Maria Lloyd: Ladies, Looks Aren’t Enough to Keep a Job
Photography by NHOPHOTOS; Chicago, IL
by Maria Lloyd
It seems there has been a surge in adulterous scandals resulting in large pay-offs to mistresses since the economy has tanked. Apparently, using your looks or v****a for financial security is the new “thing” to do. Sleeping with a married, successful man in hopes of soliciting the affair for a large amount of cash may sound intriguing- in theory. The reality is, your looks will only take you so far.
Now, if your goal is to be solely dependent upon another person for your financial well-being, disregard everything I’ve said. Your only hope is to marry rich and/or to become a mistress and hope for a large payout when you rat on the guy. If you wish to acquire wealth at your own expense, continue reading. I had a conversation with a top-level executive regarding ways women can accelerate their careers without having to use their looks and lose their dignity in the process.
Below are his recommendations for women who wish to excel in a sexist workplace without having to rely on their looks and/or their body:
1. Dress like a man.
I must admit, I initially frowned when he gave me this recommendation. My thinking was that he literally wants women to dress like a man, but I was wrong. He recommended wearing pants that are loose fitting around the hips, a collared shirt that is buttoned as to not show any cleavage, a blazer that has a loose fit but doesn’t appear to be too big, and closed-toe shoes. He said women who dress sexy for work are nothing more than a distraction and rarely ever accelerate their careers.
2. Cut the small talk.
He recommends having a sense of humor, but not allowing colleagues at work to become too comfortable with you. He mentioned seeing a plethora of women fall victim to the “she’s cool” conversation between males in the workplace- which often led to speculation and a bad rapport. He recommended keeping conversations about your personal life out of the workplace. Lastly, he said do not trust female coworkers, as she may be gossiping with a male coworker about your personal matters.
3. Always make your manager ‘look good’.
He recommended the quickest way to accelerate your career is to make sure your manager keeps a great rapport within the company. When your manager is known for being one of the best to do his/her job, you ultimately will be acknowledged for helping him/her acquire that rapport. He said to quickly learn your manager’s weaknesses and strengths so that you can help him/her excel in areas where he/she fails.
Mistresses who get into affairs for money are nothing more than refined prostitutes.
@Herman
You areexactly right. I do wonder though, if the writer of this article is referring to what “Whites” do, instead of what Blacks do. I can’t imagine an educated person becoming a “prostitute” after the slavery we have already endured.
The old ways seem to work best, black or white if you have all of the right attributes you know it and if so incline go for it!
I know of two black ladies “fine” who have at different companies had upper management come on to them, now these sisters have it going on knowledge wise and will go places without compromising them selves.
A woman who is less secure may have accepted the offer.
Stop hating! Good looks is already a show of intelligence for a black woman. Furthermore, when the first suggestion is to dress like a man- red flags should’ve went up for any truly self-respecting sister! Who wrote this a lesbian? A tranny? Or just a mean, dog-faced broad with no such options who is hates beauty and behind on her student loans? hahaha!
excuse the typo
The statement was not to dress like a man, the detailed clarification was to NOT wear booty hugging pants, and inappropriate cleavage revealing stuff in the workplace, and it seems to me that unless you’re selling booty for a living, it makes d**n good sense.
Agreed! In my profession (scientific research) this advice is spot on, especially if you’re already an attractive Black woman.
It’s like Advice you give to a Black Female Singer your already Beautiful & talented “Keep your Legs Closed” and the World is yours! What’s up with our people trying to use ignorance to Challenge Truth! It’s some New Fools on Deck lol If your a Professional Male or Females Especially be Buttoned up right to your Neck if your a Woman you’ll get respect! Your Clothing says everything about you in the Workplace! If your about something Dress like you got sense! I’m not a w***e! Why are you wearing a Ho’s Uniform? If you saw me in a Policeman’s Uniform I most likely am a Pig! Clean it up my peeps!