4, 2013 at 6:21 pm

      you are correct, in my opinion . those std’s have been with us for a few decades now . each person, gender being exempt, should protect his or her self, when taking on a new sexual partner . one writer here mentioned testing prior to the actual loving making ritual, which is an excellent suggestion, the problem is ” all hot and bothered,” does not always allow for rational thinking when it time ” to lets get it on.” therefore, abstaining should be paramount until ” the longer log that is going to put out the homefire,” can be tested, and those results are known to be valid as ascribed by the physician who has sworn those test were administered by his or her office .

      this old man, ” is just saying, also . the question now becomes can you dig it ?

  16. Leatha

    January 4, 2013 at 11:08 pm

    The only thing that I can say is WOW, I really feel sorry for her family It pays to be careful for nothing. All that shine is not gold. A stiff d==k don’t have a conscious and a hot whatever don’t have one either. It’s too late to close the gate after the cow is out or use a raincoat after you have gotten wet. I really feel sorry for her.

  17. rosemary davis

    January 6, 2013 at 12:49 pm

    You should be committing fornication in the first place this is the after effect and the fact that she put his wants over her own well being was irresponsible to say the least and I guess now she want sympathy well this is a wake up call for all men and women a like keep your legs closed and your pants zipped and this is a sure way too avoid this deadly disease.

  18. maji

    January 6, 2013 at 3:25 pm

    Pleasev enlighten me of the cure.. this dudebis sick

  19. Elaine

    January 6, 2013 at 7:39 pm

    So sad to hear; He only was thinking about himself! You just have to be careful these days; Both parties in dating or what ever you have to protect yourself; If you have to turn the lights on to exam body parts do it like you purchasing a new car look everything over! You would be saving your own life; Life is too pressure for his type of foolishness ! I hope she get’s good treatment …..

  20. Pam

    January 7, 2013 at 5:43 pm

    It is hard for me to understand in this day and time who would not use condoms, especially with a man you are having sex with for the first time. We as black women need to protect ourselves more and just say NO! He was WRONG WRONG, but she played a big part in this also!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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