Dr. Boyce & Nomalanga: Poison Attracts Poison – Are You Healthy Enough for a Good Relationship?

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In this video, Dr. Boyce Watkins and Nomalanga Mhauli-Moses speak about the need for healthy relationships in our lives.  The two talk about the concern within the black community that the definition of normalcy has evolved to the point where African American children are not quite sure what a normal relationship even looks like.  The conversation goes into the value of remembering that you receive what you reflect and that developing your own dignity is one of the critical keys to getting what you want out of love and life.

Nomalanga Mhauli Moses is the reigning Mrs. Botswana and founder of the website  She gives advice and commentary to women on issues that relate to marriage, family and career.   Dr. Boyce Watkins is a Professor at Syracuse University and founder of The Your Black World Coalition.  He is an advocate for intellectual growth within the black community and personal development as a path to community and individual leadership.

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  1. Ormash

    July 18, 2012 at 4:19 pm

    One criteria for developing a healthy relationship is for both individuals to first have a temperament anlysis,then early in the relationship go to each others parents home, spend some time and observe, this more than likely will be your position down the road. Do you like what you see? Is it similar to yours? Can you survive in that environment? One day you will become your parent with some modifications.

    • mmdccbslm

      July 19, 2012 at 11:50 pm

      excellent comment.

  2. Usef Bey

    July 18, 2012 at 7:56 pm

    This is a Great srticle, and is on the forefront of socio-reconstructing the issues in a manner that is productive and insightful.

  3. Phillip Battle

    July 19, 2012 at 11:54 am

    Drugs—- mental illnesses, Black women more so employed,Black men unemployed or under employed, role reversal due to she makes more money- lack of education academically as well as socially- white Pickett fence syndrome-which poison are we referring too- the lower economically challenged- the newly arrived educated African American; who reach back and help his or her Brother or Sister’s – what a thought of us being able to be a part of a none toxic relationship that Intel’s raising the consciousness of ourselves so we’ll be able too pass it on to our children.

    Boycott Christmas 2012

  4. mmdccbslm

    July 19, 2012 at 11:52 pm

    great post, doctor and Noma.

  5. Rhonda G. Steward

    July 20, 2012 at 11:18 am

    I needed that a whole lot! For myself and others. I’m sending this love note to the ones I love. Thanks for sharing.

  6. tawanda

    July 22, 2012 at 12:14 pm

    some women and men have self-esteem problems that cause them to seek the wrong partners. because they may not have strong self-worth, they seek others to validate them somehow. even if that person treats them wrong, they don’t have enough strength to terminate the relationship because they don’t think they are worth anything.

  7. tawanda

    July 22, 2012 at 12:17 pm

    it is this that also keeps women and men in abusive relationship. I believe that if you stay with an abusive partner, you are more to blame for what happens than the abuser. you are equal partners in crime. how can you be blameless if you stay?

  8. ed wright

    August 8, 2012 at 7:27 am

    Excellent Topic.
    solution as stated in the reply visit the families of the person you are truly interested in and that will let you know who you are dealing with
    and the attitude and life that will be shared with person. not cut and dry, but is good indicator of who they are.

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